Does it matter how tall a person is

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Yet as Christian's there are not restrictions on women or men of age groups as a people come to salvation at a vast age range in peoples lives and get married at any age..with God being the center of their lives and as they seek him to guide their lives there are not bound by the dynamics of society but by the lordship of christ.So in regards to meeting a partner their age doesn't limit their chances as it is God leading their lives.
I have know female Christians meet someone and get married in their 30's,40's even 50's and even their 60's..
Males are as you said perceived as being the provider and there is much teaching on this too.I guess each situation varies as God leads.
Appreciate your comments though.👍😊
I agree with the spirit of what you're saying, but I don't think it's wrong to be physically attracted to one's spouse. This is precisely why Jesus condemned looking on women with lust in the heart as a sin because the intent for adultery/fornication is apparently just as real as the actual act it's self.

This infers that as long as someone is a person's husband or wife then looking on that person with lust is ok. This is the correct grace-based teaching.

Men are enticed by visual things and men struggle with this more than women. This is actually why Christian men like modesty because it keeps their eyes from being distracted.

The Paul also says that it is better to marry for no other reason than lack of self-control. In 1 Corinthians 7 Paul says it's better to remain unmarried, but if you don't have self-control then it's better to marry. Done.

If you are of such high spiritual caliber that you'll marry someone who looks repulsive simply because they are a Christian then I commend you. I honestly believe you would probably pick the fertile, attractive, Christian woman, with a charming personality. Most people would. Let's not have an air of self-righteousness. God sees us exactly for who we are.
 

Lynx

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I say
The measure of a man
Is not how tall you stand

- 4Him
"Measure of a Man"
 

1ofthem

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I agree with the spirit of what you're saying, but I don't think it's wrong to be physically attracted to one's spouse. This is precisely why Jesus condemned looking on women with lust in the heart as a sin because the intent for adultery/fornication is apparently just as real as the actual act it's self.

This infers that as long as someone is a person's husband or wife then looking on that person with lust is ok. This is the correct grace-based teaching.

Men are enticed by visual things and men struggle with this more than women. This is actually why Christian men like modesty because it keeps their eyes from being distracted.

The Paul also says that it is better to marry for no other reason than lack of self-control. In 1 Corinthians 7 Paul says it's better to remain unmarried, but if you don't have self-control then it's better to marry. Done.

If you are of such high spiritual caliber that you'll marry someone who looks repulsive simply because they are a Christian then I commend you. I honestly believe you would probably pick the fertile, attractive, Christian woman, with a charming personality. Most people would. Let's not have an air of self-righteousness. God sees us exactly for who we are.
I agree with this, mostly. It is important to be attracted to the person you are in a relationship with. However, I will say that people can be attracted to people for many different reasons not just physical attributes. In the past, I have met guys who I thought were very attractive, but after dating and getting to know their personality...the attraction wore off and even their looks seemed to change in my eyes. I have also known guys who I didn't find attractive at all, but after getting to know them they became more attractive.

I'm sure everyone has seen some couples and think wow what is that guy doing with that girl. What on earth does he see in her, and vise versa. Also, I've heard people talking about how handsome or beautiful their bf or gf is and everyone else is like...what...lol

I don't know...I guess what I am trying to say is....to each their own...lol
 
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I agree with this, mostly. It is important to be attracted to the person you are in a relationship with. However, I will say that people can be attracted to people for many different reasons not just physical attributes. In the past, I have met guys who I thought were very attractive, but after dating and getting to know their personality...the attraction wore off and even their looks seemed to change in my eyes. I have also known guys who I didn't find attractive at all, but after getting to know them they became more attractive.

I'm sure everyone has seen some couples and think wow what is that guy doing with that girl. What on earth does he see in her, and vise versa. Also, I've heard people talking about how handsome or beautiful their bf or gf is and everyone else is like...what...lol

I don't know...I guess what I am trying to say is....to each their own...lol
Truth!
 
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I prefer someone who is taller than me, which is not so hard lol.
 
