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Keep pushing forward, @Brunny !! Don't forget that Christ told us in Matthew 11 that He is there for us: "Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest" (v. 28). I am not at all saying your intentions are wrong, but don't forget that a part of giving in the spirit of Christ is giving without expecting anything in return. Read this: "But love your enemies, and do good, and lend, expecting nothing in return, and your reward will be great..." (Luke 6:35). Keep going, friend. And remember to keep giving even when it seems as if it doesn't amount to anything. The Lord notices your work. God bless!
Thank you soo much,MaryJo,i needed that.I was hospitalized this past April because i had an abscess that erupted unto my 2 teeth(that had to be extracted),because the pus that came from the abscess spread untop my teeth and spread up my nose,that made my right side of my face swell up and became to change from a light pink to almost purple,and my sugars were high for a very long time and i was put on heavy antibiotics in the hospital for 4 days,and all my kids kept asking me ma when are you coming home,but when i did come back home it was the same thing,messes,laundry wasn't done,shopping for food wasn't done(it was a mess everywhere.Now i found out that i am going to be a grandmother,and it's too many things(and i am as well am facing eviction),it's like what else is going to happen.Why me!
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Oh my goodness, sister. First off, I praise God that He was able to heal you and help you recover from that. I can't imagine how painful and overwhelming that must have been...but look! You got through it, by the strength and grace of God. I will pray for your health. Second, I can see why going home to that situation would seem disappointing for you... I really do. In my opinion, I don't think it could hurt for you to express to them how it is you feel out of honesty. You don't have to be confrontational about it. Especially since they are your kids, they shouldn't have a problem hearing you out. Matthew 18:15 tells us to go to your brother in private and tell them their fault. After you try consistently to express your issue, there isn't much you can do besides shake the dust off and move on as God has called you to. It is truly up to you on how you handle it ~ it just sounds like you are in a quite troubling situation personally, and I think it may make you feel better to hash everything out with your children.
Third, I am unaware of the situation, but I am happy for you that you are going to be a grandmother. ALL children are a preplanned, gift from the Lord (Psalm 127:3). Even though it may not be practical, this child was God given! Lastly, I understand why it seems like things are just too much. I promise you that God has a plan for you in the midst of it ~ pray about it. Ask Him why this is, don't be afraid to go to the Lord and seek answers for your struggle, ask Him to help you regardless. I think Matthew 11:28 is perfect for your situation. Christ is there!
God bless, @Brunny !
Third, I am unaware of the situation, but I am happy for you that you are going to be a grandmother. ALL children are a preplanned, gift from the Lord (Psalm 127:3). Even though it may not be practical, this child was God given! Lastly, I understand why it seems like things are just too much. I promise you that God has a plan for you in the midst of it ~ pray about it. Ask Him why this is, don't be afraid to go to the Lord and seek answers for your struggle, ask Him to help you regardless. I think Matthew 11:28 is perfect for your situation. Christ is there!
God bless, @Brunny !
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Hi Brunny,
Been there, in fact still there hehe. First i have to remember that God is right there w/ me thru the storms and clutter. You can always run to the Lord too, all who are weary and heavy-laden. I hope u find time to refresh thru His words, early in the day, or just before bed. Both works, but i like at night esp too because sometimes even when we're tired, we cannot always go to sleep at once, and it helps to have positive, Godly thoughts from what we read before going off to sleep.
I'm not sure what ages ur children are, but whatever, at some point i knew they had to learn to catch some of the housework, and we learn to delegate too=). When they were small, i wanted them to have some rest after coming home from school, and didnt want them at my back while preparing dinner. But i realized that was valuable time when they could have been involved in helping mama at a rather stressful time for me too. The appreciation has to be taught too, i guess, altho how would vary depending on how (much or little) they are involved now. There was a missionary's house i visited once, and i saw how the mom brightly said Thank you to a child who assisted in a small way. I realized it must be some difference in pace, for theirs seemed like a slower-paced household, they can move and do some things slowly.. While at home, my hubby is esp one who likes to breeze thru tasks-- actually w/ help from the kids. It is easy for him to fix their bike, for ex., then let them clean up afterwards. W/ cooking, as he does not do that everyday, he can also quickly call for a child or 2 when he wants someone to prepare garlics and onions, or wash up after cooking. While mama, who seems the mainstay at the kitchen... can well do it by herself-- or can she?!
Praying the Lord give us more wisdom as we ask, and strength, wc everyone really needs day by day. Hope to see u more, bunny, as we encourage each other in this journey of life!
