The Power of Loneliness

I'm a loner. I choose not to be with a man, despite some interest from the opposite sex (even married men). I don't think loneliness in itself is a bad thing. It gives you time to reflect when you're on your own, and cos I work in a job where I'm constantly dealing with & listening to other people's problems, I really don't need the extra stress of a relationship.
I am done with men I think. I tried dating sites but they all want money off of you, and the men are all invariably sleazy and want you to give out personal details from the get go. I'm too cautious to do that, and I don't think it's safe dating online, as you have no idea who that other person is (they could be a stalker, murderer, they could be married, etc). And even if you meet up with men, they could just lie about everything anyway. I have advertised with men just to go for coffee, but nobody wanted to do that, which is weird to me. They all wanted 'intimate, private chats' or to meet up for 'fun'. Like - eeeeewwwww!
When I was younger, we all used to hang out with both sexes, and go out for dinner and/or coffee/drinks or to the cinema as a group or just with each other. There was no jealousy, as we were all just mates.
Though continued loneliness isn't good - I have nobody here where I am for work at present - I think it's something you just get used to. I couldn't imagine having a family of screaming kids to come home to, after a very long & tiring day at work, or having to work, come home, cook, gets kids bathed & dressed, ke ep the hubby/partner happy - it's just not me. If my partner/hubby wanted dinner from me, they'd have a long wait, cos I'd be telling them to cook it themselves! *Gold stickers to the parents on here BTW that do this every day*. Plus I hate noise now, so the above scenario is not one I want to be in. I grew up in a big noisy family and that was enough for me. I guess people with big families and lots of friends just get used to noise and having others around all the time.
Some of my gf's (past & present) are single, some have never been married. They are never lonely, & lead wonderful lives, working, travelling all around the world, and dating when they feel like it.
Loneliness can be a state of mind as we all know, not just the absence of others or pets etc.
I get lonely as I miss my cat. You don't realise how much a pet puts into your life - and is part of your life - until they are suddenly gone. And I don't think you can just replace a pet, as they are all individuals.
Yes talking helps with loneliness. You only get out of relationships what you are usually willing to put into them. But I've never had a big circle of friends or hangers on as I call them - that's just not me.
I think loneliness is something we still don't understand very well, but there are lots about the brain and about mental health as well that we still know very little about.

I'm a loner. I choose not to be with a man, despite some interest from the opposite sex (even married men). I don't think loneliness in itself is a bad thing. It gives you time to reflect when you're on your own, and cos I work in a job where I'm constantly dealing with & listening to other people's problems, I really don't need the extra stress of a relationship.
I am done with men I think. I tried dating sites but they all want money off of you, and the men are all invariably sleazy and want you to give out personal details from the get go. I'm too cautious to do that, and I don't think it's safe dating online, as you have no idea who that other person is (they could be a stalker, murderer, they could be married, etc). And even if you meet up with men, they could just lie about everything anyway. I have advertised with men just to go for coffee, but nobody wanted to do that, which is weird to me. They all wanted 'intimate, private chats' or to meet up for 'fun'. Like - eeeeewwwww!
When I was younger, we all used to hang out with both sexes, and go out for dinner and/or coffee/drinks or to the cinema as a group or just with each other. There was no jealousy, as we were all just mates.
Though continued loneliness isn't good - I have nobody here where I am for work at present - I think it's something you just get used to. I couldn't imagine having a family of screaming kids to come home to, after a very long & tiring day at work, or having to work, come home, cook, gets kids bathed & dressed, ke ep the hubby/partner happy - it's just not me. If my partner/hubby wanted dinner from me, they'd have a long wait, cos I'd be telling them to cook it themselves! *Gold stickers to the parents on here BTW that do this every day*. Plus I hate noise now, so the above scenario is not one I want to be in. I grew up in a big noisy family and that was enough for me. I guess people with big families and lots of friends just get used to noise and having others around all the time.
Some of my gf's (past & present) are single, some have never been married. They are never lonely, & lead wonderful lives, working, travelling all around the world, and dating when they feel like it.
Loneliness can be a state of mind as we all know, not just the absence of others or pets etc.
I get lonely as I miss my cat. You don't realise how much a pet puts into your life - and is part of your life - until they are suddenly gone. And I don't think you can just replace a pet, as they are all individuals.
Yes talking helps with loneliness. You only get out of relationships what you are usually willing to put into them. But I've never had a big circle of friends or hangers on as I call them - that's just not me.
I think loneliness is something we still don't understand very well, but there are lots about the brain and about mental health as well that we still know very little about.

