Block pornography

It is extremely disgusting, and I’m too old for kids 😂

2 paragraphs...bloody nora, thought it was a dissertation! 😂

Good Day!

Unfortunately, my wife and I had to make a very bad discovery. We have found out that our oldest child (13 years old) was watching filthy pornographic videos on the internet. Naturally, we talked to him about this issue and explained the dangers of pornography. He promised to not watch it again, but now realising how sudden such a problem can occur (we are a deeply religious family), I am asking you fellow brothers and sisters for help. We would like to ban all possibilities of pornography from our house, without completely preventing our children from using their smartphones. If someone has a solution, please please help us!

May the Lord protect us.

Bear in mind, this person is not even a ‘man’ in the eyes of the law! (In Hebrew tradition he is).

The good thing is...leastways something that I forget at times "consciously", is that the Lord is present and it's not like you can't turn away with his help. Some of these things leave scars, but eventually I think, scars are only a reminder...they don't actively interact except in memory.

Brain plasticity is another piece of good news...but there is some decent evidence that the longer you do something, the less likely your brain can "repurpose" itself completely. An example of this is smoking cigarettes...Depends on the person but it could take a year or it could take 10.

There were times when I took solid breaks from the internet, gaming, phones...I felt a lot better. Almost like eating meat/veggies again vs candy.

I presume that it's worse for children because their brains are still developing...but it can also rebound much more easily so there is that.


I think limiting the interaction is a reasonable move. It's pretty hard to cut it out completely (referring to tech in general). There's a lot of "organic tech" is what I call it. Basically the Lord's technology/programs (ex: plants/animals/nature ) and I don't ever feel guilty if I spend the day out hiking but I do when I play a video game all day.

I mean I'd feel slightly guilty if I had responsibilities that I was blowing off, but feel considerably worse if I blew them off for technology.


Tech also seems to seriously minimalize interpersonal interaction...which is a given, but it can be used interactively it just requires a bit more effort.

I can see how it would be difficult as a parent to curtail technology use in the same way it would be hard to curtail children wanting candy or treats.

A lot of it is just having too much spare time on your hands and being bored. Consequently, this instant gratification "syndrome" can make you bore easily. Tough situation.



I tried to be brief, but there really is tons to say on this topic. It is something that dominates a large block of a lot of people's lives, so it seems somewhat unreasonable that there is not much to be said. Just hard in a forum post to be succinct without cover pages with the pertinent info and then personal thoughts with interaction following. Also, the info is consistently become more available so I mostly just focus on my own personal convictions a lot of times and what scripture suggests or says directly.

Perhaps this is just not the most ideal platform for bulk information. I just know there are some people who the info is what makes the decision for them, and for others it's the conviction...impossible to know sometimes.

In my personal experience I will say sexual expression will take effect regardless of internet restrictions. The reason it’s so addictive is because it’s so powerful. We didn’t have internet when I was growing up. It didn’t stop us from finding pornography and girls willing to share themselves for attention. The control has to be based on your son’s desire for purity. Some of my friends told me their sons your son’s age were propositioned by girls for mutual sexual favours. Whether it’s a 13 year old boy or a 30 year old married Christian man. If you don’t make the conscious personal decision to keep your eyes and thoughts pure it’s hopeless. There is no end to way one can find to defile oneself. Think addictions. Usually a control substance is to feel better, or numb pain. What is your son like? Does he appear to be in pain or anxious? Does he like sports? Is he under a lot of pressure? I’m sure because of the Covid isolation there is loneliness. He’s becoming a man now. He doesn’t want to feel like a kid. When children start becoming adults and formulate their own morality and can no longer be bribed or threatened for discipline you will notice a difference in their personality, and not a favourable one. When you push, they will push back, and it won’t be fun. Power struggle is the result. Many parents see their kids make stupid decisions and try to stop them instead of letting them learn. Failure is a fantastic learning tool. I’m not saying throw them to the wolves but arm them with values and wisdom then let them step into the wilderness. Walk a little further behind them and call to them when you see danger. Let them face danger and overcome it. This is what builds independence and fortitude. Let them fall and pick themselves up. With my oldest son (now 16) I tried to make him a better version of me. We would fight and argue, I even thought he might be narcissistic and wondered if he was going to end up in jail. I can’t even describe the transformation that occurred when I backed off. I was making him feel so insecure and afraid. God told me to back off. He said since teens are more influenced by friends than their parents so be a better friend and less a parent. We got a ping pong table and played games together. I got him a job working with me and bought him some tools. We watched movies together and built stuff. Now this child who was failing at school and life, that I thought was going to end up going to jail wants to follow me into the trades. His marks are fantastic and he is very responsible. We have opportunities to talk and he continually asks for advice. Once I allowed him to take ownership of himself he became so much more than I ever expected. Now, I’m not saying you shouldn’t make viewing pornography more difficult but ultimately the decision he makes is going to be the one that he obeys.

