But it obviously was one
And I know what happened to me and how He led me ... and it was broken.
Is bad to not want children?
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And I know what happened to me and how He led me ... and it was broken.
There are many men who establish themselves in work/business so that when they marry their wives are provided for so that they can run the home and look after children. Sometimes it also takes faith to live like this and sometimes the wife may be able to help with income. I know a family with 9 kids and the wife and kids breed different dogs to help with income and they are very happy; the husband is a Pastor.
The Bible says it is God that opens and closes the womb so I can't see how it is anyone else's decision. Also it says that children are a blessing and the fruit of the womb is His reward so why would anyone not want such a blessing.
If you are single and want children, and you meet someone you consider a potential partner who does not want to have them, it might be a good idea not to pursue the relationship any further.
I don't see what's so wrong with not wanting to have children. Not everyone wants or is cut out to be a parent. And I'm sure it's God will that some remain single and/or childless. Relationships....marriage....children. Those things aren't for everyone. That's the point I was trying to make.
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nope, not wrong at all. having kids is a personal choice. i don't want any either. the more i think about it, the more peace i have with that decision.
i give made props to people who can afford and manage a life with kids.
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Ok guys let’s get back to the original idea and not throw any more verbal hands.
I’ve considered adoption, getting past the unfortunately more physically taxing part of child rearing. I’d have to see what is more likely to be adopted, a young baby or a child. I’m gonna guess a child gets more passed aside. I would prefer the help the kid.
But again...I have no idea how I’d do as a mother. And I imagine the adoption process takes a long long time...
I’ve considered adoption, getting past the unfortunately more physically taxing part of child rearing. I’d have to see what is more likely to be adopted, a young baby or a child. I’m gonna guess a child gets more passed aside. I would prefer the help the kid.
But again...I have no idea how I’d do as a mother. And I imagine the adoption process takes a long long time...
Try fostering or fos-adopting.
Do you work in childcare already or you just have abosolutely no clue how to look after children? Have you ever taken care of younger siblings, or younger cousins? Babysat?
I would start with Sunday school first.
I dont think there's anything hard about it but it's going to be messy I mean cleaning up snot, sick and poos. Yep that's what mums do.
Do you work in childcare already or you just have abosolutely no clue how to look after children? Have you ever taken care of younger siblings, or younger cousins? Babysat?
I would start with Sunday school first.
I dont think there's anything hard about it but it's going to be messy I mean cleaning up snot, sick and poos. Yep that's what mums do.
Just remember you are bigger than the child so until they grow past you, you have the upper hand. Babies just want to be held.
They need to feel secure and safe. I have an aunty that coulndt have children but she was a midwife and bought hundreds of babies into the world. without midwives. Many women would find it hard to have children without a good midwife.
I think the labour part of childbirth is quickly forgotten. But not all women are physically cut out for childbearing and it does depend on each child its in no way guaranteed that every birth is going to reach full term even in this day and age. many women do not mention miscarriage or stillbrith as its not really talked about, but its till, something many women go through and there is always risks. so if you are going to have children prepare as much as you can but each birth is a miracle in itself.
some women do all the right things, and still it goes wrong and the baby dies, while others do everything wrong and the baby lives. so you cant always control these things. you could pay thousands of dollars for IVF treatements and never have success, and then one day you fall pregnant without it. happens all the time.
They need to feel secure and safe. I have an aunty that coulndt have children but she was a midwife and bought hundreds of babies into the world. without midwives. Many women would find it hard to have children without a good midwife.
I think the labour part of childbirth is quickly forgotten. But not all women are physically cut out for childbearing and it does depend on each child its in no way guaranteed that every birth is going to reach full term even in this day and age. many women do not mention miscarriage or stillbrith as its not really talked about, but its till, something many women go through and there is always risks. so if you are going to have children prepare as much as you can but each birth is a miracle in itself.
some women do all the right things, and still it goes wrong and the baby dies, while others do everything wrong and the baby lives. so you cant always control these things. you could pay thousands of dollars for IVF treatements and never have success, and then one day you fall pregnant without it. happens all the time.
You don't think there's going to be anything hard about it....LOL
And I don't know why you laughed at my last post... I have been a stay at home Mother all my 15 years of married life and then for 9 years afterwards... because God made a way for this... and I have suppplemented my income by breeding dogs.
Good for you for fighting the good fight. Being a single stay at home mom is not easy.
Please give to me. Me and my wife had been married for 17 years and still childless
nobody here says you HAVE to have kids except im guessing YOUR parents. so ask your parents why they want you to have kids. Is it because nobody else in your family is having any.
are you even married? If not then why the pressure?
there are plenty of children to look after that desperately need childcare if they want to have children around. They could open their home and operate a childcare centre.
are you even married? If not then why the pressure?
there are plenty of children to look after that desperately need childcare if they want to have children around. They could open their home and operate a childcare centre.
But your life is not your own it was bought with a price.... so what you have said could be contradictory; because we see many times in the Word that it is God's decision and also that it is a blessing.
I agree we must keep our lives centred on what He tells us to do. I cannot find any Biblical evidence for God being okay with human beings deciding and stopping the blessing of having children. I makes no senses to me that God's people would choose to not receive a blessing from Him.
I see what your saying. The bible says children are a blessing from God. God has the control of who he want to bless with children
If you are a responsible and caring person, you should also be able to be a good mother. As to the adoption process, there would be ways to expedite matters. Where there's a will there's a way.