I have a lot of problems so I always think anyone w/ a brain wouldn't want to marry me. But that has kind of worked out for me bc I don't really (most of the time) want to be married anyway. in fact marriage scares me since... well, does anyone REALLY know anyone? I remember the story of how Ted Bundy's girlfriend didn't have a clue what he was doing when he was away... not sure I buy that? I mean, she must have at least sensed that something (spiritually) was... off. But anyway, I've been in relationships where it always seems to happen: you find out one day that the person u thought u knew was... someone u don't know... not in a hurry to go THERE again...
Phsychopaths are master manipulators. Look at John Wayne Gacy, he was a children's clown and often had high levels friends, such as mayor's.
Bundy married into a wealthy family by lying about his own wealth. So he managed to convince what was likely a suspicious father of his motives and wealth.
How about the BTK killer? He was never caught, but decades later he started killing again. When they finally caught him he was a deacon at a church and married.
This false notion that someone should be suspicious "at least spiritually" doesn't float either. These people are Masters of deception and spend their whole lives learning how to fit in and be viewed how they wish.
And most people are bad at detecting lies. Nor do most people suspect or want to entertain the idea that who they're with is a killer, for obvious reasons. People are more likely, understandably, to suspect adultery or something more commonplace.
Mostly, though, the spouse is safe. Psychopaths tend to not be able to develop bonds with people, but there is usually one exception. A spouse or a child. At least in the case of serial killers.
If you don't want to be married why are you here fishing for compliments and reassurance that you're fine and have no reason to worry? Seems to me if you Actually didn't care you wouldn't be bringing this up.
More likely you Do care, but pretend not to because you're so deeply insecure.
There are people so overweight they literally cannot take care of themselves. People with random disabilities. Deformities. Mental illness. And they find people. And there are normal, healthy attractive people who are alone.
Granted some things do decrease your chances, but that also means that if/when you do find someone it's likely to be more genuine.
I've known people with some serious issues that found someone. I, myself, feel I have so much wrong that who'd want me? But currently I am dating an amazing woman whose love for me is unexplainable. Yet it's there. And she makes it obvious every day. And she, too, has issues that made her feel the same way about herself, yet I love her deeply as well.
So, it can happen.
This whole "does anyone ever really know someone" attitude is one I used to have. But you could say that about anyone and everyone around you.
I used to sit at a restaurant every night. After about a year it came out one of the night cooks broke into a families house and tried to murder them with an axe.
So unless you plan on locking yourself away, life has risks. Something you have to live with.
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