Which is more important looks or personality?

how special do they need to be.
we used to have dedicated special needs units in schools but now special people are everywhere.

I just treat everyone special regardless

Hi just through to put this question out there.When it comes to meeting someone special which is more important to you their personality or their looks,?
I know that a person's looks and personality can both be very appealing yet which one seems to tip the balance more..looks or personality?Or are they equally important?Sometimes people can say well personality is more important than looks..but God made us also to also find a person physically attractive too.I guess what will ultimately make a person happy iam sure would be what's within a person...yet there has to be some degree of physical attraction of some kind.
Sometimes a person with a great personality actually can become even more attractive..whereas a person whose physically attractive can also seem unattractive if they don't have a good personality.
Yet each of us are unique and different things appeal to different people.I know some ladies who view that a guys shoes is the number 1 thing that determines their level of interest in him.So any guy they meet they check out his shoes 1st..wrong shoes.....it's basically over for him..🤪🤪
So what are your views is how a person looks more important than their personality of visa versa?
Personally I have been drawn to someone by either...some times looks alone initially...other times their lovely personality...I guess something would draw me to them and what draws me can varie quite widely really.
Beauty is most definatley in the eye if the beholder which makes it so unique and individual as to what can appeal to us about someone
Look forward to hear your thoughts😊

Hi Encouragement, great question!

1. King Solomon gives us the immediate answer and this would be that “looks/beauty” is vanity. Proverb 31 “false is beauty, fear of G-d she shall be praised”.

2. So why did G-d make us tempted by attraction? G-d created our ability to be tempted to allow us the ability of “choice”. Why does food need to taste yummy? He could have simply made us eat paper and that would have been good too. Therefore taste can bring joy if we eat properly in holiness or it can bring gluttony. Same with attraction, we can use it to get married and have kids or we can abuse it for our desires in lust.

3. Only very righteous people can serve G-d without using these natures however the average person needs to want steak, a beautiful woman, more sleep, more possessions, etc. to feel happy or complete. However the highest level of serving G-d is to derive no pleasure or no reward because then it simply is for the sake for serving G-d.

4. Thus we should push heavily to see the beauty of someone’s soul/personality rather than physical beauty but it is not sinful if you use the physical to push you to do what is spiritually good for you. What is wrong is to let it pass the threshold or spiritual reason. Beauty passes away, but a righteous soul only continues to grow and gain value in the eyes of the L-rd!

ha what do I know about romance...
Im not romantic at all..I dont really know anyone who is! unless its some older guy whos always trying to call me. Im like no, go away, Im not keen on spreading germs thanks. Yes Im female, but then so is half the population. What I find totally annoying is someone who claims to know what I am thinking. How do you know what I am thinking? You are not me. and half the time, its not even what I am thinking about at all.

this is from people who think 'romantically' who assume Im thinking romantic throughts about them. But what Im really thinking is...theyve got curly hair and I dont. I wonder what curly hair feels like. Cos my hair wont curl at all.

or in terms of personality. How can they be so calm about stuff that stresses me out? Or if they are funny, it would be like that is so funny. You crack everyone up. But dont you ever take anything seriously?

I think what attracts people are things that are opposite and things that dont come naturally to us.

I think personality over rules looks. There is no use being with the most attractive person and they have no substance or their personality is nasty. Having said that I think you will find something attractive about the other person and the most important priority is that they are also a christian.

Hi Happy2020 good to hear from you and I appreciate you making time to type out your comments.Yes proverbs does say that even charm is deceptive and that beauty is fleeting but a woman who fears the lord is to be praised.It is highighting the reality that physical beauty doesnt last forever because it changes with time,life experiences,age,and also physical beauty can be altered through sickness,an accident ect..You see many actors/actress using cosmetic surgery to maintain their youthful beauty as with age some of them do loose the beauty they once had.We have heard stories of how a person with charisma and charm has been able to deceive people outta money and all sort of things..So it's just giving a clear picture of these things...in stark contrast to a woman who fears God...is of such high value and a good thing to process....its praise worthy...my goodness👏🏻👏🏻
The bible say he who finds a wife finds a good thing..so a wife is a good thing in a general sense and God designed a female in such a way that she will appeal to a man physically and Visa versa..(naturally they type if person you are determines if you are a good wife or husband as a man/woman becomes a wife/husband by the status of being marriage to another)

