Why do you think God has you single?

this amazing nurse, Sister abigail, stayed single and she adopted a huge number of children.

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Why do I think God has me single? Uh... why should I blame God? "God how could you hold out on me? You should have sent me a wife DECADES ago!"

I don't have a wife for the same reason I don't have facebook - I don't see a need for it in my life right now and it would take up time I want to spend on other things.

I'm very goal-oriented. I bike for exercise, but it drives me nuts to just bike around a loop - I have to have a reason, so I bike to w*rk and back. I have not identified a need in my life that either facebook or a spouse can fill, so I don't bother getting either. I don't know anybody across the country that I want to keep in touch with on facebook. I don't want to play the games on facebook. It literally has nothing to offer me. Likewise I wash my own laundry, do my own cooking (and others say my cooking is pretty good) and generally tend to my needs. I don't need a hypothetical spouse's income because I have everything I need, almost everything I want and no debts.

In the meantime if I got facebook it would get in the way. I would spend screen time on it that I could be spending on the forum, playing a video game, catching up with a skype group chat I've been part of for years... many other things I would rather do. Likewise if I had a spouse it would interfere with taking care of Grandma, always being here for her, making meals, helping her in a hundred little ways... not to mention the peace of mind the rest of the family seems to have, knowing I'm here if something happens to her.

Of course life is change. I may soon get facebook. Our church has been streaming services using facebook live. Two Sundays ago there was a storm and the church internet connection failed. Had I had a facebook account and been an admin for the church facebook page, I could have grabbed my phone and kept filming and streaming. I'm currently evaluating options. Likewise Grandma will not live forever - some day she will "pass on" as we like to say in the South, and then I'll have a lot more time on my hands and nobody to take care of. Maybe then I'll find a nice lady and we'll get married. One never knows.

If God is keeping me single, cool. Things seem to be happening just about right. Either way, it is convenient that I am single right now and I'm not impatient to change it.

Yet.

If you have a job, you take care of yourself appearance wise and you are halfway decent in the conversation department and single you are single by choice. If you don't take care of yourself (obese, bad hygiene, etc.), have no job, no drive in life and still expect someone to just love you for who you are, that's just being naive. A bit of brutal honesty is good for the soul

I think I am single for a multitude of reasons. God has used the single years of my life to refine me in many ways. Being single for 8 years has helped me heal and learn from past relationship mistakes, focus on growing in other areas of my life, and most importantly I've learned to see the idolatry of my heart that used to long for a husband to provide for all of my needs. I've come to know God as my provider. There are many other lessons I've learned about marriage after becoming a believer, but I don't want this response to become a book.

I'm also single because I have some ideals that I won't compromise on. (It might go without saying, but I also apply standards to myself for my future partner.) I won't marry a man who isn't a believer or equally yoked. I won't marry a man who is addicted to porn, drugs, or alcohol or tries to sleep with me before marriage. I won't marry a man who is dishonest or unfaithful. I won't marry a man who can't communicate in a respectful and healthy way or is abusive. And I won't marry a man who doesn't have a job. I don't expect perfection, but I won't bend on these standards even if it is not easy to meet someone who does not fail in one or more of those standards.

If you have a job, you take care of yourself appearance wise and you are halfway decent in the conversation department and single you are single by choice. If you don't take care of yourself (obese, bad hygiene, etc.), have no job, no drive in life and still expect someone to just love you for who you are, that's just being naive. A bit of brutal honesty is good for the soul

This is ridiculous. How long will you go on convincing yourself that you don't need a partner? This is sad.

Comparing a wife to Facebook? All that stuff about grandma? Come on now.

And If He/she still thinks you are special despite everything...it must be true love? Yay! 😍 View attachment 214967 😅

True love despite all the undesirable qualities... I suppose anything is technically possible. But it is a bit naive.

Why wouldn't people know that?

This is ridiculous. How long will you go on convincing yourself that you don't need a partner? This is sad.

Comparing a wife to Facebook? All that stuff about grandma? Come on now.

The one living the life (me) is happy with it.

The one observing the life from outside (you) thinks it is ridiculous and I am sad. (I am assuming you mean "sad" pathetic, not "sad" despondent.)

Hmm... which opinion is more valid? I think I'll stick with my opinion that I'm happy with my life.

Thank you seoulsearch. I will be certain to tell grandma she is officially a lovely person.

This is ridiculous. How long will you go on convincing yourself that you don't need a partner? This is sad.

Comparing a wife to Facebook? All that stuff about grandma? Come on now.

I've known Lynx for about 5 years here on CC and met him in person late last year, so I can definitely confirm that:

1. He's happy on his own, and spends most of his time helping his family, church, and yes, his grandma (she's a lovely person.) The older I get, the more I seem to meet people who are single and actually happy that way, and it's very inspiring. (Plus, his uncles are a total hoot -- just don't expect them to remember your name.)

2. What he says is true -- whether he found someone or not, he'd be fine either way. I'm trying to get him to teach me how to be so content in life but I don't think I'm catching on nearly as quick!

Truthfully, after spending a week with his family, I wondered if God was a little disappointed in me for worrying so much about dating and finding someone, etc. rather than devoting more time to taking care of the people right in front of me as he does.

This is ridiculous. How long will you go on convincing yourself that you don't need a partner? This is sad.

Comparing a wife to Facebook? All that stuff about grandma? Come on now.