Are there single Christian girls in Finland ?

I sometimes feel like there are none. Religion is a thing of the elderly here. Its impossible to find a young girl of God here. Its impossible. Finland is one of the worlds most secularized countries and it only seems to be getting worse. Its hopeless. I will very probably die alone and depressed. But I really wish to have a good lovable wife. Im so full of passion. But I will have to accept this will likely stay a dream forever.

I have searched hard everywhere since college. A good couple of years. But never found ONE girl of my interest. Not a single one. Im not lying.

Churches here are nearly empty and there are only old people. Finland has the lowest church attendance rate in Europe. I always felt like I was the youngest person. I only remember a time when I talked with a guy younger than me. He was 26. We were first talking about religious stuff but somehow the topic of relationships appeared and he told me he was single too and never had a relationship with a girl. He had the same problems than me. He couldnt find a good Christian girl to start a relationship with. I also heard several guys in their thirties, forties and fifties with similar complaints. It seems singledom is pretty common among Christian and especially churchgoing guys here. Maybe the most affected demography in this aspect. Theres an huge shortage of Christian girls in Finland. Living as a devout Christian guy is worse than living as a disabled guy in Finland.

Another point is the rampant levels of sexual immorality here. Girls and boys losing virginity at 12 and girls having abortions at 14. Adultery destroying even the most religious and stable marriages. Heres the example of my uncle who has had a very happy marriage with four children for almost 25 years. Until he found out his wife had been cheating on him for years with a Somali guy she met in a dating site. She then accused falsely my uncle of going to nightclubs and soon they started to fight all the time, sometimes with violence. She even tried to kidnap the children, and one of the daughters attempted suicide. Now they are divorced and the lives of my uncle and my cousins ruined. This happened already long ago so it must be even worse today. My college was a literal brothel. Everyone sleeping with everyone. Really disgusting. I remember once entering toilet and suddenly noticing heavy breaths and movements coming from the other side of the room. I felt so embarassed. The noise clearly sounded like sex and stopped when I started to pee. I spent the rest of day thinking in what I heard in toilet. I remained silent about it and never told anything to anyone because I feared the guy would take revenge against me. Apparently the girl had a boyfriend judging by the voice I heard, but the guys voice was different from her boyfriends voice, so I caught her cheating ! Insane. But nothing strange as a survey named Finland as the most promiscuous country in the world. Yes, number 1 ! And worse, it seems the girls are even more so than the guys. In college I heard more guys complaining about their girlfriends infidelity than the reverse. What do you expect with Netflix series literally telling – im not lying – literally telling girls to cheat and have sex with all the classroom ? “Sleep with everyone, boys girls xyz, cheat on your husband or boyfriend, he deserves it, otherwise you are a sober prudish fascist puritan who fears her own body” This is the message girls get from TV and social media all the time. And worst of all, theres no strong church or norms capable of fighting this degeneracy. Just sewage.

While theres not much I can do, I really wish to make my dream a reality. But I know its highly unlikely. I sometimes think I need some Christian help and advice because I find myself sometimes doubting my own faith. Its hard for me to accept this but, my mental health is not very good. Or maybe just my way of being, who knows. But I need help. I just cant with this, I cant. I cant with this anymore. Please help. Help. Thank you. Kauko.

I sometimes feel like there are none. Religion is a thing of the elderly here. Its impossible to find a young girl of God here. Its impossible. Finland is one of the worlds most secularized countries and it only seems to be getting worse. Its hopeless. I will very probably die alone and depressed. But I really wish to have a good lovable wife. Im so full of passion. But I will have to accept this will likely stay a dream forever.

I have searched hard everywhere since college. A good couple of years. But never found ONE girl of my interest. Not a single one. Im not lying.

Churches here are nearly empty and there are only old people. Finland has the lowest church attendance rate in Europe. I always felt like I was the youngest person. I only remember a time when I talked with a guy younger than me. He was 26. We were first talking about religious stuff but somehow the topic of relationships appeared and he told me he was single too and never had a relationship with a girl. He had the same problems than me. He couldnt find a good Christian girl to start a relationship with. I also heard several guys in their thirties, forties and fifties with similar complaints. It seems singledom is pretty common among Christian and especially churchgoing guys here. Maybe the most affected demography in this aspect. Theres an huge shortage of Christian girls in Finland. Living as a devout Christian guy is worse than living as a disabled guy in Finland.

