Why Does Society Seem to Think That Cougars... Should Be Shot? (Older Woman and Younger Men.)

A male will always want to protect his offspring

i dont think thats necessarily true, and there seem to be heaps of scenarios where the male just stands by while their girlfriend or even wife gets an abortion because he cant afford or doesnt want to be responsible.

even after birth, some only stick around until they find someone else to go off with. I think there is less chance a male looks after female offspring than male though. A lot of dads will abandon their daughters over their sons.

I would say that the guys but acting such way are lacking in some masculine energies otherwise it's unnatural for them to not protect their offspring even if if they are are not with just one female.

Hey Everyone,

I was reading an article about the singer, Madonna, who was basically the original "Lady Gaga" when I was a kid, is apparently 62 years old -- and dating a 27-year-old.

The article then proceeded to talk about all the flack she is getting for this, and how society seems to readily accept 62-year-old men dating 27-year-old women, but for some reason, throw a fit when it's the other way around.

Why do you think this is?

I have had regular contact with older relatives all of my life, and in their social circles, the single women all say, "The men our age are looking for a nurse, or a purse." Apparently, they are claiming that men want someone to care for them as their health falters, and/or someone to support them and pay for their cost of living.

Now I can't speak for everyone, but I have also seen this in the churches I've attended (granted, the congregations are often mostly 60 and older,) as well as on Christian dating sites.

I don't want to be someone who roots my belief in stereotypes but I don't want to be completely naive to reality, either.

* If so many men are looking for younger partners and it has become somewhat accepted, why isn't the same thing considered acceptable for women?

(Or maybe it is, and I just haven't met the people who think so?)

Our whole society seems to be obsessed with youth, and even Christians are hopping on the bandwagon.

* Why should (or shouldn't) there be a double standards when it comes to whom the age brackets men and women look for?

As a woman who has experienced a little of both -- being asked out both by men who are 40 years older and a few who are 20 years younger -- I can see some of the pro's and con's to heading in either direction.

What about all of you?

I would love to hear your thoughts and experiences about this topic!

As someone who progressively dated younger men through the years, I have had all sorts of ugly words thrown at me. The men weren't the best either.....all in all it is a hypocritical perspective that we can only work around with God in the midst of it. If a wonderful Godly young man is mature enough to handle an older partner as his wife, then hallelujah! Having said that, it is hard enough to meet sane, wholesome, healthy Christian born again men let alone ones that are younger than us! I speak as an older woman who is often mistaken for a much younger woman. The current glamorising of our Christian Youth and the shenanigans of the subsequent youth groups do not help the late bloomers in the faith. There are so many dimensions to this issue, we are not even scratching the surface. I came to faith from Islam, after some pretty unwise choices and moves. Thank God He is a great Redeemer and brings beauty from ashes. I am in no way jaded or unattractive but in the Christian dating world, I am potentially only suitable for certain kind of men whatever that means, thereby limiting me to only a certain group of men while writing off others completely. This is pretty much the view people have imposed on me. So I have decided being single and content is the best way forward! Will reserve my fire and passion for the Lord! Young men or otherwise! haha

As someone who progressively dated younger men through the years, I have had all sorts of ugly words thrown at me. The men weren't the best either.....all in all it is a hypocritical perspective that we can only work around with God in the midst of it. If a wonderful Godly young man is mature enough to handle an older partner as his wife, then hallelujah! Having said that, it is hard enough to meet sane, wholesome, healthy Christian born again men let alone ones that are younger than us! I speak as an older woman who is often mistaken for a much younger woman. The current glamorising of our Christian Youth and the shenanigans of the subsequent youth groups do not help the late bloomers in the faith. There are so many dimensions to this issue, we are not even scratching the surface. I came to faith from Islam, after some pretty unwise choices and moves. Thank God He is a great Redeemer and brings beauty from ashes. I am in no way jaded or unattractive but in the Christian dating world, I am potentially only suitable for certain kind of men whatever that means, thereby limiting me to only a certain group of men while writing off others completely. This is pretty much the view people have imposed on me. So I have decided being single and content is the best way forward! Will reserve my fire and passion for the Lord! Young men or otherwise! haha

A lot of men feel that if the woman is making good money, the man doesn't need to contribute towards the child and the child is "her problem." However, I believe this attitude is changing, perhaps due to the "feminization" of men, as a lot of fathers genuinely want to be involved in their kids' lives now whereas before the men commonly do a runner. Or, maybe this is due to the availability of DNA tests. When a man knows a child is "his" he is more likely to pay.