In the Bible he is not. In Leviticus God says what the value of a person is in shekels-a child is someone up to age 20.

Good Day!

Unfortunately, my wife and I had to make a very bad discovery. We have found out that our oldest child (13 years old) was watching filthy pornographic videos on the internet. Naturally, we talked to him about this issue and explained the dangers of pornography. He promised to not watch it again, but now realising how sudden such a problem can occur (we are a deeply religious family), I am asking you fellow brothers and sisters for help. We would like to ban all possibilities of pornography from our house, without completely preventing our children from using their smartphones. If someone has a solution, please please help us!

May the Lord protect us.

Do you know where in the Bible maybe?

In the Bible he is not. In Leviticus God says what the value of a person is in shekels-a child is someone up to age 20.

Its not going anywhere. We know how easy it is to find this. And your like.. I can find this this easy.. and they can't? They can ban block a post a tweet a youtube video, facebook..and they can't this? They want it.. heard so many stories about this with some in Washington..and nothing happens. So we know where the fight is.. its not here with man

But it's idolatry.

Good Day!

Unfortunately, my wife and I had to make a very bad discovery. We have found out that our oldest child (13 years old) was watching filthy pornographic videos on the internet. Naturally, we talked to him about this issue and explained the dangers of pornography. He promised to not watch it again, but now realising how sudden such a problem can occur (we are a deeply religious family), I am asking you fellow brothers and sisters for help. We would like to ban all possibilities of pornography from our house, without completely preventing our children from using their smartphones. If someone has a solution, please please help us!

May the Lord protect us.

Rather than controlling the child which will chip away mutual trust, dad should educate the son about the evils of the porn industry. In other words, to look upon these people as lost individuals coming from broken homes who need help and who are often terribly abused and traffiking victims fed crack to perform, nobody resorts to that kind of employment unless they have serious problems. These are abused or miserable people that are desperate for money or literally enslaved, not objects for gratification and indulgence observing their messed up lives like it was an exhibition. Educating about realities of such life might have a lot more long term influence.

this is a humanistic approach to addictions. Trafficking, broken homes, abuse, etc.. did not cause Porn. They are the effects of it.

Perversion, lust, stronghold, and addiction . The "victim mentality" places blame on the action, not on the sinner or did the sin.

This is an error. Porn is a multi-billion dollar industry. And if preachers, teachers, fathers, husbands, congressmen, and leaders were not making money off of it or engaging in it. WE could stop this today. Thank God for COVID-19. In India and other places, many of the sex trade going on there is stopping because nobody is wanting to do certain things as that kind of contact. No Money so they are letting go of the women and children because they can feed them.

this is a humanistic approach to addictions. Trafficking, broken homes, abuse, etc.. did not cause Porn. They are the effects of it.

Perversion, lust, stronghold, and addiction . The "victim mentality" places blame on the action, not on the sinner or did the sin.

This is an error. Porn is a multi-billion dollar industry. And if preachers, teachers, fathers, husbands, congressmen, and leaders were not making money off of it or engaging in it. WE could stop this today. Thank God for COVID-19. In India and other places, many of the sex trade going on there is stopping because nobody is wanting to do certain things as that kind of contact. No Money so they are letting go of the women and children because they can feed them.