That's a little vague? Can you give us some more information? The word "gay," has many meanings. It could mean, "happy," as in you and Bob had a "gay" time with two women you met and went online to chat about it. Such as, were the women Amish? Or did you both go to a dance hall to rescue some women dancers from some drug dealers and you gave them a safe place to stay. So, happy could mean, you and Bob were gay until you saw the dancers and changed your mind and decided they were beautiful and you wanted to rescue them, which made you both so happy you decided to marry them.
Scenario two: You and Bob were at a Christmas party and you heard the Christmas carol, "tis the season to be jolly....don we now our "gay" apparel," which translated means, "happy Christmas party clothing," except that "Don" we now our "gay" apparel shouldn't be misinterpreted as you and Bob met someone named "Don," and put on some atypical type clothing, lipstick, dresses and such, which might come across a bit unusual at a Christmas party, three dudes dressed "gay," which would not make people happy, unless it was Halloween, maybe. And you did it for fun to make dudes who thought they might be gay less depressed and gave them hope, because they talked with someone named Bob. And Bob was really a psychiatrist who had counseled so many gay people that he began to doubt his own sexual identity and asked his wife for help. But she said that he was the psychiatrist and got paid $300/hour and came home and gave her that kind of bs from La La land after she worked a 40 hour work week counseling transvestites, and then had to come home and cook him dinner, but that it might help him if he put on her underwear and walked down the street to the store to pick up some PMS pills and buy her some women's underwear and say they were for his wife, so he could try and sort out his own identity issues by the time he got back home and pay her $300 for the therapy. So, on the way home, Bob ran into Don and the other two dudes wearing dresses, and told them that they looked gay and needed therapy, and they could make an appointment for counseling with his wife.
They said they were busy, so Bob said they could walk home with him and all four of them could ask her what to do about the crisis.
When Bob's wife opened the door, she said she could talk to them, but it would cost them $300 dollars each for 14 days since they would have to be quarantined in her garage and she could talk to them via the internet in an online Christian chat room, where they would be accepted for who they were and no one would judge them, except to say that they had a 50/50 chance of not being sent to a small island in the Pacific called "bikini" atol where the French were going to test a new hydrogen bomb, if they said they were Scottish. But that Bob would have to give his underwear back to his wife because they were low on laundry detergent because they were quarantined in their house for 2 weeks and she needed them back.
So, it would help if the OP (original poster) could give us some more information about just exactly what Bob said to him.
But, probably the short answer is that if you are that easily confused after talking to one dude, then you might want to find a girlfriend who could give you a second opinion by a simple demonstration of how to passionately kiss a lady, and see how you feel about it.
Like the song:
"It's In His Kiss" Betty Everett
Bob Newhart - SitCom Psychiatrist: "Just Stop It!!"
On a serious note. Many people have been helped by Christian Freedom and deliverance ministries such as "Freedom IN Christ Ministries," founded by Dr. Neil Anderson, ficm.com and the books, "The Bondage Breaker," which helps Christians resolve inner conflicts, including many aspects of identity issues, which can be resolved by understanding that our true identity is found through knowing who we were created to be, that Dr. Anderson refers to as our true "identity in Christ."