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Poor soul.
Do you fellowship with Jesus?
Do you pray?
I understand we can sometimes be wrong side outwards but not in our whole of being.
Please get under the wing of the Almighty that He may fill you with His peace and joy.
No offense intended.
I'm concerned since you stated negatives in the positive thread as well.
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Great threads, LHM!
Let's see...
I'll have to go with:
Recalcitrant (depending on the situation -- I can still be sensible, lol.)
Faithless (when I should just trust and believe.)
Fearful (when God tells us not to fear.)
Depressed (often for reasons even I can't explain.)
Restless (when I should be content.)
Let's see...
I'll have to go with:
Recalcitrant (depending on the situation -- I can still be sensible, lol.)
Faithless (when I should just trust and believe.)
Fearful (when God tells us not to fear.)
Depressed (often for reasons even I can't explain.)
Restless (when I should be content.)
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1.I can get anxious. I know I shouldn't. It is something I just have to keep picking up and taking to the foot of the cross.
2.Being with too many people for too long is draining.
3.I'm not great at small talk. I visualize myself faking my own death to get out of conversations about fashion or celebrities. I can't do it (The small talk I mean. The faking my own death would be a great acting challenge. OK, only if it was obvious. OK, now I've probably triggered someone. Sorry!).
4.I think number 4 now has to be, I might, at times, over explain and then apologize too much.
5.I am not a good "yes man". Firstly we have established that i am not a man but that aside, I will not agree with an idea to get people to like me. I will not oppose anything for the sake of listening to myself talk. It will be polite in my response or defer answering, but if you ask me, I will be honest. Some people confuse gentle with weak and assume that that makes me a follower. There is something inside me that cannot lie to you. For example, if you tell me you are thinking of dating someone who is still legally married, please don't ask me to be excited for you or endorse it. Even if you pout. Even if you call me names. If you are my friend I will love you enough to tell you the truth (Can you tell I've recently been in this situation and it was depressing on all counts?).
OK. Those are my five. I am many more. Ask for references and I am sure they will supply a more comprehensive list lol.
2.Being with too many people for too long is draining.
3.I'm not great at small talk. I visualize myself faking my own death to get out of conversations about fashion or celebrities. I can't do it (The small talk I mean. The faking my own death would be a great acting challenge. OK, only if it was obvious. OK, now I've probably triggered someone. Sorry!).
4.I think number 4 now has to be, I might, at times, over explain and then apologize too much.
5.I am not a good "yes man". Firstly we have established that i am not a man but that aside, I will not agree with an idea to get people to like me. I will not oppose anything for the sake of listening to myself talk. It will be polite in my response or defer answering, but if you ask me, I will be honest. Some people confuse gentle with weak and assume that that makes me a follower. There is something inside me that cannot lie to you. For example, if you tell me you are thinking of dating someone who is still legally married, please don't ask me to be excited for you or endorse it. Even if you pout. Even if you call me names. If you are my friend I will love you enough to tell you the truth (Can you tell I've recently been in this situation and it was depressing on all counts?).
OK. Those are my five. I am many more. Ask for references and I am sure they will supply a more comprehensive list lol.
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That's how I got a job after getting married and moving...…...
wait let me explain this better...….
The question was something about telling about my negative side, or flaws or something like that and I just blurted out with out thinking "You'll have to ask my husband" (we'd only been married a few weeks)…. well the lady laughed and hired me right then.....
GG's 5 - words on the way........
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There can be times when being blunt is needed, but the way it's packaged is even more important.
The message might be on target, but the way it's presented might be wrong or sometimes even inappropriate. Sometimes there is so much focus on the message that the packaging (which makes the first impression) is completely ignored.
I've been around a lot of people at church, work, or social situations who pride themselves on being "real", but what I think is even more important is to watch and see how they react when others return the favor.
For some odd reason, I'd say about 95% or more of the people I've worked with who claim it's their God-given talent to be "real" with people absolutely cannot handle it themselves. They crumble, explode, and blame everyone else at even the slightest hint of opposition or what they perceive as negative feedback about themselves.
I have no problem with people being blunt with me. I'm not exactly the sharpest tool in the shed myself so maybe I need a little bluntness, and I've made plenty of my own errors.
But if a person has demonstrated that they can't take others pointing their own behaviors out to them in the exact same way they seem to enjoy dishing it out to everyone else, it's hard to take much of what they say seriously.
(I apologize for derailing your thread, LHM, but it seemed like an important topic.)
In the past, I've had friends like this who were more than happy to point out everything they thought I was doing wrong, but if I dared mention anything in their own lives or approach, they would blow up and then think they could get back at me by not talking to me for however long.
In my younger years, I would give up and just let someone like that criticize everything about me to their heart's content, while I said nothing or went along with what they said in order to try to appease their temper. Inside, I was dying to be able to defend myself and point out that if they were pointing out my faults line-by-line, they needed to allow me a turn to be able to do the same for them.
