Why are Christians such phonies?

I've been a Christian for a long time and I saw such terrible things; my eyes have been opened to just how sick the church as a whole is. My husband pulled us out of a church and put us into a church I did not like. I had been warned about the family that owned the church and the warning turned out to be true. The youth pastor was corrupt and cheated a family member in a big way. It really hurt but then they were caught doing something corrupt and their names were splashed across the newspapers - countrywide. They hurt a lot of people and then they went to a fair day the town held and set up their booth trying to draw new victims into their church. They were so blatant about it. I actually think they were stealing from the church.

Then we went to another church and the leadership was terrible. They told me that "God" put them in their positions and what they said was it. I was shocked at such overt pride. Then I was injured and we stopped attending the church we went to for 10 years. The pastor stopped taking my calls and I saw that I guess if you're not supporting the church you don't get his time.

Then a friend who I had looked up to never came to visit when I was injured, never sent a card, nothing. But she did that for all the people in her church and I saw that she was a respecter of persons. She and her husband are snooty.

Then I've been on a few other forums and the people are downright demonic. I saw that it's all a lie. Once in awhile you meet someone who is upright but many of the so-called "Christians" are total jerks or psychopaths. One guy got angry whenever I posted a thread and he would jump on immediately and attack me. My husband said he's got something wrong with him. It got so bad I had to threaten him with contacting the police because he was making me feel unsafe.

I'm just really disillusioned with christianity. It all seems like a lie.

Actually the church we attended for 10 years people were leaving and I spoke with one of the members one day who told me he and his wife were leaving because the church is so cold. And a friend of mine left that church as well - before us. And the assistant pastor and his wife left. My husband said that he doesn't even think many of the people who go there are saved - it's more a social club.

Yes the friend whose house I met at every week did disappoint me when she never sent a card or visited in the hospital. What did happen was that I saw her for what she really was: a respecter of persons. It opened my eyes. I thought that my husband and I kind of bungled the Christian walk because I was honest about my flaws but she never was. My husband kept telling me he bets the husband is at home watching porn, or their kids are doing something - he said I was being naive because they acted like they had it all together. I think what happened shows more about who she is than who I am.

i'm a non-churchgoer Christian.
it works out for me.
just reading and even taking walks fills me with the Spirit.
would you ever feel comfortable trying that?

You wear gross darkness as if it were a badge to be proud of.

I've been a Christian for a long time and I saw such terrible things; my eyes have been opened to just how sick the church as a whole is. My husband pulled us out of a church and put us into a church I did not like. I had been warned about the family that owned the church and the warning turned out to be true. The youth pastor was corrupt and cheated a family member in a big way. It really hurt but then they were caught doing something corrupt and their names were splashed across the newspapers - countrywide. They hurt a lot of people and then they went to a fair day the town held and set up their booth trying to draw new victims into their church. They were so blatant about it. I actually think they were stealing from the church.

Then we went to another church and the leadership was terrible. They told me that "God" put them in their positions and what they said was it. I was shocked at such overt pride. Then I was injured and we stopped attending the church we went to for 10 years. The pastor stopped taking my calls and I saw that I guess if you're not supporting the church you don't get his time.

Then a friend who I had looked up to never came to visit when I was injured, never sent a card, nothing. But she did that for all the people in her church and I saw that she was a respecter of persons. She and her husband are snooty.

Then I've been on a few other forums and the people are downright demonic. I saw that it's all a lie. Once in awhile you meet someone who is upright but many of the so-called "Christians" are total jerks or psychopaths. One guy got angry whenever I posted a thread and he would jump on immediately and attack me. My husband said he's got something wrong with him. It got so bad I had to threaten him with contacting the police because he was making me feel unsafe.

I'm just really disillusioned with christianity. It all seems like a lie.

I hope you're never tested like Job. I don't think very many people live through trauma and come out the other side without questioning God.
He says He wants truth in our innermost being and I think that He would respect someone who was honest about their sincere doubts.

I read of a young girl who was a gung ho christian and then she was brutally raped. She couldn't line up a loving God with Him watching that happen to her. She left the faith.

I can understand her. Why aren't we telling God He should act?

There are just too many discrepancies.

If you hang out in christian chat (any chat really) you will not find it much better sadly. As you probably already have found out.

i have been in churches like this also, where you have your groups, or your clicks. And if your not part of that click your not involved. Sadly a lot of churches are just sunday and wed night meeting, and not really the body of Christ. The church got away fro it’s true purpose and sadly is steeped in traditions and ceremony, they are almost like entertainment centers where they entertain people in the name of God, Which is Not what God intended,

Christians aren't phonies. People who believe they're Christians but aren't are phonies. And Jesus alone is the Judge.

"I read of", and then we hear of a sad story, taking things in is harder and harder now and style stay in Christ. It is still our responsibility.
I have heard of others brothers and sisters being hurt this way.
We see from the main stream media an ongoing attack on our God raised President, in the last of the last days.
blessings, sister

I have found it hard to find a good church too. The last church I went to was for a period of about three or so years. About two years of attending the pastor one day was asking me why I had moved from the country up to the city. I briefly explained to him why and got quite emotional in the middle of it as I moved due to family circumstances that were not pleasant at the time. He just dismissed my upset and started talking to other people nearby as though nothing happened. He was actually laughing and joking with them in the middle of my upset. I felt so angry.

After that as well as seven or so other incidences with the pastor I just left and never went back. Now I just get my teaching from certain people of YouTube.

Because we let everyone in without no repentance whatsoever.

"I believe in Jesus" they say. Yet they live like the world all week, then show up on sunday to church and are spiritual giants singing songs of praise. This is the vast majority of Christians worldwide, they dress like the world, act like the world, talk like the world, there is practically no difference. They got the same "love" message that the world has, the teaching is based on God loves you just as you are and you are so wonderful you are the best thing since sliced bread nonsense (contrary to John 3:36, Psalm 5:5 etc.)

The real reason is, the people you described are not actual Christians, they are just cultural christians born into it and drawn into it for the social club and in some cases conservative values.
Many conspiracy theory people also enjoy religion as it fits well with their beliefs, they will do videos on them all day, mention Jesus a few times in there but still live like the world.

Expect this post to get lots of dislikes and answers from the spiritual giants of this forum who are up in arms defending satan's holiday (halloween). . Churches are evil, get out of the mega church buildings and quick.

I imagine that if we have so little respect for what God wants and his ordained church (His church not mine) it is easy to make excuses for those who abuse and wreck other people's lives and tell us to be nice to them and forgive them.

I do remember though that when someone was over the top, Paul told the church to kick them out, not be nice to them.

The goal is a church without spot or wrinkle. You won't get one of those if you tolerate people that are a thorn in the side. Better to kick them out in an attempt to gain a church without spot or wrinkle. We should be constantly assessing whether we meet God's standards, not those of the trouble makers.

There is a mighty battle today between truth and lies and it is happening in the church. I don't care what people think of me if I defend the truth. That is their problem, not mine. Only the Holy Spirit can lead us into ALL truth so we need to get with it and defend it, no matter what the cost.

If we don't, those that can't handle the truth won't give an inch to soothe our conscience or back down a bit to keep us happy.