Fully singleness

Being single is the preparation time. Prepare our Character and also attitude. Enjoy this season til God bring whose the best for us. 😊😇

It could be; it could also be that some of us never marry, then what purpose should we pursue while being single?

I dunno... preparation time for what? Being single is go-time! Go do stuff, things that you would have to clear with your spouse if you were married. Hang gliding, mountain climbing, motocross racing, eating half a gallon of ice cream, staying out late playing cards with some close friends...

Any downtime is preparation time - sleeping, studying, learning a new skill you think will be useful, all of that is preparation done in your downtime.

But if you consider single time as preparation time, that implies single time is relationship "downtime" of a sort. That only applies if you intend to find a partner. Now for some this may be true. For others, single time is the whole life, not downtime.

Thank you all. 😇

Whoa ..... wait a minute. It's nice of you to say thanks, but you made the statement that singleness IS the preparation time. So, you don't get off that easy. You said our character and attitude are the things being prepared. So, what do you mean by that? Are single people's character and attitude flawed? Or not complete or mature? What kind of preparation does a single person need for their character and attitude?

welcome to the singles forum Ranny...................

Being married is preparation time too, but as @Lynx has asked, preparation for what? Glad to have you join us. Welcome to CC.

You can read what I mean. That is a preparation time. Prepare ur character. There are alot of couple who married without character preparation. Of course, there isn't in bible talk about singleness they talk about engagement. Most important thing about character mould. For me, that is important. That is okay, everyone has opinion.
I don't mean If I would be a single forever. For me, being single is to prepare our character also we should fully in God through character until we meet someone. Have a great day.

I've teleworked for the past six months, also probably for the next six months. Grateful to be single now as I'm staying at my parents who live out of state and to spend time with them. If I was married, this would not be possible!

That means 'I am overprepared already?' Lol i am 42 😅😉

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Coz I am a leader in single church community . Some of my pastor teaches us to enjoy this singleness season. Coz, time never come back. If we're self pitty or blame our self. It would be hard when God prepare us for married. Sorry, that what I've learn in my community church. That is ok, everyone has prespective.

Terima kasih kakak. 😊😇

To respond to relationship threads in CC Singles Forum obviously.

I find it informative to watch how singles try to get ready for marriage, watch how married people try to hold it together, than watch divorced people, try to get remarried. It's better than television. Marriage is best viewed from the sidelines in my opinion.

Real life is so much more entertaining than Hollywood. It hasn't always been that way, but choosing to single now, has given me so much peace, that it would be a crime to want to change that.

Singles could pray more, try to be more active in ministry, have more work/life balance, and also enjoy more time for hobbies.

just wondering, is this a question, or a statement ?

yea I dont really get this thread
I wonder if you are coupled up, that just means you are half single and not fully single.

Pity those poor people, who are only half.

"I'm sorry. I can't date you. I'm overqualified for this position."

While that is amusing, it is also uncomfortably close to the truth. A lot of people look for a spouse the way a manager would look for an employee. "Do they meet x, y and z qualifications? Can they do the job adequately?"

I understand what you mean 😊

I've done it many times I still fall into it, it is destructive when we get stuck in self-pity...truth Adik selfpity takes away the joy in our hearts. Don't say sorry you did nothing wrong I was just joking 😂Terima kasih banyak for sharing Adik.

I'll see you around the forums

As my friend said, as I asked her what she looks for in a guy: not too poor, not too dumb, not too ugly, and not too old. While what she said doesn't sound stringent on the surface, she is in fact picky when you think about it.

I am not sure why OP got so many negative and questioning reactions, but to me it makes perfect sense!

That is how I see my "season" of singleness, too. A time of preparation for when I finally meet the one the Lord wants me to be with.

I've struggled with having faith when it comes to marriage, but I believe the Lord has told me several times that He has prepared someone for me. And that He is preparing me for that person.

Whether that is just me being delusional or truly what the Lord has spoken to me, doesn't really make a difference, because my personal "preparation" has to do with relying on God for my needs and learning to be truly emotionally independent. So either way, it's something that I need to learn in life, regardless if I'll remain single or be married one day. : )

God bless you @Ranny and everyone else. Whether you are waiting expectantly or not waiting at all, haha.

hmm thats good He hasnt told me anything about this mythical 'one' lol

I think Ive bypassed the wedding on earth bit (maybe just other peoples weddings? that thankfully I dont need to organise, or pay for) for the eternal wedding supper in Heaven.

I once thought this way. I too am surprised at the negative reactions.


I think there's a lot more to it and this "season" is something like a class. You "can" keep retaking it and glean a little more each time but I'm not convinced that I am not married because I am not fully ready for marriage. Maybe it's true and I have given a lot more thought to the subject and a much longer post has been "snipped" because now I'm uncertain.

I definitely thought this for about 15 years and my views have certainly developed on what marriage is and "how" I have been prepared but I'm "pretty" ready I think. Not as ready as I'll ever be, but I feel like I've been trying for years to get an extra credit answer correct in this "class" and I "may" have stayed single much longer than necessary. Hard to tell, it's gotten harder and harder to see lately. Intriguing in a way and hard to explain but there is definitely something to learn with singleness being a preparatory season. I do think it can be overstayed and learning when to move into a new season the Lord is calling us to is important as well.