Not mature enough yet

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Aerials1978

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Over the last few days, the Lord has laid it on my heart as to why most of the relationships I have been in since my early years up until the dissolving of my marriage have ended with rejection. I’m just not mature enough yet.

The perpetual man-child syndrome has been the thorn in my side for the last 20+ years. It’s not that I am shiftless or don’t take care of my responsibilities, it’s that I never had the correct or proper respect for any of my female counter parts.

I never really understood why I had always been rejected. I always thought I had chosen to be with someone whom I was just incompatible with. I was sorely mistaken. The issue was mainly do to my lack of maturity and gumption.

I’m a joker, but my jokes and humor never seemed to complement those I had taken as a girlfriend or wife. I’m was also too argumentative. I always had to be right(even when I was wrong). To concede would mean I gave into defeat. I couldn’t have that.

Naturally the thought of again being in a relationship has crossed my thoughts, but the Lord has thrown the brakes on that hard. The simple reason was, “You’re not mature enough yet such a responsibility”

What is the God saying? He is stating that I need to be remade into a man whom walks with Him. A man who seeks Him first and applies that my everyday life. After my counseling, perhaps I may be ready.

I have learned that a women’s love should not be taken for granted. The tenderness she opens up should be honored, cherished, and protected. If not, it will be taken from you.

Eve was created by God for His glory and for Adam to have a suitable partner. She was created with all the best attributes of her Maker. Love her! Love her with all the capacity that God has given you. If I could go back and speak to my younger self, I would have much to say.
 

laughingheart

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Wow. That is some amazing inspiration. You are being raw and honest and I really respect that. These are hard times. All the best little brother.
 
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EleventhHour

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Over the last few days, the Lord has laid it on my heart as to why most of the relationships I have been in since my early years up until the dissolving of my marriage have ended with rejection. I’m just not mature enough yet.

The perpetual man-child syndrome has been the thorn in my side for the last 20+ years. It’s not that I am shiftless or don’t take care of my responsibilities, it’s that I never had the correct or proper respect for any of my female counter parts.

I never really understood why I had always been rejected. I always thought I had chosen to be with someone whom I was just incompatible with. I was sorely mistaken. The issue was mainly do to my lack of maturity and gumption.

I’m a joker, but my jokes and humor never seemed to complement those I had taken as a girlfriend or wife. I’m was also too argumentative. I always had to be right(even when I was wrong). To concede would mean I gave into defeat. I couldn’t have that.

Naturally the thought of again being in a relationship has crossed my thoughts, but the Lord has thrown the brakes on that hard. The simple reason was, “You’re not mature enough yet such a responsibility”

What is the God saying? He is stating that I need to be remade into a man whom walks with Him. A man who seeks Him first and applies that my everyday life. After my counseling, perhaps I may be ready.

I have learned that a women’s love should not be taken for granted. The tenderness she opens up should be honored, cherished, and protected. If not, it will be taken from you.

Eve was created by God for His glory and for Adam to have a suitable partner. She was created with all the best attributes of her Maker. Love her! Love her with all the capacity that God has given you. If I could go back and speak to my younger self, I would have much to say.
How often we wish we could turn back the hands of time.
Yet better to have learned these life lessons than to never have learned them at all.
Many people never do.
 

Lanolin

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A joker is a wild card and is never the King.
A man must treat his wife as a Queen and a wife must treat her husband as a King. That is something I've learned is the ideal in a marriage.

Not that I have been married but I did hear this at a christian seminar on marriage relationships. I think this is so true. I encourage you to follow the example of our King Jesus.
 

Aerials1978

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Wow. That is some amazing inspiration. You are being raw and honest and I really respect that. These are hard times. All the best little brother.
Thanks Sister. God is molding me for His glory. I can only look up at the mountain, but Jesus sees not only over it, but both sides as well(I hope that makes sense LOL)
 

ArtsieSteph

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Over the last few days, the Lord has laid it on my heart as to why most of the relationships I have been in since my early years up until the dissolving of my marriage have ended with rejection. I’m just not mature enough yet.

The perpetual man-child syndrome has been the thorn in my side for the last 20+ years. It’s not that I am shiftless or don’t take care of my responsibilities, it’s that I never had the correct or proper respect for any of my female counter parts.

I never really understood why I had always been rejected. I always thought I had chosen to be with someone whom I was just incompatible with. I was sorely mistaken. The issue was mainly do to my lack of maturity and gumption.

