I was thinking and would ask in which ways. Certainly in ways beyond our understanding . With Lazarus it seemed two fold. Wept because others were not hearing the gospel or at least at first and out of true friendship from person to another.
How can we cry with those who cry as half the sorrow, and laugh with those who laugh as twice the Joy?
I do not know why Jesus wept, intellectually, but I know emotionally why.
Weeping is a response to an overwhelming emotion that is just too great to bear, so one weeps.
Lazarus had died. People were overcome with the loss and the tragedy of the situation.
Jesus equally felt this same feeling, how deeply those around felt at this loss.
To acknowledge this loss and feeling is to be human. Even though Jesus knew He would raise
Lazarus, acknowledging the loss was Jesus sharing the load with Mary and Martha.
Anyone going into this situation and dismissing mourning is a heartless brute. Mourning is part
of loving, knowing another and then acknowledging the parting of ways, and the breaking of this
bond.
5 "Blessed are those that mourn they will be comforted"
Matt 5
Jesus was linking again with those He loved, and sharing their state, and then bringing a temporary
resolution by raising Lazarus. This miracle is so personal, the other gospel writers do not mention
it. Though this is a statement of authority that Jesus had in the Father, its significance is the same
as healing someone, because Lazarus still died later.
The relationship with Mary and Martha as friends, is unusual because Jesus did not have female
disciples in the apostles, and the church has never been that clear over friendships between men and
women that are not sexual.
I have had many such friendships, and as a guy in a church dominated by women, if one has any ministry
it will be to women more than to men. This is a side point, but equally an important issue.