Homosexual Brother In Law

Hello there. I have myself quite a situation. My wife’s brother is a Homosexual and recently got “married” to his partner in California. The ceremony was private due to covid but now that the restrictions are gone they want to have a larger reception in October and want us there. I’m torn on this cause they are nice people but there is something telling me not to go. I have this feeling that I would be engaging in celebration of someone’s sin which I’m very against. It also concerns me about the example I’m setting for my 5 year old boy. He would be watching daddy compromise his beliefs and watching daddy essentially celebrate sin. Am I thinking on this the wrong way as a Christian man, husband and father? If I stand against this lead my family as God intended and refuse to attend it will absolutely make family members very angry and disappointed in me. It’s probably going to add stress to an already weak marriage of mine cause my wife believes she needs to be there for her brother. This isn’t the first issue we have had regarding the Homosexual brother in law. My wife’s family is also pushing us to allow the Homosexual couple to be my sons legal guardian/ godparents if we were to pass on. My wife thinks it’s a great idea but I’m not ok with this because I believe that as a father I have the duty to give my son the best chance at living in a Christian household with a strong masculine husband and wife marriage. I have a brother who is married but my wife doesn’t get along with them. She has a sister with a husband but she has that one out of the question as well. I’m trying to get out ahead of this before it becomes all a big train wreck but I keep stumbling. Please help. How do I lead my family through this mess? If nothing else please pray for us.

Yes, we need God's wisdom in this kind of situation. We need to remember that "bad company corrupts good morals" and homosexuality is sin.

I have personal experience of this kind of situation. I married a woman of mixed race. She had more or less disowned her family except for one brother. He died tragically and she wanted to go to the funeral. A number of us advised her not to go, but she was adamant.

Her sister was a lesbian aboriginal activist. I came home from work one day to find a house full of strangers. I called one of them "mate" before I realised "he" was really a "she". It created a great strain on our relationship, which ended in divorce a few years later. It was not the only reason, but it sure did not help.

I wonder why there are homosexuals, whether it's because they don't believe in love, or because men think women are unreliable, women think men are unreliable,
When I wasn't clear about homosexuality,
I won't give you any advice,
Or you can see my signature,

Hi...
I pray that you are being led by the Holy Spirit on these matters , and may it be Him who is showing you that He does not want you to go...
Jesus did say He came to separate father from sons , daughter-in-laws , mother and daughters etc...
Fear God and not man the bible says...
I agree that you are to set a good example to your son , by showing him that you stand on the word of God...
My daughters 30th birthday party is tonight , but I am not going...The room will be filled with people getting drunk , women in short shorts , and not the ideal music playing...
It is hard to make choices , but when we make them for Gods way , all will work out in the end , regardless what people may think...

Trust in the LORD , with all your heart , and lean not on your own understanding...
In all your ways acknowledge Him , and He will direct your paths...
...xox...

Hello there. I have myself quite a situation. My wife’s brother is a Homosexual and recently got “married” to his partner in California. The ceremony was private due to covid but now that the restrictions are gone they want to have a larger reception in October and want us there. I’m torn on this cause they are nice people but there is something telling me not to go. I have this feeling that I would be engaging in celebration of someone’s sin which I’m very against. It also concerns me about the example I’m setting for my 5 year old boy. He would be watching daddy compromise his beliefs and watching daddy essentially celebrate sin. Am I thinking on this the wrong way as a Christian man, husband and father? If I stand against this lead my family as God intended and refuse to attend it will absolutely make family members very angry and disappointed in me. It’s probably going to add stress to an already weak marriage of mine cause my wife believes she needs to be there for her brother. This isn’t the first issue we have had regarding the Homosexual brother in law. My wife’s family is also pushing us to allow the Homosexual couple to be my sons legal guardian/ godparents if we were to pass on. My wife thinks it’s a great idea but I’m not ok with this because I believe that as a father I have the duty to give my son the best chance at living in a Christian household with a strong masculine husband and wife marriage. I have a brother who is married but my wife doesn’t get along with them. She has a sister with a husband but she has that one out of the question as well. I’m trying to get out ahead of this before it becomes all a big train wreck but I keep stumbling. Please help. How do I lead my family through this mess? If nothing else please pray for us.

