Great post I'm so glad you said this about the "list" and that it is according to the individual. I read sources that say there are 613 or so, but have not gone thru the books to count them. For the sake of communicating I'll use that list and right away I see much of it pertains to the temple sacrifices. There are those who relate to the priests, to judges/ people in authority, for married men, so on. I am a married woman, a grandma/ great grandma, no livestock or crops. There is not a lot of commands for me. Some of these instructions are antiquated as we now have indoor plumbing etc. I just don't see what is so hard about them, they are beautiful and courteous instructions designed to cause us to have a better life. Imagine not having to lock your doors because no one steals, kills, does harm? I do remember when I was a little girl, we didn't lock our doors. It was out in the country, nothing bad ever happened around us back then it was so nice. When our Messiah comes back He will rule with an iron rod! Every one will bend the knee. I consider what we do here in this life is practice.
Another thing, when Yahshua walked the earth He kept the commands perfectly, didn't He? Yet, we know He did not do the ones for the Levite priests, judges, women, etc. When we uphold what pertains to us, we uphold them all it seems.