The go-between

Somebody cover Lynx's eyes and scroll away from this post on his behalf. One of the fellows in our college and career was a frequent dater but couldn't find "the one". He was a great guy but looking for the wrong type of woman. (I'd known him a number of years and heard enough stories to make that determination.) I have an amazing friend from university who had the values and character that would be a good match for my friend. She was grounded in her faith and humility. She was also beautiful but as she was a couple of inches taller I didn't think they would have necessarily considered each other. I asked her to meet me at our church Christmas concert. I told him to go, he knew who she was, and take my place. I did phone her before, make my apologies and asked her to sit with my friend. Twenty weeks later they were married. They have since had four children, adore each other and it has been 25 + years.

*Lynx gets out the flamethrower.

Somebody cover Lynx's eyes and scroll away from this post on his behalf. One of the fellows in our college and career was a frequent dater but couldn't find "the one". He was a great guy but looking for the wrong type of woman. (I'd known him a number of years and heard enough stories to make that determination.) I have an amazing friend from university who had the values and character that would be a good match for my friend. She was grounded in her faith and humility. She was also beautiful but as she was a couple of inches taller I didn't think they would have necessarily considered each other. I asked her to meet me at our church Christmas concert. I told him to go, he knew who she was, and take my place. I did phone her before, make my apologies and asked her to sit with my friend. Twenty weeks later they were married. They have since had four children, adore each other and it has been 25 + years.

Somebody cover Lynx's eyes and scroll away from this post on his behalf. One of the fellows in our college and career was a frequent dater but couldn't find "the one". He was a great guy but looking for the wrong type of woman. (I'd known him a number of years and heard enough stories to make that determination.) I have an amazing friend from university who had the values and character that would be a good match for my friend. She was grounded in her faith and humility. She was also beautiful but as she was a couple of inches taller I didn't think they would have necessarily considered each other. I asked her to meet me at our church Christmas concert. I told him to go, he knew who she was, and take my place. I did phone her before, make my apologies and asked her to sit with my friend. Twenty weeks later they were married. They have since had four children, adore each other and it has been 25 + years.

That is a storybook ending for sure. Getting married 20 weeks later is an interesting aspect to your story. It tells me that they both knew what they wanted, and having found it, acted on it swiftly. No need to waste precious years trying to get to know each other and then have a long engagement.

Spill
Have you ever...done any of the following ....succesfully matchmaked a couple
set up a blind date for someone else
brokered a marriage
written and spell checked someone else's love letter * @seoulsearch *
officiated at a wedding
been a bridesmaid or best man

or...
have you consoled someones divorce/breakup
been a witness/on the jury
been a 'beard' for someone
told someone else that someone else 'liked' them (or didnt like them)
been the messenger/hitman/person who gave someone else the pink slip

if you have, would you happily do these things or is it just you get roped into doing them??? Is it fun being 'the third wheel'?

I've never tampered with someone else's love life that I can remember...but that ain't sayin much.

However, I have been a groomsman in 8 weddings a best man in 1 and a groom in another.

Of all those marriages only one ended in divorce and one from death.

I did enjoy being in those weddings. It was fun. I was not "roped" into them. It was a privilege and an honor to be in them and more than that that they wanted me in them.

I've never been a "beard" for someone but I've had a beard.😁

what do you have to do to be a groomsman?
I've never been a bridesmaid, but I have been a flowergirl, twice. I just had to hold the flowers.
I always wondered why it was called the 'groom' and how come the bride never had a best woman or BFF but a bridesmaid.
I dont know what 'same sex' couples do either, do they have opposite sex ones? You gotta wonder these days. Well, not really..

I've never matchmaked someone else. The only time I thought of doing it was when someone much older liked me and I tried to get him interested in my OLDER sister. he wasnt interested and my sister didnt know. I have younger brothers and never really thought that any of my friends would be interested in them since they were older. Not that they ever asked either.

I remember a well meaning but busybodyish ladies in church going do you want us to set you up with xxx in church but I'm like no. I think if they had done it without letting on it would have been better. But nobody ever sits next to me in church I like my space. Only widows.

To be a groomsman you need to be asked. Then in all the weddings I've been in I had to wear a tux. We would usually tease the groom just before the wedding started...as good friends do. We also would pray for him and the marriage taking place.

And generally here in the states, the bride does have a maid of honor.

Spill

have you consoled someones divorce/breakup
been a witness/on the jury
been a 'beard' for someone
told someone else that someone else 'liked' them (or didnt like them)
been the messenger/hitman/person who gave someone else the pink slip

if you have, would you happily do these things or is it just you get roped into doing them??? Is it fun being 'the third wheel'?

Well I have been paid to spy on people, when you are good at something never do it for free.

PI?
interesting...

i'm just plain simple human, nothing more nothing less.