I wanted to share something wonderful that happened Tuesday morning.
My 6 year old son is being bullied by another boy at school. I'm not a helicopter parent, but I did bring it up with his teacher and she assured me it was being dealt with. At the same time these are 6 year old boys and I'm trying to keep a healthy perspective. I thought it was being handled but then Monday morning a neighbor came over to say she saw this same boy hitting my son's head. The neighbor was dropping off her two kids when she saw this happen on the playground and that there was no supervision so she intervened until the bell rang. I went and met with the VP right after finding out, and I decided on Tuesday morning to drive the big guy to school and keep an eye myself.
I work shifts, and had just finished a 12 hour night shift, I leave for work at 7pm and get home about 8am....school starts at 8:15 and is just 5 minutes away. My biggest concern is that my son will feel ashamed and like he doesn't have value, I have this concern because this is how I remember feeling when I was his age. I've given him some coping strategies, told him to stand up for himself and how he is allowed to protect his space....not to hit the other boy, but to fix his jaw and get mad and use his hands to keep the other kid away.
Anyway Tuesday morning as I'm getting ready to leave the house with him I stood on the stairs going down to the entry with him at the top so we're eye to eye. I told him how much Mommy and Daddy love him and not do worry about what this other kid thinks, I even said "he's a dummy poo-poo head".
Then I asked him: "You know what you are"? I was expecting him to say "I'm an amazing boy" which is something I say to him often, but not as often as I should. He knocked me for a loop though....instead of telling me that he's an amazing boy he said: "I'm a child of God". I almost choked up, and I gave him a huge hug.
My 6 year old son is being bullied by another boy at school. I'm not a helicopter parent, but I did bring it up with his teacher and she assured me it was being dealt with. At the same time these are 6 year old boys and I'm trying to keep a healthy perspective. I thought it was being handled but then Monday morning a neighbor came over to say she saw this same boy hitting my son's head. The neighbor was dropping off her two kids when she saw this happen on the playground and that there was no supervision so she intervened until the bell rang. I went and met with the VP right after finding out, and I decided on Tuesday morning to drive the big guy to school and keep an eye myself.
I work shifts, and had just finished a 12 hour night shift, I leave for work at 7pm and get home about 8am....school starts at 8:15 and is just 5 minutes away. My biggest concern is that my son will feel ashamed and like he doesn't have value, I have this concern because this is how I remember feeling when I was his age. I've given him some coping strategies, told him to stand up for himself and how he is allowed to protect his space....not to hit the other boy, but to fix his jaw and get mad and use his hands to keep the other kid away.
Anyway Tuesday morning as I'm getting ready to leave the house with him I stood on the stairs going down to the entry with him at the top so we're eye to eye. I told him how much Mommy and Daddy love him and not do worry about what this other kid thinks, I even said "he's a dummy poo-poo head".
Then I asked him: "You know what you are"? I was expecting him to say "I'm an amazing boy" which is something I say to him often, but not as often as I should. He knocked me for a loop though....instead of telling me that he's an amazing boy he said: "I'm a child of God". I almost choked up, and I gave him a huge hug.
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