Been there, in fact still there hehe. First i have to remember that God is right there w/ me thru the storms and clutter. You can always run to the Lord too, all who are weary and heavy-laden. I hope u find time to refresh thru His words, early in the day, or just before bed. Both works, but i like at night esp too because sometimes even when we're tired, we cannot always go to sleep at once, and it helps to have positive, Godly thoughts from what we read before going off to sleep.
I'm not sure what ages ur children are, but whatever, at some point i knew they had to learn to catch some of the housework, and we learn to delegate too=). When they were small, i wanted them to have some rest after coming home from school, and didnt want them at my back while preparing dinner. But i realized that was valuable time when they could have been involved in helping mama at a rather stressful time for me too. The appreciation has to be taught too, i guess, altho how would vary depending on how (much or little) they are involved now. There was a missionary's house i visited once, and i saw how the mom brightly said Thank you to a child who assisted in a small way. I realized it must be some difference in pace, for theirs seemed like a slower-paced household, they can move and do some things slowly.. While at home, my hubby is esp one who likes to breeze thru tasks-- actually w/ help from the kids. It is easy for him to fix their bike, for ex., then let them clean up afterwards. W/ cooking, as he does not do that everyday, he can also quickly call for a child or 2 when he wants someone to prepare garlics and onions, or wash up after cooking. While mama, who seems the mainstay at the kitchen... can well do it by herself-- or can she?!
Praying the Lord give us more wisdom as we ask, and strength, wc everyone really needs day by day. Hope to see u more, bunny, as we encourage each other in this journey of life!
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It's not fair, is it?
-- A woman practically kills herself taking care of her children, only to be kicked to the curb by them every day.
-- A man gives his wife fifteen of the best years of his life so she can run off with his best friend.
-- A young lady tries to eat healthily and exercise only to be diagnosed with stage-4 cancer.
The list of injustices is endless, but they all have one thing in common:
Satan delight's in our suffering.
Fight back:
1. Pray to your Father in heaven in Jesus' name who loves you more than you can imagine. I hereby give you permission to complain to Him. Don't hold anything back. If you don't know how to complain to God, just open the book of Psalms and you'll have plenty of examples from the greatest king Isreal ever had.
2. Read the Gospels and soak it in, especially Matthew chapter 5. Let the greatest Teacher of all time disciple you one-on-one.
3. Find a local church that believes in the Gospel message to sing and worship with. Just don't expect to be helped one-on-one. Churches these days are not equipped to help people solve personal issues. They are more interested in growth.
I know that sounds harsh, but it is a sad reality. Instead, get online and check every resource your state has to offer. Depending on your income, you may be eligible for domestic help such as child care, home maintenance, and even house cleaning.
It sounds like you need help in these areas, so get help any way you can. Don't be too proud to ask. This is exactly what Jesus is talking about in Matthew chapter 5.
Your situation will be helped by immediately repenting of any pride or arrogance you may be carrying around. The Father is glad to take these things from you if you just ask Him.
4. Start thinking of your unselfish service to others as service directly to God. Eventually, you will see those who take advantage of you being weakened, because God won't tolerate the abuse in His name.
-- A woman practically kills herself taking care of her children, only to be kicked to the curb by them every day.
-- A man gives his wife fifteen of the best years of his life so she can run off with his best friend.
-- A young lady tries to eat healthily and exercise only to be diagnosed with stage-4 cancer.
The list of injustices is endless, but they all have one thing in common:
Satan delight's in our suffering.
Fight back:
1. Pray to your Father in heaven in Jesus' name who loves you more than you can imagine. I hereby give you permission to complain to Him. Don't hold anything back. If you don't know how to complain to God, just open the book of Psalms and you'll have plenty of examples from the greatest king Isreal ever had.
2. Read the Gospels and soak it in, especially Matthew chapter 5. Let the greatest Teacher of all time disciple you one-on-one.
3. Find a local church that believes in the Gospel message to sing and worship with. Just don't expect to be helped one-on-one. Churches these days are not equipped to help people solve personal issues. They are more interested in growth.
I know that sounds harsh, but it is a sad reality. Instead, get online and check every resource your state has to offer. Depending on your income, you may be eligible for domestic help such as child care, home maintenance, and even house cleaning.
It sounds like you need help in these areas, so get help any way you can. Don't be too proud to ask. This is exactly what Jesus is talking about in Matthew chapter 5.
Your situation will be helped by immediately repenting of any pride or arrogance you may be carrying around. The Father is glad to take these things from you if you just ask Him.
4. Start thinking of your unselfish service to others as service directly to God. Eventually, you will see those who take advantage of you being weakened, because God won't tolerate the abuse in His name.
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