Single Parenting

Advice on single parenting welcomed, anyone?

I suppose its a broad spectrum

A few things off the top of my head...

-Trust and talk to God.
-Fixed your eyes on Jesus.
-Find your identity in Christ.
-Don't carry shame or guilt, allow God's forgiveness into your heart and take away the burden of shame and guilt.
-Surround yourself with God fearing, Bible believing, Jesus loving Christians.
-Take care of your body.
-Teach your child/ren biblical truth. Be an example of Christ through words and actions.
-Be gentle on yourself, challenges inevitably happen, God will hold you and guide you through them.
-Know your child/ren, likes, dislikes, triggers etc.
-Pray for godly mentors for a child if the opposite gender as you. (As well as same gender if you want) Sometimes a single mum may need help with certain things when raising their son and same for single dad's raising daughters.
-Let your yes be yes and your no, no. Too often I see parents give in because of tantrums.

Blessings.

I appreciate the advice I do have a question, why do you say burden of shame and guilt? About what?

Oh ok, that makes sense. Yea, I've probably been there but thankfully I believe not anymore.

It's not easy as I raised my daughter alone. Try and have patience and love them while they are little, play with them if you aren't too tired, listen to what they want to tell you as they are only little once and grow up way too fast.

Yes, she is growing up fast. -.- will be 18 in 3 yrs

Pray for your daughter without ceasing. I was saved when my son was 2. He was saved 2 years later. I pray for him constantly, and I have watched God answer those prayers. God values single parents and their children immensely.

Thank you, these words here, that you have shared mean a lot to me. I love my daughter so much and I am constantly pleading the blood of Christ over her.

Yes. A mother’s love for her children is powerful, and I believe God loves our children abundantly more than we can think imagine. You’re doing great mama!

So exciting to think about, our love doesn't compare to his.

Actually, by definition the spectrum is narrow.

Avoid it!

Oh, wait... you mean helpful advice.

My daughter will be 40 her next birthday and she made it through a single parent raising. I know she appreciates the work it took to get her raised as she has said many times she doesn't know how I did it alone....with the cost and the work it took to do it...

Thank you for sharing and of course its possible just sad and annoying to go through I believe. Anyways, I'm glad you all made it through.

God is your husband. I was a single mom for 15 years; my ex had court ordered no contact with the children. I only made it with God, financially, emotionally, mentally, etc. He knows your special needs and will not let you down. And strive to be in forgiveness for whatever wrong has been done to you.

I appreciate the reply but I really don't like when people say God is your husband. When im walking down the aisle and see him waiting for me then I'll believe it, otherwise it's a cliche to me and no im not saying he doesn't or hasn't provided. Ive been I single parent for the past 11 years and I know I've only managed cause of him but he's not my "husband" otherwise all the older single ladies (even women in general) that I know would cease to desire male companionship.

I can say after it is all said and done as in my case that my daughter and I are close and have had a great relationship for most of the time. I lost her somewhere between 14-16 as teenage girls usually think their moms don't know anything and that moms are a pain in the butt. After she grew out of that stage we have been in a good place.

I know that we would both do anything for the other if it was needed and she has been able to talk to me about most anything without fear of rejection from me toward her.

I can remember an argument that we had one time when she said to me - You know how you want to hate someone but you just can't...referring to me and I said yes, I do know exactly what you mean....me referring to her... We both knew no matter how mad we got at one another that we still loved each other.... I find it comical now...

Yea, shes turning 15 soon and I think she may be starting that stage. but I pray she doesn't.