Foolish Words

Have any of you received foolish words lately? Maybe you're going through a problem or finding it difficult to overcome something, and then someone tells you to take action. The issue is that they usually tell you to do something foolish or immature.

Today I was talking to a co-worker and she asked how old I was. I said I was turning 30 in October. Her reply was "oh wow...and you don't have kids? Then if you don't even have a boyfriend by now, you're probably not going to have kids unless you really put yourself out there. You need to put yourself out there. Start going out more and meeting new people." I told her I wasn't even sure that I wanted kids because the child free lifestyle sounds pretty amazing! She laughed about that like she didn't take me seriously...

Then later I think she felt bad and invited me to the club tonight. Several times a month a group of co-workers and their friends go out for drinks at a local club. This club is nasty. I've seen videos of it on youtube. They have men dancing on a stage and they get women to go up to the stage and they dance with each other provocatively. It's gross and as a Christian...it really saddens me.
So I told her no and she said that maybe I could find a man there. She said her friend found her boyfriend that way last year. I just laughed inside. Why would I want to go out with a guy that goes to the club to drink and dance that way? I found her advice so foolish. But I politely declined because I didn't want to seem mean.

What advice have you received lately that you felt was really stupid or silly? I think the best way to combat stupid advice is to know the Word of God and ask him to lead us each day.

Btw, ugh @Today I was talking to a co-worker and she asked how old I was. I said I was turning 30 in October. Her reply was "oh wow...and you don't have kids? Then if you don't even have a boyfriend by now, you're probably not going to have kids unless you really put yourself out there. You need to put yourself out there. Start going out more and meeting new people."

That had to be fun to receive...NOT!!!

My aunt, on multiple occasions, has suggested the following->"put yourself out there and meet someone different, it's OK if they aren't a believer yet, you can bring them to church."

When the New Testament mentions foolish words, and foolish jesting, it isn't usually talking about bad advice.

But there IS plenty said in the Bible about bad advice.
There's a lot in the Old Testament, especially in the book of Proverbs, where it does call unbelievers "fools."
And it's fine just to ignore the advice of foolish people.

I think the end of the OP's sentiment is also the end of the matter; just learn your Bible and ignore all the contrary advice.

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I have heard people (mostly men) say about wondering of they would marry someone, to test drive the car first. This is ignorant, rude and wrong.

It always disgusted me to hear people talk like that.

I have a friend that I feel has had foolish words spoken to him by his dad. He was dating a girl from college. His friends were trying to warn him about her.
His dad tells him she might be his only chance to marry.
I thought that was a terrible thing to say to your son. Sadly, the marriage didn't last.

I agree with you LittleMermaid,there are a lot of foolish ppl everywhere giving advice and it is best to seek Him and be in His will for your life! Not only on this do folks rejoice in their folly but I have found among many that say they are Christian talk foolish vanities! God never leads us astray,nor will He leave us to flounder on our own! I have been told here oh so and so is not a christian,or that one has been banned before,I do believe the Holy Spirit bears witness among those of the household of faith! I will depend on Him to lead me into correct fellowship! Someone told me today on c.c,that if I agreed with another's post then they felt "sorry" for me! How foolish for the enemy to think he can separate the children of God! Blessings. Look to Him,He will lead your walk and look ONLY to Him!

Yeah I honestly don't know what to do with stuff like that atm @LittleMermaid. It's really challenging being in worldy culture right now. I'm not sure if the right approach is to just go into the mission field and leave America behind or what. I've had some dreams pertaining to the subject of just starting the convo with missionaries, but it saddens me and brings up a lot of questions of how to even lead people to the Lord when that's where they "sit" so to speak.

So I'm right there with you after a fashion. Single life may be the move. I hope not, I pray not. If that's his will, I'll be sad but I pray and believe there is strength in him regardless for that.

I wonder what 'put yourself out there' really means? When we walk into a room should we yell, "Hey guys, I'm single!" Or should we make up some calling cards that say "Single and Available" with our name and number on them?

Well Zero, I'm in business marketing and I can tell you that it might actually work if you were to incorporate that message with your business talents. For instance, right underneath where it says, "So, call me, maybe" , have the printer add: "If You need Car Restoration Services" or whatever business you want to advertise.

That way it won't seem too forward or creepy. LOL

Following this metaphor gives illumination on a person's motive for marrying.

I test drive a car to see how it handles. If one insists on test driving a potential spouse before marriage, the motive for marrying is not love but the handling. But how will one handle it when the spouse's handling deteriorates with age? Trade in for a new model?

Don't sell yourself too cheap. If somebody insists on a test drive, you're probably gonna find yourself traded in sooner or later. Probably sooner unless you spend a LOT of effort to maintain your... ahem... road-worthiness and performance.

" If you dont see any guys youre interested in right now, why not try girls?"

All paths lead to God.

Wrong.

Jesus is the way, the truth and the life.

It seems people will offer their not so friendly advice in regards to relationships as one reaches a certain age. I will be 36 in October and and my children's nan has long been one to 'encourage' me to find a man, always makes me cringe. I rang her (their dads mum) recently to ask her if my children would be able to stay with her while my sister and I drive up to Queensland for my aunt's wedding in September. She asked a few questions which was fine but when she heard my aunt is 50 and this is her first marriage, she responded with "Oh see, there's hope for you, maybe you'll meet someone at the wedding" so nice of her to assume that my hope in Jesus isn't suffice but yeah that's people for ya, just gotta let it roll off like water off a ducks back and keep on keeping on

I don't take bad advice, I give it.

Actually the advice you've given me has been helpful

Thanks for letting me know. Always nice to hear.
I mean, uh, no way man. Bad advice only! (ssshhh are you trying to ruin my bad reputation?)

I had a guy not too long ago say " I don't see how you can have fun on this game playing the way you do" "you should play this way instead". Then he gave me a long 15 minute speech of how he thought i should play and do this or that.. But the thing to note was in his statement " I don't see how you can have fun playing this game the way you do". He can't see/understand it, so instead he gives me something he can see/understand.... Rather than get into an argument with him about what im doing, or try to explain/defend myself, i turned it around. "that's really cool, but that's not me, that is totally you though." Then i just proceed to keep the conversation on him, letting him brag and shine in his moment.

The thing is you know you and what is best for you, what makes you happy, and what doesn't. People on the outside who only know their perceived image of you and will always come around with suggestions of what they think is best for their image of you. That projection comes from them so you could just send it back, and affirm that what they have isn't you, keep it on them instead. Its not that it is foolish, for some that is all they have at the moment, but it is theirs to gift to others, and you don't have to receive/ defend or get annoyed by it. Just keep it where it came from and all is good, no need to conform to their image of you.

Boy have I seen that a lot! People get real uptight about how to play certain video games, and woe betide anybody who says their way is better. You'll get the half hour lecture, complete with diagrams, spreadsheets and slideshow.

That's kind of like life though. Different people identify different goals as meeting the requirements for "success." Their definition of a successful life is different, so their methods for living life are different, but then they argue with other people who have different life goals, who they think are doing life wrong.

Really...people get uptight over the way people play a video game?!

Have they nothing better to do?

I havent had foolish words recently cos I decided not to hang around fools. I used to work for a company that everyone was foolish and would tell me all sorts of rubbish like sure weedkiller is totally safe sure you can spray it round childrens playgrounds and there are no harmful effects on wildlife. Yeah right.