Eventually, I came to realize that the silent treatment after the blowups was actually peace rather than punishment, and now choose to let those types of one-sided "friendships" go silent permanently.
The closest friends I have tell me like it is without insulting my character and allow me to say something back, even when they know it's going to be something they might not want to hear.
The message might be on target, but the way it's presented might be wrong or sometimes even inappropriate. Sometimes there is so much focus on the message that the packaging (which makes the first impression) is completely ignored.
I've been around a lot of people at church, work, or social situations who pride themselves on being "real", but what I think is even more important is to watch and see how they react when others return the favor.
For some odd reason, I'd say about 95% or more of the people I've worked with who claim it's their God-given talent to be "real" with people absolutely cannot handle it themselves. They crumble, explode, and blame everyone else at even the slightest hint of opposition or what they perceive as negative feedback about themselves.
I have no problem with people being blunt with me. I'm not exactly the sharpest tool in the shed myself so maybe I need a little bluntness
, and I've made plenty of my own errors.But if a person has demonstrated that they can't take others pointing their own behaviors out to them in the exact same way they seem to enjoy dishing it out to everyone else, it's hard to take much of what they say seriously.
(I apologize for derailing your thread, LHM, but it seemed like an important topic.)
In the past, I've had friends like this who were more than happy to point out everything they thought I was doing wrong, but if I dared mention anything in their own lives or approach, they would blow up and then think they could get back at me by not talking to me for however long.
In my younger years, I would give up and just let someone like that criticize everything about me to their heart's content, while I said nothing or went along with what they said in order to try to appease their temper. Inside, I was dying to be able to defend myself and point out that if they were pointing out my faults line-by-line, they needed to allow me a turn to be able to do the same for them.
Eventually, I came to realize that the silent treatment after the blowups was actually peace rather than punishment, and now choose to let those types of one-sided "friendships" go silent permanently.
The closest friends I have tell me like it is without insulting my character and allow me to say something back, even when they know it's going to be something they might not want to hear.
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There can be times when being blunt is needed, but the way it's packaged is even more important.
The message might be on target, but the way it's presented might be wrong or sometimes even inappropriate. Sometimes there is so much focus on the message that the packaging (which makes the first impression) is completely ignored.
I've been around a lot of people at church, work, or social situations who pride themselves on being "real", but what I think is even more important is to watch and see how they react when others return the favor.
For some odd reason, I'd say about 95% or more of the people I've worked with who claim it's their God-given talent to be "real" with people absolutely cannot handle it themselves. They crumble, explode, and blame everyone else at even the slightest hint of opposition or what they perceive as negative feedback about themselves.
I have no problem with people being blunt with me. I'm not exactly the sharpest tool in the shed myself so maybe I need a little bluntness, and I've made plenty of my own errors.
But if a person has demonstrated that they can't take others pointing their own behaviors out to them in the exact same way they seem to enjoy dishing it out to everyone else, it's hard to take much of what they say seriously.
(I apologize for derailing your thread, LHM, but it seemed like an important topic.)
In the past, I've had friends like this who were more than happy to point out everything they thought I was doing wrong, but if I dared mention anything in their own lives or approach, they would blow up and then think they could get back at me by not talking to me for however long.
In my younger years, I would give up and just let someone like that criticize everything about me to their heart's content, while I said nothing or went along with what they said in order to try to appease their temper. Inside, I was dying to be able to defend myself and point out that if they were pointing out my faults line-by-line, they needed to allow me a turn to be able to do the same for them.
Eventually, I came to realize that the silent treatment after the blowups was actually peace rather than punishment, and now choose to let those types of one-sided "friendships" go silent permanently.
The closest friends I have tell me like it is without insulting my character and allow me to say something back, even when they know it's going to be something they might not want to hear.
The message might be on target, but the way it's presented might be wrong or sometimes even inappropriate. Sometimes there is so much focus on the message that the packaging (which makes the first impression) is completely ignored.
I've been around a lot of people at church, work, or social situations who pride themselves on being "real", but what I think is even more important is to watch and see how they react when others return the favor.
For some odd reason, I'd say about 95% or more of the people I've worked with who claim it's their God-given talent to be "real" with people absolutely cannot handle it themselves. They crumble, explode, and blame everyone else at even the slightest hint of opposition or what they perceive as negative feedback about themselves.
I have no problem with people being blunt with me. I'm not exactly the sharpest tool in the shed myself so maybe I need a little bluntness
, and I've made plenty of my own errors.But if a person has demonstrated that they can't take others pointing their own behaviors out to them in the exact same way they seem to enjoy dishing it out to everyone else, it's hard to take much of what they say seriously.
(I apologize for derailing your thread, LHM, but it seemed like an important topic.)