Hey Everyone,

I was reading an article about the singer, Madonna, who was basically the original "Lady Gaga" when I was a kid, is apparently 62 years old -- and dating a 27-year-old.

The article then proceeded to talk about all the flack she is getting for this, and how society seems to readily accept 62-year-old men dating 27-year-old women, but for some reason, throw a fit when it's the other way around.

Why do you think this is?

I have had regular contact with older relatives all of my life, and in their social circles, the single women all say, "The men our age are looking for a nurse, or a purse." Apparently, they are claiming that men want someone to care for them as their health falters, and/or someone to support them and pay for their cost of living.

Now I can't speak for everyone, but I have also seen this in the churches I've attended (granted, the congregations are often mostly 60 and older,) as well as on Christian dating sites.

I don't want to be someone who roots my belief in stereotypes but I don't want to be completely naive to reality, either.

* If so many men are looking for younger partners and it has become somewhat accepted, why isn't the same thing considered acceptable for women?

(Or maybe it is, and I just haven't met the people who think so?)

Our whole society seems to be obsessed with youth, and even Christians are hopping on the bandwagon.

* Why should (or shouldn't) there be a double standards when it comes to whom the age brackets men and women look for?

As a woman who has experienced a little of both -- being asked out both by men who are 40 years older and a few who are 20 years younger -- I can see some of the pro's and con's to heading in either direction.

What about all of you?

I would love to hear your thoughts and experiences about this topic!

It all has to do with how one defines themselves. If I see myself as a sexy young man, even in my fifties, I will find a mate to verify that, like a hot younger woman. If I see myself as someone who needs a caregiver, perhaps I will seek a motherly older woman. Others who are more sociopathic just see people as objects and find ones that they can use and manipulate.

Hey Everyone,

I was reading an article about the singer, Madonna, who was basically the original "Lady Gaga" when I was a kid, is apparently 62 years old -- and dating a 27-year-old.

The article then proceeded to talk about all the flack she is getting for this, and how society seems to readily accept 62-year-old men dating 27-year-old women, but for some reason, throw a fit when it's the other way around.

Why do you think this is?

I have had regular contact with older relatives all of my life, and in their social circles, the single women all say, "The men our age are looking for a nurse, or a purse." Apparently, they are claiming that men want someone to care for them as their health falters, and/or someone to support them and pay for their cost of living.

Now I can't speak for everyone, but I have also seen this in the churches I've attended (granted, the congregations are often mostly 60 and older,) as well as on Christian dating sites.

I don't want to be someone who roots my belief in stereotypes but I don't want to be completely naive to reality, either.

* If so many men are looking for younger partners and it has become somewhat accepted, why isn't the same thing considered acceptable for women?

(Or maybe it is, and I just haven't met the people who think so?)

Our whole society seems to be obsessed with youth, and even Christians are hopping on the bandwagon.

* Why should (or shouldn't) there be a double standards when it comes to whom the age brackets men and women look for?

As a woman who has experienced a little of both -- being asked out both by men who are 40 years older and a few who are 20 years younger -- I can see some of the pro's and con's to heading in either direction.

What about all of you?

I would love to hear your thoughts and experiences about this topic!

If we read the Bible, David was given a young virgin to walk naked in front of him to warm his blood just before he died.

1 Kings 1:1 Now King David was old and well along in years, and though they covered him with
blankets, he could not keep warm. 2 So his servants said to him, “Let us search for a young virgin
for our lord the king, to attend to him and care for him and lie by his side to keep him warm.”