Anger

I just get so angry so quickly lately snapping at my children and my husband. It leads to hurtful arguements. It’s like one minute I’m fine then there is a switch that flicks inside of me and I cannot get rid of my rage for hours : ( anyone got any advice? Thanks in advance

here is some wise words from the holy fathers hope some of them help have nice day and god bless you

1. The first step toward freedom from anger is to keep the lips silent when the heart is stirred; the next, to keep thoughts silent when the soul is upset; the last, to be totally calm when unclean winds are blowing. St. John Climacus

2 . Depend upon it, it is better to learn how to live without being angry than to imagine one can moderate and control anger lawfully; and if through weakness and frailty one is overtaken by it, it is far better to put it away forcibly than to parley with it; for give anger ever so little way, and it will become master, like the serpent, who easily works in its body wherever it can once introduce its head.
--St. Francis de Sales, Introduction to the Devout Life

3. When you feel the assaults of passion and anger, then is the time to be silent as Jesus was silent in the midst of His ignominies and sufferings.
O holy silence, rich in great virtues! O holy silence, which is a key of gold, keeping in safety the great treasure of holy virtues!”
--St. Paul of the Cross

4 There are two methods to subdue anger. First, that before a person undertakes to act, he places before his mind the contumelies and sufferings which he will likely encounter, and, by reflecting on the shame borne by our Saviour, prepares himself to bear them patiently. Secondly, that when we behold the excesses of others, we direct our thoughts to our own excesses, by which we offend others. This consideration of our own faults will lead us to excuse those of others. For a person who piously considers that he also has something which others must bear patiently in him will be easily disposed to bear patiently injuries he receives from others.”
--Pope Saint Gregory the Great

Most of the time anger is just manifesting as a sigm of hurt, frustration or disappointment. Most likely uve been stuffing all the disappointments and pain and it ends up boiling up now.
Try to find where it all started ,pray, forgive and tall to the people why you r upset and let go

Seems you have control issues. If that’s the case you need to learn to let go of it. You and your husband should talk to a Christian counselor. It will probably take just a few sessions to help you. My prayers are with you.

Thank you for your replies. I will sit down and read through them carefully tonight. I appreciate the time you have taken to reply.

I agree with this. Sometimes you have to look at the source of the problem and find out the general cause of it. Good luck and best wishes to you!

Judging by the way you describe it, it could be due to a chemical imbalance or nutrient deficiency.

First thanks for your honesty. Its not common for people to admit where they are struggling on here. I still have some anger issues. But fortunately I can see the funny side of it too. Anger is sometimes called temporary insanity. it is justified in some cases but we should be very careful how we process it. I don't think we should be ashamed of our anger either. For we are human beings after all. Violence in words in action and words should be avoided.
one idea is a journal. write down the times you get angry and describe what you said and what triggered it. when we are aware of our triggers we can either avoid them or just skate round them.
God Bless.

Another good point! Journaling is an excellent idea to help sort out problems. You would be surprised how much therapy that can be. I don't do it enough myself. Anger can be tough to control. There is so much stress a person can be under and not even know it. Prime example why we need each other's support.

i like your style. there is no superiority. we walk alongside each other in support

Thank You! It's the Christian way!

If it's taking you hours to get rid of rage, perhaps seeing a counselor. You cant fix a problem when you don't know what the problem is.

How is your sleep? I know it seems a mundane question but can make such a difference. I think a visit to the doctor for a thorough work up would be a good idea. There are a lot of physical reasons where moods can change and control can be difficult. If there are no physical causes then sitting with a counsellor can help you uncover what might be troubling you. I think of counsellors as offering a sounding board. Please be kind to yourself. You are in pain and you deserve support. Hugs.

Thank you everyone one for your kind words and prayers. There are some really good ideas here for me to look into. One other thing I would like to try is slowing down (I have two small kids and I’m always in a rush) and trying mindfulness. Does anyone have any experience of this?

Just go hug a Muslim terrorist. And tell his wife she should take him to see a Buddhist psychiatrist. And tell yours the meds are not working.

But I think the best rage therapy is learning how to direct anger in the right way, through group therapy is one way. We all have a common enemy - the devil and his raging demons. It's more difficult to have rage in church. The more we can talk honestly to brothers and sisters in Christ, and take actions that build peace, and help someone suffering.

Obeying the Bible, is powerful.

That sounds awesome! Good advice for everyone.

That's why Christians need to stand by each other. Always. It can make a world of difference. Good way of thinking!