Another point is the rampant levels of sexual immorality here. Girls and boys losing virginity at 12 and girls having abortions at 14. Adultery destroying even the most religious and stable marriages. Heres the example of my uncle who has had a very happy marriage with four children for almost 25 years. Until he found out his wife had been cheating on him for years with a Somali guy she met in a dating site. She then accused falsely my uncle of going to nightclubs and soon they started to fight all the time, sometimes with violence. She even tried to kidnap the children, and one of the daughters attempted suicide. Now they are divorced and the lives of my uncle and my cousins ruined. This happened already long ago so it must be even worse today. My college was a literal brothel. Everyone sleeping with everyone. Really disgusting. I remember once entering toilet and suddenly noticing heavy breaths and movements coming from the other side of the room. I felt so embarassed. The noise clearly sounded like sex and stopped when I started to pee. I spent the rest of day thinking in what I heard in toilet. I remained silent about it and never told anything to anyone because I feared the guy would take revenge against me. Apparently the girl had a boyfriend judging by the voice I heard, but the guys voice was different from her boyfriends voice, so I caught her cheating ! Insane. But nothing strange as a survey named Finland as the most promiscuous country in the world. Yes, number 1 ! And worse, it seems the girls are even more so than the guys. In college I heard more guys complaining about their girlfriends infidelity than the reverse. What do you expect with Netflix series literally telling – im not lying – literally telling girls to cheat and have sex with all the classroom ? “Sleep with everyone, boys girls xyz, cheat on your husband or boyfriend, he deserves it, otherwise you are a sober prudish fascist puritan who fears her own body” This is the message girls get from TV and social media all the time. And worst of all, theres no strong church or norms capable of fighting this degeneracy. Just sewage.

While theres not much I can do, I really wish to make my dream a reality. But I know its highly unlikely. I sometimes think I need some Christian help and advice because I find myself sometimes doubting my own faith. Its hard for me to accept this but, my mental health is not very good. Or maybe just my way of being, who knows. But I need help. I just cant with this, I cant. I cant with this anymore. Please help. Help. Thank you. Kauko.

I sometimes feel like there are none. Religion is a thing of the elderly here. Its impossible to find a young girl of God here. Its impossible. Finland is one of the worlds most secularized countries and it only seems to be getting worse. Its hopeless. I will very probably die alone and depressed. But I really wish to have a good lovable wife. Im so full of passion. But I will have to accept this will likely stay a dream forever.

I have searched hard everywhere since college. A good couple of years. But never found ONE girl of my interest. Not a single one. Im not lying.

Churches here are nearly empty and there are only old people. Finland has the lowest church attendance rate in Europe. I always felt like I was the youngest person. I only remember a time when I talked with a guy younger than me. He was 26. We were first talking about religious stuff but somehow the topic of relationships appeared and he told me he was single too and never had a relationship with a girl. He had the same problems than me. He couldnt find a good Christian girl to start a relationship with. I also heard several guys in their thirties, forties and fifties with similar complaints. It seems singledom is pretty common among Christian and especially churchgoing guys here. Maybe the most affected demography in this aspect. Theres an huge shortage of Christian girls in Finland. Living as a devout Christian guy is worse than living as a disabled guy in Finland.

Another point is the rampant levels of sexual immorality here. Girls and boys losing virginity at 12 and girls having abortions at 14. Adultery destroying even the most religious and stable marriages. Heres the example of my uncle who has had a very happy marriage with four children for almost 25 years. Until he found out his wife had been cheating on him for years with a Somali guy she met in a dating site. She then accused falsely my uncle of going to nightclubs and soon they started to fight all the time, sometimes with violence. She even tried to kidnap the children, and one of the daughters attempted suicide. Now they are divorced and the lives of my uncle and my cousins ruined. This happened already long ago so it must be even worse today. My college was a literal brothel. Everyone sleeping with everyone. Really disgusting. I remember once entering toilet and suddenly noticing heavy breaths and movements coming from the other side of the room. I felt so embarassed. The noise clearly sounded like sex and stopped when I started to pee. I spent the rest of day thinking in what I heard in toilet. I remained silent about it and never told anything to anyone because I feared the guy would take revenge against me. Apparently the girl had a boyfriend judging by the voice I heard, but the guys voice was different from her boyfriends voice, so I caught her cheating ! Insane. But nothing strange as a survey named Finland as the most promiscuous country in the world. Yes, number 1 ! And worse, it seems the girls are even more so than the guys. In college I heard more guys complaining about their girlfriends infidelity than the reverse. What do you expect with Netflix series literally telling – im not lying – literally telling girls to cheat and have sex with all the classroom ? “Sleep with everyone, boys girls xyz, cheat on your husband or boyfriend, he deserves it, otherwise you are a sober prudish fascist puritan who fears her own body” This is the message girls get from TV and social media all the time. And worst of all, theres no strong church or norms capable of fighting this degeneracy. Just sewage.