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Being taller is important if what you want it on the top shelf.
Need to change light bulb or fire detector battery without a ladder.
Run reasonably fast
See which way to go in a crowd
Big Tall:
If you want to make others think twice before doing something stupid around you.
If you want total strangers to cross the street at night to avoid walking past you

Being shorter is better if it is on the bottom shelf.
of if you live in a place with a low ceiling
or if you intend to live to like 100
or if you want to pay less for clothing and shoes
or if you want to be a plumber or another trade that involves small spaces
or if you want to have a lower risk for back problems
if you want to be better at hide and seek
if you want to own and drive a VW Beetle or even a normal sized care for that matter.
Every once in a while I dip in to the singles forum to see what y'all are talking about. It seems like the fun forum. Since I'm old and married (6 yrs this fall) I don't usually comment. But after reading your post I have to say I wasn't disappointed in my visit. rofl. Very tactful, very tactful indeed!
 
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Yes, unashamedly! 😂😂😂
So you would fake saying to him..."pls come and rescue me"..🤣🤣that would most definitely make him feel needed,useful to you and be your superman,iron man ect..
I guess a woman needs to know that the guy she is with can man up when necessary to demonstrate his manliness...which isnt about him being aggressively violent towards others 💪
 

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I agree with the spirit of what you're saying, but I don't think it's wrong to be physically attracted to one's spouse. This is precisely why Jesus condemned looking on women with lust in the heart as a sin because the intent for adultery/fornication is apparently just as real as the actual act it's self.

This infers that as long as someone is a person's husband or wife then looking on that person with lust is ok. This is the correct grace-based teaching.

Men are enticed by visual things and men struggle with this more than women. This is actually why Christian men like modesty because it keeps their eyes from being distracted.

The Paul also says that it is better to marry for no other reason than lack of self-control. In 1 Corinthians 7 Paul says it's better to remain unmarried, but if you don't have self-control then it's better to marry. Done.

If you are of such high spiritual caliber that you'll marry someone who looks repulsive simply because they are a Christian then I commend you. I honestly believe you would probably pick the fertile, attractive, Christian woman, with a charming personality. Most people would. Let's not have an air of self-righteousness. God sees us exactly for who we are.
Why do you somehow think there is an air of self righteousness?Where are you picking that up from?,
I wasn't talking about physical attraction but responding to your comment that's all.God doesn't expect us to be in denial of the basic humanistic qualities that we have within us because he is the one who created us with them in the 1st place..
Yes men are visual and we treat to what we see which is true and everyone will find someone else attractive to them personally regardless of that persons age.
 

Moses_Young

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Hi my fellow C.C members we do serve a God whose ways are higher than our ways and in terms of relationships we have particular feelings about what we would like in a partner and are trusting God witg our hearts desires. When it comes to personal preferences does a persons height really matter.Would any guys have any issues being with a female who is taller than then?Would females have an issue being with a guy whose shorter than them?
I know that some guys sense of masculinity can be affected if who they are with is much taller than them for example.I know that some females psychologically like the idea of a guy whose taller as it represents social presence or a sense of manly protection...or just more physically appealing.
Be nice to hear what your views are..✍🏻😊😊
Yes. It definitely matters. Taller guys also have larger feet, and we all know that women love a man to have big feet. Also, the converse is true for women. Everything is getting smaller - the economy, average IQ, evidence for a "coronavirus" pandemic, income after taxes, apartment sizes etc. As a tall woman will most likely have larger feet, the concern of most guys will likely be "will she fit in my kitchen with all the other appliances". A shorter woman will typically have smaller feet, and all but guys with the tiniest apartments will worry about how she will fit between the fridge and the sink. Those sorts of guys will likely have small feet themselves (or how else would these guys fit in such miniscule apartments), and such petite-footed ladies therefore probably wouldn't be interested anyway. Such males tend to be dragged off by large-footed women to their cave-dwellings.
 

Encouragement

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I agree with this, mostly. It is important to be attracted to the person you are in a relationship with. However, I will say that people can be attracted to people for many different reasons not just physical attributes. In the past, I have met guys who I thought were very attractive, but after dating and getting to know their personality...the attraction wore off and even their looks seemed to change in my eyes. I have also known guys who I didn't find attractive at all, but after getting to know them they became more attractive.

