A way for me to share without hurting my pastor's family.

I am sorry you are still hurting over this. Is there any way you could cut ties with them completely so your wounds would not keep festering in the presence of their indifference and what you see as hypocrisy? Cutting ties completely would mean you would need to stop exposing yourself to them in any way, shape or form: no personal contact, no peeking at their social media pages, no talking to people who also know them, about them. Wipe the slate clean, shake the dust off your feet, make a clean break, and walk away. The alternative is to endlessly cast about for some answer to satisfy your questions of why you have been rejected when they may never materialize. Look after yourself. Develop new friendships. Keep a gratitude list. Count your blessings. Pray for them. It is possible they are well aware of the wrong they have done to you but are too embarrassed and/or proud to openly acknowledge it. Try to forgive them, and falling short of that, forgive yourself.

You may see a previous post to help understand. This is just my way of getting things out. Maybe other believers here can encourage, correct or pray; but I don't expect much; I just need this out of my system.
From time to time I would see things my former church posted that triggered/angered/hurt me after a falling out. Long story short the pastor's family cut me off with little explanation, and what explanation they did give was utterly confusing. Since then I have witnessed the utmost hypocrisy in their posts. At this point I have officially cut almost any ties I had remaining with the pastor's family; only the church's facebook page remains liked (which may be unfollowed soon); and other congregants.

The church: Don't do life alone! We are called to be in community!
Me: So why did you leave me alone?

The church: Jesus comes to restore our souls, and restore the stuff around us.
Me: Like the relationship you threw away?

The church: Amazing things happen when we share our hopes and hearts.
Me: When I shared it you pushed me away.

The church: We believe God gives grace to everyone.
Me: Then why won't you show grace to me?

The church: Be strong and courageous.
Me: Why do you keep running away from this?

The church: Be humble and patient, bearing with one another in love.
Me: You have no interest in even trying.

The church: Walk with the wise and become wise.
Me: Paul called divided churches fools.

I am having similar experience around here, I go where He tells me to go, seems to me each church has one or some that do NOT know the Lord and like to make a show of how "holy" they are. Jesus told us in these days they would have an outward form of godliness denying the power thereof. I have come to believe when people are born again, Spirit filled, and desiring to walk in faith with a body of believers, the outward form only drive them away and it isn't the Lord they are heeding.

There was one church I visited a couple of years ago I didn't have any other clean clothes except my pokemon shirt and black jeans the minute I walked in people stared disapprovingly and one lady came up to me and said to me that pokeman is a product of the devil I didn't want to cause problems so i apologized and explained it was my only clean shirt and said to me young man it wrong to lie to your elders but I wasn't lying.

when the sermon began I sat by myself as to not cause problems during the sermon and the preacher came out with a screen in the back ground with the title the dangers of the gay. I was instantly uncomfortable but decided to give it a chance this preacher openly bashed and condemned them even warning his followers to not even be near one or you might be tainted by their sin. He then went on to tell a story how an abvious gay attempted to come to their church and asked if he could have help understanding why is the way he is and the preacher boasted how he said because you were born a sinner rebuked him and sent him away. At this point I had enough and stood up saying excuse me but who are you to say that to that person? He came to you for help but you called him a born sinner and rejected him, might I remind you we all were born sinners but Christ saves us this person was in need and you condemned him and sent him away.

He answered to me young man you are a child and know nothing the gays are a plague on the church and the body must not be infected if you defend them are you also gay? I replied no I am not but we are called to love and be love Jesus himself healed a person with a horrible skin sickness that no one would go near so if such a person is a plague then is it not our job to heal them when they come to us in need? at the he demanded I leave the church and never return with my foul blasphemous mouth saying this is their church and I will not infect them with my impurity. I answered back This is supposed to be God's house not yours but I will leave only because I cannot bare to see the so called Christian community be so cruel

This story makes my pastor look like a saint lol. At least I know it could be worse.

Sounds like an open door for communication, an answer to the desire of your heart for resolution.

oh, I should mention, I did take him up on that coffee since that email---this is when he said my feelings are not his responsibility, an that as a family they talked about it and it was very emotional; at this point he told me I may contact him only to ask a question; and I received more blocks after this--but still received some likes...so it certainly didn't feel like an open door for communication to me. Again only allowed to main service. Just many mixed messages to me.

Yeah, as I mentioned, even as recent as January the pastors wife liked my posts, which led to me unfriending them. I didnt bother with the fb page cuz at the time it was irrelevant, but then with the CV the online streams started so, I guess matter of chance. That churchs fb page is the only link between us right now. Knowing it will be the last time I ever see anything from them might be the tough part about, idk.