While theres not much I can do, I really wish to make my dream a reality. But I know its highly unlikely. I sometimes think I need some Christian help and advice because I find myself sometimes doubting my own faith. Its hard for me to accept this but, my mental health is not very good. Or maybe just my way of being, who knows. But I need help. I just cant with this, I cant. I cant with this anymore. Please help. Help. Thank you. Kauko.

But remember that marriage causes more problems than it solves.

The issue here is on what you place focus on. The more you emphasize marriage the more miserable you're making Yourself. Marriage is not promised, yet many people seem to expect it, as if it's owed to them. Not the case.
Or if it does happen it may not happen on your time. I have a cousin who was nearly 60 before he got married. He wanted to be married earlier, but it didn't happen.
I'm 45, never married.

It seems common that people tend to view marriage as a fix to their lives, but that's not always true. Marriage is intended to be a place where two people sacrifice themselves for the other, but since so few understand that few people go into marriage with the right attitude. And going by the mindset you're expressing I'm guessing your attitude isn't "a chance to sacrifice for another", but rather one of getting your own needs and wants met. So that's setting up for failure.

All in all I'd suggest reevaluating your intentions on marriage as well as the emphasis you place on it. Utilize the advantages being single have to offer. And if, one day, you do ever marry, hopefully by then you'll be in a better place to appreciate marriage for what it is and not what you expect it to be.

The Finns (as well as other Europeans in general) are generally very comfortable with nudity. This in itself is quite contrary to Christianity, which values modesty. I think the European attitude toward nudity explains in part why they might also be very open in their sexuality. It goes back to culture.

Well logically if there are no Christian girls in Finland and you want to find a Christian girl then you will have to look outside of Finland. And it's not just Finland but many places in the world where young people are losing faith in many of the structures that used to hold society together including religion.

Dude! Why do you keep arguing with people? Just because they say something you don't want to hear does not automatically make them wrong.

Subhumanoidal and cinder particularly are on point, and particularly you have argued with. You really should listen to them. They are more right than you can imagine.

But in Finland it is worse than in other countries. I once heard Finland had the widest age gap on religiosity out of all European countries. Finland has the lowest church attendance rate in the continent as well. France and UK doubles our attendance rate and Germany nearly triplies it. Even Norways rate is higher. There are no countries where it is harder to find a Christian girl than Finland. Well, except for maybe Saudi Arabia and such kind of places. But excluding the non-Christian world, very probably.

So do you want options? Do you just want to complain? Or is this one of those 95% of the time you're fine with it but this is one of those 5% moments when it's just really getting you down and you need to vent a bit?

It's a cultural, religious, and economic collapse. That's how I see it anyways. Marriage is for rich people, not for the average folk, another opinion of mine. I think both men and woman are exhausted generally and marriage will only bring about more problems, financial, and emotional strain.

Marriage is a privilege, not a right of passage, or coming to age. You want to see your luck with woman drastically change, become amazingly rich, or just financially independent, and watch your luck change.

I think a good rule to live by is, make sure that the person you are seeing is in the same financial class as you are. If you marry a woman that is far less wealthy, than you are, then you are putting yourself in a huge risk, if there is a divorce.

My honest opinion, find a woman that is far more wealthy than you are, that is really the only insurance you have, for not going to the cleaners at divorce. I say, flip the mechanics, to test true love.

The views expressed here are just my opinion, and there may be exceptions to the rule. If woman aren't interested in you, it's most likely that you just aren't super attractive, or financially beneficial to them. If you want to marry though, that is your choice entirely. Ask around and see, if what I say, is true or not.

What option ? Searching outside ? Where ? There are so maaany places in the world and Im not willing to go to most of these.

I just so happen to know a single Christian woman in Finland. Seems to depend which part of Finland you live in as to whether or not there is anyone who wants to date. I don't think the church attendance situation is as dire as you say, but again that probably depends where in Finland you are.

Finland has it's own Bible Belt and they did have a drastic decrease in church attendance due to the covid-19 pandemic, but I think the situation is returning to normal pre-pandemic status.

Surprising. Im a native Finnish and never knew any. I believe you but its strange. How old she is ? Where does she live ? How did you knew her ? Not because I want to date her or anything. I dont want to date online.