I'm sure everyone has seen some couples and think wow what is that guy doing with that girl. What on earth does he see in her, and vise versa. Also, I've heard people talking about how handsome or beautiful their bf or gf is and everyone else is like...what...lol

I don't know...I guess what I am trying to say is....to each their own...lol
Exactly...we are wired by God to find someone if the opposite sex attractive and that's a universal quality which we all have.I have has some churches preach that such things are of the flesh and not of God..🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️..yes I know there is a call to be holy in that regard and an appropriateness before God..ye the basic capability to find another human being attractive is from God.
When you go to know someone that's when you get to know what they are actually like..I guess that the deal breaker...
 
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I have has some churches preach that such things are of the flesh and not of God..🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️
That's right. God doesn't care about looks. In fact, He may hold the "unattractive" in a higher status over the attractive, since God values the "opposites" of what the world values, as seen through the Great Banquet parable.
 

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Its a bit awkward especially if u wear high heels to a date and then u have a guy that is no taller than your shoulders. I definitely perfer someone who is a bit taller.
 

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You would think the opposite.
Adam is missing one and Eve has it.
Women would be taller then right?[/QUOTE
You would think the opposite.
Adam is missing one and Eve has it.
Women would be taller then right?
Men and women have 12 pairs of ribs...although every now and then someone might have 11 or 13 pair. I believe in Genesis, 'rib' refers to Adams DNA.
 

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Height almost always matters more to women than it does to men. Men almost always prefer women who look fertile.

By the time a man is in his prime he is older and more successful and seeking a bride younger than himself. Meanwhile women are seeking someone who can be a good provider. Younger women therefore reach their prime earlier than men and often go for older men.

The prime age for men and women aren't proportional. Women reach their prime earlier than man and the timeframe is shorter. Men reach their prime later than women and it lasts longer.

This is why it is best for a woman to marry in her 20s. If a woman remains unmarried by her mid 30s the pool of available mates reduces to almost zero. Single men of the same age bracket remain marriageable for longer as long as they are able to be a provider.
Why on earth do you seem to think that if a woman is still unmarried by her mid 30's the chances of finding available mates reduces to almost zero.Thats a harmful thing to be saying her as there are women who are on this forum maybe over 30 and single..so are you trying to imply that they now have not much of a chance now of getting married?
Plus I found you most recent comment inappropriate implying that i am disregarding physical attraction.Where on earth do you get that view from?Clearly not from any comments I have made throughout this thread
 

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i got married at 33, almost 34 years old, which is why i said the Lord is our hope lol.

i had come to terms of not getting married, and not because i felt like i was an old maid or whatnot. i just learned that i still have purpose from the Lord regardless of my marital status.
 

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i got married at 33, almost 34 years old, which is why i said the Lord is our hope lol.

i had come to terms of not getting married, and not because i felt like i was an old maid or whatnot. i just learned that i still have purpose from the Lord regardless of my marital status.
Well said.👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻..yes your not define by marital status or eve single status..Gods people get married at any age..even in my church a guy met his wife when he was over 50 and she was of a similar age group...they have no children but are blissfully happy.No one has the authority to say a particular age group wont have much of a chance of meeting someone....it's like a form of age discrimination👎...God is running the show🙏🏻
 
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Why on earth do you seem to think that if a woman is still unmarried by her mid 30's the chances of finding available mates reduces to almost zero.Thats a harmful thing to be saying her as there are women who are on this forum maybe over 30 and single..so are you trying to imply that they now have not much of a chance now of getting married?
Plus I found you most recent comment inappropriate implying that i am disregarding physical attraction.Where on earth do you get that view from?Clearly not from any comments I have made throughout this thread
The older a woman gets the less fertile she is. By the mid 30s a woman has reached the prime of her fertility and is on a gradual downward slope of fertility up until menopause. I'm just talking about biological facts here, there is nothing disagreeable about what I am saying. It isn't intended to be inappropriate.

I think you did disregard the value of physical attraction with your most recent reply to me saying that Christians marry at any age because they have surpassed the vanity of physical attraction and simply love unconditionally. I actually did tell you I agreed with the spirit of what you're saying because it's the ideal, but I'm talking about the reality of physical attraction absolutely being something we should discuss.

I do think you had an air of self-righteous piety about you when you said that. It's because I just doubt you would disregard physical attraction and focus solely on spiritual status the same way you're telling others to. Am I wrong?

Also, hey, not trying to step on anyone's toes. I'm sorry if I offended you.