Why do we idolize romantic love?

Whether a person is Christian or not, I notice that romantic love is always seen as something that one has to have in life to be whole. There are songs such as “You’re Nobody Til Somebody Loves You” which literally translates to “you have no worth as a human unless you have a romantic relationship.”

That is dumb. We all know that notion is dumb. But the thing is that it seems sometimes we fall into that idea too. I’ve seen more threads about finding a husband/wife than anything else, from all parts of the internet including here.

Again that isn’t necessarily a bad thing, it’s an understandable desire. Like all of us want to love and be loved. But could it be that we fall into this trap actually because it’s such an important asset? I’ve heard of so many Christian men and women saying that their spouse helped them and supported them spiritually and in their walk in Christ. Could it be the enemy tricks us into putting the relationship over the fact we want this relationship to be a help in our walk? Kinda like cart before the horse? Just spitballing.

You might want to spend some time in the Song of Songs (the Song of Solomon). Have you ever read it? Why would it be a part of Scripture unless there were some lessons in it for Christians?

Oh no my point isn’t that it ISN’T part of life and what God wants. Not at all. It’s more that we have a “love the thing and not the person who made the thing.” Wrong priority you know? And it happens so subtly without many of us knowing. I know I struggle with it too, hence the introspection.

If the persuit of romantic love is a distraction to your walk with Christ, then it is not a good thing. I've been through it too, the body and the mind can be VERY distracting when it wants something (much like a child), but at the end of the day if you walk closer to the Spirit, you are going to be better off.

I wonder if it has anything to do with the Romans...arent they romantic? And they had heaps of idols. Probably a hangover from those pagan deities.

Personally I hadnt noticed too many christian couples attributing being saved to their spouse alone...but of course if you are married that would obviously be the closest person to support or help you.

if you are married you desire is fulfilled but if you arent the I suppose it isnt, if you had that desire, But I would rather be saved first then married first.

I guess there are so many threads on it because of all the online dating sites that make a buck out of it. the wedding industry is huge...and so is the heartbreaking song industry.
I mean there arent nearly so many songs about doing housework and washing the car as there are about 'Ive got to find my one true love otherwise I will die' songs.

Romance and couples being passionately in love with each other is the reason babies are conceived.

Bonnie was a pretty girl
Eyes as deep as the ocean
She was my first true love
I thought if I could make her love me
I could change the world as I knew it
I could change my circumstance
That's what I believed

I said, save me from my sorrow
Love me like there's no tomorrow
Save me

Peg was a pretty girl
A smile as wide as the ocean
She was my next true love
I thought if I could make her love me
I could change the world as I knew it
I could change my circumstance
That's what I believed

And I said, save me from my sorrow
Love me like there's no tomorrow
Save me


~Wes King
"Save Me"