Tragic loss

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Mii

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Well I don't ever really know what to say when people pass on...but I have experienced it. If you are anything like me the main thing would be not to disassociate from the pain and miss out on what the Lord may be teaching you through the pain.

He is our comfort and while "safely" disconnecting from pain and emotions "seems" pragmatic, I think it's just "my way"...it doesn't end well.

If you don't have this particular "issue" I don't want to say anything more just "to say" but I love you and if you need anything reach out.
 
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Lighthearted said:
Dude, I hope you don't mind, but I feel led to post something here about the reactions to SuzzyQ. I can only imagine that this is a hard time for you.
I'm not arguing our actions to defend our brother and friend Dude. We know him from time in chat rooms and forums. This person does not.

Obviously Suzzy must be going through some horrible stuff right now too. Very seldom have I ever heard someone be so disrespectful especially to someone they don't know. However, let us remember to turn the other cheek like most of us do when things get heated around here. I came to CC when I had been through the most difficult 10 years of my life. I needed all of you. Your posts, your prayers, your encouragement...and always, laughter. We don't know how she was led here to CC...but God works in mysterious ways. He uses this place on the www...and we can be His disciples.
Just saying...
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Of course we are called to be merciful,gracious ect...yet she has been extremely offensive and accused us of being hypocrites ect and she still sees herself as the victim saying we have treated her unfairly in her most recent post.No apology..no sense of feeling she is wrong and seems mentally coherent.She hasnt lost a child...this gentleman has...I have no ill feeling towards her...yet nothing can justify or excuse her actions in which she still feels shes right about it all and doesn't want to e held accountable for it.
my concern is that she could repeat the same behaviour to somebody else here..I pray that she doesn't. 🙏🏻👍
May God lead her into a place of emotional and mental stability
 
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reneweddaybyday

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Dude653 said:
It never said wives
She's lying and I have reported her to admin
imagine having that much hatred in your heart that you would attack a man who just lost his son
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So sorry you had to read through her putrid posts while you're going through what you're going through ... you know the source so don't take it personally.

Continue to shelter in the arms of the Father and let Him apply His healing balm to your hurting heart.

I lost my good best friend (husband) about 6 years ago. It was so sudden, just like what you're going through. I couldn't even talk about it without crying for a good 3 to 4 years. Sometimes something would remind me of my husband and I'd just cry. One time I was driving in my car and a guy was walking across the street in front of me and he had on shoes like my husband wore ... yep ... had to pull over and deal with my sorrow. Don't bury your sorrow. Let it out. Let God continue to work in your heart. He'll bring you through.

p.s. liked the pop tart story. I'm partial to the unfrosted brown sugar cinnamon ones. can't find them anywhere ...



 
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soggykitten

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Has anyone heard from Dude? Are they doing OK?
 
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Dude653 said:
It never said wives
She's lying and I have reported her to admin
imagine having that much hatred in your heart that you would attack a man who just lost his son
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Exactly..no need to be treating somebody this way and then to be calling us all hypocrites ect...then no apology no acceptance of responsibility...then asking the same people to pray and support her in her difficult situation ect...yet believing that she was still right to behave how she did previously.Come in now...??I could accept if the gentleman was offensive to her and she reacted strongly but that wasn't the case.I am totally compassionate and emphatic to peoples lives 100000%...,,yet at the same time mindful of the fact that a persons hardship doesn't give them a licence to abuse someone and others for no reason especially when they are mentally coherent ect.
I have been through some dark times with no one to turn too..yet still maintained a moral compass in terms of how I treated others despite being crushed by depression ect.
 
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reneweddaybyday

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soggykitten said:
Has anyone heard from Dude? Are they doing OK?
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continuing in prayer for Dude653 and his family ... all those who held dear the young man who passed away ... praying God holds close to His heart those whose lives were touched by him and who are now mourning.
 
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soggykitten

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suzzyQ said:
um, I REALLY want to give my consolement here....

BUT as I read on I saw this



I read this the other day right after it first posted and it had the word WIVES NOT LIVES .........
"He was an amazing young man who touched a lot of people's wives"
ugh, that's so sickening.

Um, my dad was a marine, and my brother is a cop. I've heard this thrown around as a bad joke more times than I can count........
so if I'm wrong then I'm sorry and will ask forgiveness BUT if I'm right and this is someones sick idea of a joke and looking for attention, then everyone here who has replied has just been played and someone is sitting there laughing at how gullible you are.......

Like seriously! WHO would celebrate during their mourning the fact that their deceased loved one was known for something like "touching a lot of peoples WIVES"????
that's just sick!!!

and this is coming from someone who admits to butting heads with people ,or from what I've seen, it's more like someone who tries to stir up trouble.......
sorry, but I seriously question this.

Lord. please forgive me if I'm wrong.
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The Lord does forgive. If you're still here after carrying this rant on beyond just this first one allow me to make a very simple observation.
Wives was a typo corrected to lives.
What father insults the memory of his dead son in a memorial thread the father started himself? None.

I understand you're going through your own trials. You have my deepest sympathy.
Does it serve to bring pain to someone else who is already in pain?
I don't think you deserve to be attacked for your attack either.

Maybe we cal all take a breath and realize this is a memorial thread. A father lost a son.
Where does our anger fit in? Nowhere.
Find peace.
 
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