Do I love him
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Hello Embal, I am pretty new on this app and I have been hesitant to enter the teenage forums. I am 63, older makes wiser, sometimes, lol. I have always enjoyed teens, and ran church youth groups for years, but I did not want to invade privacy. I do see several familiar names from the adult forums though, so maybe I'm not the only one to cross the lines. I notice you say the words "feel" or "feelings" a lot, so, if I may, I would like to address that. I assume you are a teenager, and during those teen years, there are a lot of crazy changes and feelings going on. Feelings are unpredictable, one day we may feel on top of the world, and the next we feel it's the end of the world. That's at all ages, but especially for teens. We need to learn to rely on facts and faith, not our feelings. Facts don't change, we can rely on them. That being said, in the matters of relationships and love, feelings do play a huge part, and it's hard to find the facts. So we need to be extra cautious because a mistake in love can be heart breaking. As a teenager, I didn't do much dating, I think I was too shy so boys didn't have much interest. Anyways I did get married at 20 years, convinced by the young man that he loved me and always would, and that God was calling him into the ministry with me by his side. I thought I loved him, I later learned that when someone gives us lots of attention and says they love you, it stirs up all these mushy feelings and you feel like you love them whether you do or not. Also, we do not always control our thoughts or feelings, Satan does have the capabilities of manipulating them occassionally. That is why we need the facts, and that is why we need to take our time, and look to God for His leading. That marriage lasted 23 years and we had 3 kids. We did work in ministry for a time, so it sounds like it worked for the good. I cannot call it a mistake, because I would not have my kids if I hadn't married him. But it was 23 difficult years because he was demanding, controlling, verbally abusive, self centered, downright mean. He also was constantly flirting with other women, had 5 affairs, and left me for another woman. Did he change? No, he knew how to act and what to say to get my love, not to mention all those other women. It was a hard life, it pushed me into deep depression, and even though it's been many years, I still struggle with the after effects. As a teenager, you are too young to understand real lasting love. You are too young to get too serious or to enter a commitment. Keep your focus on being a kid, you will be an adult way too soon. Focus on school, friends, having fun, and learning to love and be yourself. It's okay to date, those are fun times and help prepare you for the future. Mostly, focus on growing in God, go to church (and listen), read the Bible and pray, hang out with other Christians. God will guide you, you will know when it's right, when it's time, God does not just throw us into confusion and leave us on our own. Love, best wishes, and many prayers.
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