Oh and btw...not all guys on Christian sites are stalkers and murderers-yes it's wise to be cautious, discerning and prayerful, but I have met some wonderful Christian men on Christian sites who for one reason or another it didn't work out with. He has not given us a spirit of fear but of power and love and a sound mind x
Maybe this is a season in your life or maybe it's just that you are happy being single, as long as you are true to your own heart and to the Lord, I am happy for you xx

Loneliness is something that probably everyone has dealt with at some point in his or her lives. It takes on so many different shapes and forms and it can be such a powerful life alternating feeling or experience.

It is a real/deep thing that people go through and yet at the same time, it is a lie from the enemy because we aren’t actually alone.

Being lonely and feeling loneliness is so much deeper than the physical act of actually being alone or by yourself. Though we often look at in the physical sense.

Definition of lonely
1a : being without company : lone too many lonely nights at home
b : cut off from others : solitary the train stopped frequently at lonely little stations— Robert Hichens
2 : not frequented by human beings : desolate a lon

Loneliness is something that probably everyone has dealt with at some point in his or her lives. It takes on so many different shapes and forms and it can be such a powerful life alternating feeling or experience.

It is a real/deep thing that people go through and yet at the same time, it is a lie from the enemy because we aren’t actually alone.

Being lonely and feeling loneliness is so much deeper than the physical act of actually being alone or by yourself. Though we often look at in the physical sense.

Definition of lonely
1a : being without company : lone too many lonely nights at home
b : cut off from others : solitary the train stopped frequently at lonely little stations— Robert Hichens
2 : not frequented by human beings : desolate a lonely spot in the woods
3 : sad from being alone : lonesome He was feeling lonely without his wife and children.
4 : producing a feeling of bleakness or desolation


What has loneliness looked like in your lives? How about in the lives around you?

How do you overcome different types of loneliness? Do you have any encouragement or advice for those feeling this way or experiencing this in their lives?

What does the Lord say about loneliness?

Loneliness has been magnified in the lives around me in such a way recently that I feel like it’s something the Lord wants me to be aware of.

Thank you for those that choose to share. If nothing else, know that YOU are not alone. You may feel alone or be alone, but you are not, you are loved. I encourage you to reach out to someone, anyone and talk about it.

Loneliness is something that probably everyone has dealt with at some point in his or her lives. It takes on so many different shapes and forms and it can be such a powerful life alternating feeling or experience.

It is a real/deep thing that people go through and yet at the same time, it is a lie from the enemy because we aren’t actually alone.

Being lonely and feeling loneliness is so much deeper than the physical act of actually being alone or by yourself. Though we often look at in the physical sense.

Definition of lonely
1a : being without company : lone too many lonely nights at home
b : cut off from others : solitary the train stopped frequently at lonely little stations— Robert Hichens
2 : not frequented by human beings : desolate a lonely spot in the woods
3 : sad from being alone : lonesome He was feeling lonely without his wife and children.
4 : producing a feeling of bleakness or desolation


What has loneliness looked like in your lives? How about in the lives around you?

How do you overcome different types of loneliness? Do you have any encouragement or advice for those feeling this way or experiencing this in their lives?

What does the Lord say about loneliness?

Loneliness has been magnified in the lives around me in such a way recently that I feel like it’s something the Lord wants me to be aware of.

Thank you for those that choose to share. If nothing else, know that YOU are not alone. You may feel alone or be alone, but you are not, you are loved. I encourage you to reach out to someone, anyone and talk about it.