Hello there. I have myself quite a situation. My wife’s brother is a Homosexual and recently got “married” to his partner in California. The ceremony was private due to covid but now that the restrictions are gone they want to have a larger reception in October and want us there. I’m torn on this cause they are nice people but there is something telling me not to go. I have this feeling that I would be engaging in celebration of someone’s sin which I’m very against. It also concerns me about the example I’m setting for my 5 year old boy. He would be watching daddy compromise his beliefs and watching daddy essentially celebrate sin. Am I thinking on this the wrong way as a Christian man, husband and father? If I stand against this lead my family as God intended and refuse to attend it will absolutely make family members very angry and disappointed in me. It’s probably going to add stress to an already weak marriage of mine cause my wife believes she needs to be there for her brother. This isn’t the first issue we have had regarding the Homosexual brother in law. My wife’s family is also pushing us to allow the Homosexual couple to be my sons legal guardian/ godparents if we were to pass on. My wife thinks it’s a great idea but I’m not ok with this because I believe that as a father I have the duty to give my son the best chance at living in a Christian household with a strong masculine husband and wife marriage. I have a brother who is married but my wife doesn’t get along with them. She has a sister with a husband but she has that one out of the question as well. I’m trying to get out ahead of this before it becomes all a big train wreck but I keep stumbling. Please help. How do I lead my family through this mess? If nothing else please pray for us.

Thankyou Gideon300. It helps to know I’m not the only person who has been or is going through this sort of thing. Of all the problems and situations I thought I’d face as a married man this is perhaps one I never once considered. It’s a weird uneasy feeling coming up to this issue and I’ve felt so alone in trying to figure this out. I’ve prayed about it a lot the last few months since we got the invitation and feel God nudging me to seek the council of others in Christ so I Thankyou again for your input.

I wonder why there are homosexuals, whether it's because they don't believe in love, or because men think women are unreliable, women think men are unreliable,
When I wasn't clear about homosexuality,
I won't give you any advice,
Or you can see my signature,

I have a couple of questions:

If your brother-in-law was an alcoholic and booze would be served at the reception, would you go?
If the reception was held at casino, would you go?
Would you still be concerned about the impact on your son?

I am not sure your issues about your son are that significant right now. What message are you really trying to send to him? It’s going to take a great deal more than this reception to teach him Christian values. At some point he also needs to learn about love and grace and forgiveness and even the truth and assurance of Gods judgement. This may be a means to demonstrate those lessons but at 5 he is not really going to process much. What message will your refusal to attend send to him? What happens If there is a major family fracture over this issue? If you and your wife continue to struggle with this for the next few years; and that sounds like a real possibility, what will he learn?

Many of us have faced similar situations. We try to express love for the sinner even while making it clear we do not agree with their decisions. This needs to happen face-to-face before the reception and in private. It will be difficult and painful and may not provide instant resolution, but in my experience this stance is the only one that does not end in disaster for everyone. It may take time but relationships do develop on love and honesty.

Please consider carefully the message you really need to send.

What happens If there is a major family fracture over this issue?

Hello tstumf,

Your concern is spot on! Your situation is perfect example of the Lord's command to take up our crosses daily.

When we attend a marriage, everyone is there to celebrate and congratulate the couple and their new life together. Just by showing up there you would be supporting their detestable union, which is no union at all in God's eyes.

Remember that Jude reminds us about the cities of Sodom and Gomorrah that were destroyed by fire and serve as a warning of the eternal fire of God’s judgment. How can you sake their hands and give them hugs and congratulate them, when you don't really mean it and that because it is against God?

I know that it is a hard spot to be in, but as believer in Christ, you cannot support them or wish them well, because by doing so you would be condoning their actions.

This situation would also fall under the following:

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Do not assume that I have come to bring peace to the earth; I have not come to bring peace, but a sword (division). For I have come to turn

‘a man against his father, a daughter against her mother, a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law.

A man’s enemies will be the members of his own household.’

Anyone who loves his father or mother more than Me is not worthy of Me; anyone who loves his son or daughter more than Me is not worthy of Me; and anyone who does not take up his cross and follow Me is not worthy of Me.

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Taking up our cross, means to take our stand for Christ regardless of the circumstances, even in the threat of persecution and death.

Are you gonna take your stand for Christ and His word or compromise? That is the situation that God has allowed you to be confronted with and I'm pretty sure that it is to test your faith.

I'll keep you in prayer, brother.

You have to stick to your beliefs. Just as they (the couple) live by theirs.
Show then respect whenever you meet. Maybe your wife will prefer u to be firm[/QUOTE

Thankyou

People respect a firm gentleman. No one likes a whinging 'nice guy'