Parties

What is your view on...paying for your own party.
Someone invites you to a party, but then says you have to pay for your own food.
Is this better or worse than potluck where you need to bring a plate of food.

Im wondering if its ok to refuse invitations because I just cant afford to go. It might be something like $20 but I just wonder whats the point of throwing a party if you cant afford to feed your guests. The money isnt going to fundraising or charity but on the food and dj or whatever. or would you only invite rich people to your parties.

I used to think it was normal to pay for your own meal until I heard of other workplaces who shouted all their workers and didnt make them pay or bring anything.

If we are the host... we pay for everything(all types of parties) that includes food and entertainment... It is up to you if you will bring gifts or food you wanna give to the host or to everybody 😊 but if it is a potluck party, you know...it is assumed that everyone would share...but for me... I don't really care if you won't... I really would understand... Sometimes we really go through tough times...😊


About those people asking their guests to pay ... I don't know... I haven't experienced one so far... First because i seldom go to a party and second i grew up in an environment where if you are our guest/s we are like,"we'll take care of you" please just enjoy 😊 Except when I was a student whether we will attend the party or not we were obliged to contribute for the party or else they will not sign your school clearance....

I would think it depends. I think in a special event party (birthday, bridal, anniversary) they should provide the food. If it’s a hang out or informal event, it would be understandable to be able to split the check.

A good way to check would be to ask “Oh hey how much cash do I need to bring?” and they can either say they’re either providing it or will say how much. And then you can say “Oh I forgot I have to do ________”

Its end of year work party. I think if you work in private sector, everything is catered for, depending on genorosity of the bosses but if you in public sector they dont want money spent on parties. Is my experience.

I havent joined the social club but if you do you just pay a bit each week like $2 out of your pay and then it works out. its tough at end of year to go to things you need to pay for because of Christmas etc just at a time you need money for other things I find. especially if, you dont get paid over the holiday period. Might just sit this one out... the staff that are paid all year or have a higher pay probably dont mind.

I have been to some birthday parties where you are expected to pay your own. I dont really like the practice and puts many people in awkward position. Although they tend to be buffet type arrangements I imagine if you werent flush with cash you would try to order the cheapest from the menu if you werent getting any food if it was a la carte. or you have to rsvp and pay by a certain date so the caterers can cater. what if you dont eat much?

people who are better off than others do offer to pay it forward sometimes which is nice otherwise few people would turn up, unless $20-$50 is chump change for you.

I had forgotten school balls. Yes schools charge for you to go a ball, and that doesnt include the cost of a dress, hair and makeup, so many cant afford to go, or like Cinderella, just dont have the dress.

The last party I went to catered everything and even gave out prizes, nobody had to pay. it was just show up, and wear something nice if you want to be photographed. and they were public sector organisation.

This work thing they say pay $20 and partners $50.

The last private company I worked for said you could bring a partner so I asked if I could bring my brother who would also give me a ride home but they were like NO we are not a charity. Partner means someone you are married to or ina relationship with. I was like ok. so I didnt go. I could have asked a date who I didnt know very well and it would have been fine they said but I couldnt ask my own brother.

if I was throwing a party and somene wanted to bring a friend then they could bring whoever they liked if they wanted to come as far as I was concerned.