Unfortunately social media,advertising the movie industry ect heavily promote physical beauty and sexualized imagery...a half naked lady promoting bubble gum...???🤣🤣...common what's that about?
Yet It is God who made each and everyone of us and physical beauty,being attracted to someone are natural things we experience as human beings which isnt a sin itself.. what defines it as sin is the context in which it is expressed and the motivation.Joseph was handsome and well built and him being handsome and being physically well built was just how he was...and the bible mentioned this to illustrate that potiphers wife attraction to him was purely sexual.

The bible says that God doesn't tempt us..but it's our own inner desires that can entice us ect...and funny how God made us with the capacity to enjoy food because of how our mouths are made..taste buds ect are there to enjoy the flavours of food with saliva,teeth ect to aid the process of food consumption..
I guess anything that God created for us to experience joy from can be corrupted by sinful desires or motives.

Living for God yet enjoy natural blessing is a good thing...who doesnt think wow when seeing an awesome sunset...or drinking a glass of cold water on a hot day is just bliss..Physically there are many blessing to enjoy in life within the context of living for God which he does expect us to utilise wherever we are for where we are there are blessing there that many wish they had.
Yes a persons personality,character are the things which one builds life upon ultimately rather than how they look.Yet their physical form is also part of who they are too and each person has physical traits that someone would find attractive.
Some of us can be drawn to another person Romantically via their character or personality some of us can be drawn by their looks...but at some point I guess it's the persons personality or character that becomes the foundation stone coz that's the substance of who they are..😊
Man I hadn't planned to type so much honestly..🤣🤣

Hi ruby123..nice to hear from you on this thread..(i keep wandering why they call it thread..😊😊)
Anyway..yes I agree that ultimately its what's within the person that will create a foundation to built a relationship upon.The else relationship I had was with a beautiful woman but the relationship became toxic due ur constant false accusations of cheating and offending others who tried to reassure her that I wasnt...in the end I ended it...yet it didnt diminish the appeal her physical beauty..but her beauty became like smoke...it's there but isn't the real substance if her..It was like a mask covering the toxicity that was within her.
True that we will be something about a person that we will find attractive for certain...maybe it is their looks..their smile..how they present themselves..or their sense if humour..ect....it will be something unique to you..
As a Christian its goes without saying that they should be a Christian otherwise you eil just be unequally yoked coz I know that there are many lovely people around in a humanistic sense who are not Christians..my goodness...yet at some point the spiritual ans moral divide will become all too apparent.A sheep yoked with a goat..their fathers satan..your fathers God...🤦🏼‍♂️🤦🏼‍♂️..
I am blessed by your comments as always.😊😊

Was your ex a christian and had she been cheated on before and perhaps thought that that was going to be a regular pattern?

Yes she was a Christian and said an ex boyfriend had cheated on her in thr past with her sister whom she had stopped speaking to since then...I could only assume it's TRUE...
she may of just falsely accused her ex of cheating the same as me...
The root could even be a "fear of abandonment"..coz her parents divorced and she didnt see her father much..

So yes I can understand how and why this could leave her feeling insecure and jealous ect..yet that level of outburst only destroys something that was meaningful..it took a good while to get over the whole thing..😊😊

Unfortunately it is a common story even within the christian circles. Still the Lord can heal and set free, in fact he wants to but we have to give it to him and sometimes feel the pain again in the process.

I think personality over looks...
I used to be a women who went for really hansom men , my ex partners , yet they all ended up being narcissistic , and were very vain , a bit like myself before I was saved...

God forbid I should ever lose my sight , but if I did , looks would be out the window...

I am single now and have no problem with that , but if God ever gave me a man to marry , he would have to be a man after God`s own heart , looks can be deceiving...
...xox...