I’m a joker, but my jokes and humor never seemed to complement those I had taken as a girlfriend or wife. I’m was also too argumentative. I always had to be right(even when I was wrong). To concede would mean I gave into defeat. I couldn’t have that.

Naturally the thought of again being in a relationship has crossed my thoughts, but the Lord has thrown the brakes on that hard. The simple reason was, “You’re not mature enough yet such a responsibility”

What is the God saying? He is stating that I need to be remade into a man whom walks with Him. A man who seeks Him first and applies that my everyday life. After my counseling, perhaps I may be ready.

I have learned that a women’s love should not be taken for granted. The tenderness she opens up should be honored, cherished, and protected. If not, it will be taken from you.

Eve was created by God for His glory and for Adam to have a suitable partner. She was created with all the best attributes of her Maker. Love her! Love her with all the capacity that God has given you. If I could go back and speak to my younger self, I would have much to say.
Wow. WOW. I am completely amazed by your self awareness and transparency. I pray someday God helps you to get to that maturity level you need.
 

Lanolin

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we need to be so transparent that people can see right through us. How will we ever discern whats in our hearts anyway if we dont confess whats on our hearts to God?
 

Tum8

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Apr 18, 2020
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Wow this is really brave! Most people are too filled with pride to admit when they are wrong and I really commend that you were able to take a hard look at yourself to see if you were causing the problem. I really hope God blesses you with someone amazing one day.
 

Lanolin

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I tell my children at school they cant get married until they are older Im not performing any marriage ceremonies for anyone under 12.

I also encourage them to get an education first. Its hard because a lot of them dont really know how to treat each other with kindness. It needs to be taught and modelled.
 
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Over the last few days, the Lord has laid it on my heart as to why most of the relationships I have been in since my early years up until the dissolving of my marriage have ended with rejection. I’m just not mature enough yet.

The perpetual man-child syndrome has been the thorn in my side for the last 20+ years. It’s not that I am shiftless or don’t take care of my responsibilities, it’s that I never had the correct or proper respect for any of my female counter parts.

I never really understood why I had always been rejected. I always thought I had chosen to be with someone whom I was just incompatible with. I was sorely mistaken. The issue was mainly do to my lack of maturity and gumption.

I’m a joker, but my jokes and humor never seemed to complement those I had taken as a girlfriend or wife. I’m was also too argumentative. I always had to be right(even when I was wrong). To concede would mean I gave into defeat. I couldn’t have that.

Naturally the thought of again being in a relationship has crossed my thoughts, but the Lord has thrown the brakes on that hard. The simple reason was, “You’re not mature enough yet such a responsibility”

What is the God saying? He is stating that I need to be remade into a man whom walks with Him. A man who seeks Him first and applies that my everyday life. After my counseling, perhaps I may be ready.

I have learned that a women’s love should not be taken for granted. The tenderness she opens up should be honored, cherished, and protected. If not, it will be taken from you.

Eve was created by God for His glory and for Adam to have a suitable partner. She was created with all the best attributes of her Maker. Love her! Love her with all the capacity that God has given you. If I could go back and speak to my younger self, I would have much to say.
Congrats on your progress! Many guys sulk instead, then go MGTOW.
 

Lynx

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Aug 13, 2014
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Congrats on your progress! Many guys sulk instead, then go MGTOW.
Yeah buddy, we've had a whole mess of them up in here!

In fact, with all the threads you have dug up about one certain topic, I'd be greatly surprised if some of them don't sound off about how great MGTOW is and how evil all women are.

Also, welcome to the forum.
 
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Yeah buddy, we've had a whole mess of them up in here!

In fact, with all the threads you have dug up about one certain topic, I'd be greatly surprised if some of them don't sound off about how great MGTOW is and how evil all women are.

Also, welcome to the forum.
Thank you. MGTOW is out there, I tell my pastor about it because it is part of our culture. Will it last? Hard to tell. There are even so called "Christian MGTOWs" who claim Jesus and Paul were MGTOW. They are the blind leading the blind. They say nutty things like women are not commanded to love their husbands because they are not capable of that. What did God call those forbidding to marry like some MGTOWs are essentially trying to convey to younger impressionable men? Doctrine of devils.
 

Prycejosh1987

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Jul 19, 2020
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Over the last few days, the Lord has laid it on my heart as to why most of the relationships I have been in since my early years up until the dissolving of my marriage have ended with rejection. I’m just not mature enough yet.
But you were married. Its says alot about you and your persona. Women usually take marriage very seriously, well at least they used to.