In the past, I've had friends like this who were more than happy to point out everything they thought I was doing wrong, but if I dared mention anything in their own lives or approach, they would blow up and then think they could get back at me by not talking to me for however long.
In my younger years, I would give up and just let someone like that criticize everything about me to their heart's content, while I said nothing or went along with what they said in order to try to appease their temper. Inside, I was dying to be able to defend myself and point out that if they were pointing out my faults line-by-line, they needed to allow me a turn to be able to do the same for them.
Eventually, I came to realize that the silent treatment after the blowups was actually peace rather than punishment, and now choose to let those types of one-sided "friendships" go silent permanently.
The closest friends I have tell me like it is without insulting my character and allow me to say something back, even when they know it's going to be something they might not want to hear.
No worries.
Nothing here is set in granite. 😄
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There can be times when being blunt is needed, but the way it's packaged is even more important.
The message might be on target, but the way it's presented might be wrong or sometimes even inappropriate. Sometimes there is so much focus on the message that the packaging (which makes the first impression) is completely ignored.
I've been around a lot of people at church, work, or social situations who pride themselves on being "real", but what I think is even more important is to watch and see how they react when others return the favor.
For some odd reason, I'd say about 95% or more of the people I've worked with who claim it's their God-given talent to be "real" with people absolutely cannot handle it themselves. They crumble, explode, and blame everyone else at even the slightest hint of opposition or what they perceive as negative feedback about themselves.
I have no problem with people being blunt with me. I'm not exactly the sharpest tool in the shed myself so maybe I need a little bluntness, and I've made plenty of my own errors.
But if a person has demonstrated that they can't take others pointing their own behaviors out to them in the exact same way they seem to enjoy dishing it out to everyone else, it's hard to take much of what they say seriously.
(I apologize for derailing your thread, LHM, but it seemed like an important topic.)
In the past, I've had friends like this who were more than happy to point out everything they thought I was doing wrong, but if I dared mention anything in their own lives or approach, they would blow up and then think they could get back at me by not talking to me for however long.
In my younger years, I would give up and just let someone like that criticize everything about me to their heart's content, while I said nothing or went along with what they said in order to try to appease their temper. Inside, I was dying to be able to defend myself and point out that if they were pointing out my faults line-by-line, they needed to allow me a turn to be able to do the same for them.
Eventually, I came to realize that the silent treatment after the blowups was actually peace rather than punishment, and now choose to let those types of one-sided "friendships" go silent permanently.
The closest friends I have tell me like it is without insulting my character and allow me to say something back, even when they know it's going to be something they might not want to hear.
The message might be on target, but the way it's presented might be wrong or sometimes even inappropriate. Sometimes there is so much focus on the message that the packaging (which makes the first impression) is completely ignored.
I've been around a lot of people at church, work, or social situations who pride themselves on being "real", but what I think is even more important is to watch and see how they react when others return the favor.
For some odd reason, I'd say about 95% or more of the people I've worked with who claim it's their God-given talent to be "real" with people absolutely cannot handle it themselves. They crumble, explode, and blame everyone else at even the slightest hint of opposition or what they perceive as negative feedback about themselves.
I have no problem with people being blunt with me. I'm not exactly the sharpest tool in the shed myself so maybe I need a little bluntness
, and I've made plenty of my own errors.But if a person has demonstrated that they can't take others pointing their own behaviors out to them in the exact same way they seem to enjoy dishing it out to everyone else, it's hard to take much of what they say seriously.
(I apologize for derailing your thread, LHM, but it seemed like an important topic.)
In the past, I've had friends like this who were more than happy to point out everything they thought I was doing wrong, but if I dared mention anything in their own lives or approach, they would blow up and then think they could get back at me by not talking to me for however long.
In my younger years, I would give up and just let someone like that criticize everything about me to their heart's content, while I said nothing or went along with what they said in order to try to appease their temper. Inside, I was dying to be able to defend myself and point out that if they were pointing out my faults line-by-line, they needed to allow me a turn to be able to do the same for them.
Eventually, I came to realize that the silent treatment after the blowups was actually peace rather than punishment, and now choose to let those types of one-sided "friendships" go silent permanently.
The closest friends I have tell me like it is without insulting my character and allow me to say something back, even when they know it's going to be something they might not want to hear.
I agree that many people dont understand and think 'the silent treatment' is a bad thing.
when actually its a good thing if you dont have anything good to say, dont say it at all.
wheras lots of people will just say negative and critical stuff just cos they can. It doesnt REALLY help anyone.
be an encourager, not a discourager.
' the silent treatment' is more when you ask a question and the person you are asking totally ignores you and doesnt take your question into consideration perhaps, but it just might be your question is intrusive, or it doesnt merit an answer. For someone who is trained to answer almost any question, there are ways to deal with that.
and if someone is asking about faith and wants to know who Jesus is, we Christians are actually required to give an answer as to the hope we have within us. Cos...we have the answer lol.
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