What are some of your biggest turnoffs?

even a plutonic relationship ?

I heard a counsellor on James Dobson's show talk about how men are visual creatures and for a man to be captivated by woman's attractiveness is completely normal....as long as he doesn't stare.

Then you have missed the whole point of what it means to be a committed relationship then..

What???
That's the point.when he is captivated he will stare..and it will affect his thought life and his heart.

Meaning?

It has and I'm not insecure like a beta male.

Did you listen to the whole program or only hear part of it ?

Being single and available and being physically attractive to a woman but yet not staring will prove to be problematic. Really, what would be the point. Very strange counsel that guy provided. Downright bizarre.

Me thinks lusting goes beyond than seeing someone as attractive.

whoa = truth.... has/had spoken with No void, got me speechless and that is no easy task!!!!!!!

are you saying you like me lol, just diffusion of somones anxiety... who lioz ya bra

Lust, is for what you can't have, like covetting.

meaning if you are ok about someone you are in a relationship with when you seeing then checking out another dude whose obviously caught their attention..then it seems you dont fully understand that that shouldn't be happening if she has committed herself to you.
There are always gonna be people more attractive than us around that's normal.Yet it's another thing when the person we're with is checking them out coz they are attractive.
This means they are clearly drawn to the persons physical attributes to the extent that they cannot help but react to it..yet you are ment to be the one they are ment to have their affections on ect...no one else..
So how could you find it somehow ok??...I an sure if it was the other way round who your with would say something to you

You could be right..
*laughs*

I definitely did.

It was a woman actually. She said that men are visual by nature and will automatically notice an attractive woman and look her direction. She wasn't advocating gawking.

Perhaps she was delustional or naive.

How is stating an obvious fact about male nature naive?

The thing is, what was stated was not a fact but rather a matter of her opinion. Now, I am speaking about single and available men, to think that it is natural for a man to find a woman attractive yet not morally proper to stare at such woman is what is delusional, naive, or both.

God is actually described as being jealous over His people (His wife).... I would want my man to be protective over me and my heart toward him.