The PERSON/PERSONS who are the root cause of your pain

The person / persons who are the root cause of my pain? The answer is myself.

Nothing good can come from dwelling on past hurts, trauma and disappointments. Cast your burden on Jesus. Let it go. Move on. Smile. Cheer up.

Philippians 3:13 this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before

Nothing good can come from dwelling on past hurts, trauma and disappointments. Cast your burden on Jesus. Let it go. Move on. Smile. Cheer up.

Philippians 3:13 this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before

Ive been hurt by three teachers in a row when i was young, making me rather fearful. At the same time i strove to do well in school, so it must have had its up side. I shall not go into the details, but that is right, a big step is striving to forget the past and look at our goal, wc is life in union with Christ Jesus.

Right now i'm hurt a lot abt some things, people and events, but i have learned to run to the feet of our Lord, or if u'd like the idea of sitting in His lap as a child.. I listen to peaceful hymn music while working, and also sing or play along when possible, wc means i cut or interrupt what i'm doing tho=). Whatever, it allows to not dwell on false, wrong, bad.. all the opposite of whatever's true, noble, right, good.. lovely, admirable, praiseworthy.

Hi this isn't about dwelling on past hurts,disappointments and even traumas coz that would be detrimental to a person's well being.Dwelling on something is more about ones focus being on something or things as they say "living in the past"..and that constant focus and kinda reliving things in your head is just soul destroying.
I am refering to living with the actual consequences of things that have happened due to actions of others till this very day.Over many years God has made me very aware of the need of Gods work of restoration in people's lives in a very real way.I used tp be involved in thr ministry team in church praying for people and over the years have councelled many people..plus deep struggles in my own life too.Sometimes people need emotional healing,their self esteem restored,nightmares and a range of things they are living with till this day.It's not about any one dwelling on things...these are legitimate internal wounds that they live with and many struggle with everyday and sometimes they can be caused by the acts of others.
Remember the woman in luke13:10-17 who was alive and living her life but was unable to stand up straight for 18 years.She was literally unable to stand..bound in that position...She lived her life,went to bed,spoke to people in that bound position..God has shown me that there are people who are bound just like this dear woman.Bound by crippling fears,flashbacks,emotional and pyscological wounds and traumas ect who just like this woman.They go to bed with it,wake up with it,chat to friends with it..yet are crying out to be free..I did this post to let them know I care and to reinforce that God is aware too and that that don't feel alone in their experience.
This is the context of the post.Of course you're right that some things you just let go ect and move on.
This is about something much deeper than that..😊

Think I will agree with @tourist on this one. Most of the problems in my life are caused by Me, Myself, and I.

We all need to learn to take it to the Lord.

You are right too, though. Sometimes people need help and support from others. The word of God instructs us to help others and bear each others burdens. Sometimes it helps if people can hash it out and talk to others about their problems. It helps knowing that others care and are there for you. Anyhow, I think this is a good thread. Shows the love of God that you have for others.

The main source of my pain is my inability to forgive certain things in my past. I can blame a lot of people, but as an adult it's my responsibility to choose to be happy; to choose love over hate, and to do that I must forgive all as Christ forgives me.

Hi Mar09..thanks for making time to check out this post.I tend to pray after every thread I post for God to take control over the response and to guide all interactions.I do appreciate your comments and yes there is a balance in how we live with thing that affect us..It's so wonderful that the Lord knows us inside out and he knows exactly how we really feel and what makes us think how we think and respond the way we do..Praise God for Jesus.Praize God the your determination to strive to do well in school despite being hurt by these individuals which says a lot about you.
You refuse to let then win..👏👏👏👏
That takes grit and energy and mat God annoying you in such a way that just like Joshua you fight the good fight with the Lord at your side.
Such an inspiring comment you posted.👍
Your life is a blessing.😊😊

People can easily say 'move on" or 'forget about it' but if the trauma happened as a CHILD or even BABY and that person grows up not even knowing how to deal with it its much harder, to know why a person is a certain way.

That is why Jesus said suffer the children and forbid them not to come into the kingdom. I think as parents, caregivers, family members, teachers...we need to really be aware that there IS a power difference betweeen adults and children, and they are the ones who are most vulnerable to being hurt, mAny being defenceless and unable to fight back or say anything. Bullying used to be endemic to schools a few generations back up till even NOW big kids will pick on smaller ones and people often turn a blind eye. (not the other cheek, thats different)

what you do makes the difference. and God can and does heal any trauma because He is forgiving. Thank you for this thread OP.

Hi Gods precious people.I had been deeply affected and touched by the events in my life and that others around me.In our lives we have all gone through various dark experiences before we were saved and after we were save that had been caused by someone else.
In my life a lot of things went completely from since my childhood because of the actions of one family member.The affects upon me and others we are still living with and with Gods help working through.
Sometimes our deepest life traumas can be traced back to just one main individual or several individuals whose choices and actions have been devastating and you have been affected by this.You know your past or even present circumstances and you know there are root issues that you maybe dealing with,traumatised by,living with the consequences of ect and you know the individual or persons responsible for it.
Have you been deeply wounded by someone in your childhood,adolescent years,adulthood.It could be a ex,family member,a parent,friend,stranger,school/college teacher,pastor,neighbour,close friend.??..You may well know who they are..?Are you stil deeply affected by what they did or didnt do?Forgiveness is something we need to do with Gods help...but often the damage they caused remains and you go through life deeply wounded by what happened despite forgiveness.Restorstion and healing is more needed..
Feel free to Express your heart in this post.God knows exactly what happened and wanted you to be free from the traumatic strongholds caus by what happened to you.
Does this thread describe you?
Have you been deeply affected by what an individual or persons did or didn't do that has deeply affected you emotionally mentally,physically..even socially ect??

@Ann-Marie
Hi Ann-Marie this is the thread I was talking about that i created a few days ago.May God really bless you through its content...👍🔥

@Encouragement I am reading it now. Thank you for linking me directly~ i will post more tomorrow because right now I really do have to go out, and it's not a "white lie" this time.
Blessings to you and to all.

Hi no problem my dear..HaHa I believe ya!😂😂😂😂...Take your time and I pray absorbing the content and comments ect..it will give you u a deeper sense of empowerment and a send of belonging to other who have been affected by the actions of others.👍👍