Speaking of birthdays, we've always had them simple. Only my eldest sister had her debut, a celebration wc the others or I didn't think we had to have. These days we still observe simple celebrations, none of the long guest lists, decors, etc., which were more part of a dedication when the children were wee.
Not dread them, I am just thankful, and encourage us to pray thanksgiving. Now we sometimes eat out, but sometimes just get ice cream (and cake for the younger ones) and prepare something else. I told the children how, when we were young and going to catholic church, we'd often strive to go on birthdays (and often Christmas and New year as well), hoping that would bring us closer to God even when we missed many other sundays=).