God and his very clear words are now the big bully and spiritual abuser
1 Corinthians 14:33-35KJV
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For God is not the author of confusion, but of peace, as in all churches of the saints.
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Let your women keep silence in the churches: for it is not permitted unto them to speak; but they are commanded to be under obedience as also saith the law.
35 And if they will learn any thing, let them ask their husbands at home:
for it is a shame for women to speak in the church.
I saw the very type of situation that Paul was dealing with in writing these verses. I was in an afternoon fellowship meeting with a speaker. There was a woman in the group constantly interrupting the speaker with one question after another, that became very frustrating to the point where I wanted to say, "For goodness sake shut up and let the speaker get on with it!"
I tending toward the view that what Paul defined as prophesying was actually different speakers sharing what the Holy Spirit had given them for the service, in the form of inspiring and encouraging words, and insights into Scripture. What was happening was the speakers were being continually interrupted by women asking question after question to the point of frustration on the part of the speakers and other listeners who wished that these women would hold their tongues to let the speakers get on with what they had to say. This is linked to Paul saying, "Let them ask their husbands at home."
The situation did not involve preaching or teaching at all. In 1 Corinthians 11, Paul supports women prophesying in meetings, that is, giving inspiring words of encouragement and upbuilding for the other members. So, Paul is not contradicting himself in 1 Corinthians 14.
I had the same experience as a speaker at a conference day where one or two kept on interrupting with their own views, and instead of my teaching session taking just 40 minutes or so, it ended up taking over an hour, and I think the points I was making were lost in the interruptions, one which took around five minutes.
I heard of a speaker encountering the same type of interruptions and he stopped the guy and said, "The lights are on me, and I am holding the microphone, so when you get to hold the microphone then you can have your say." That shut the interrupter up for the rest of the teaching session.
Another speaker I heard told the group to keep their questions to the end of the session, or to write their questions on a slip of paper, and it will be dealt with at the start of the next teaching session. That worked well in that conference, and subsequently in a conference that I led.
This type of interrupting speakers with questions, fits right in line with 1 Corinthians 14:34-35, and do not refer to women speakers in churches at all. It deals with women interrupting speakers with questions they could ask their husbands at home.