This is a problem I think. A lot of people see church as a country club for good behavior, and that we should exclude anyone who might disrupt our party, when in reality the unruly are exactly who Jesus was trying to reach and went to the cross to save. This includes every one of us, none of us are better in our own flesh than anyone else.
Mark 2:15-17 English Standard Version (ESV)
15 And as he reclined at table in his house, many tax collectors and sinners were reclining with Jesus and his disciples, for there were many who followed him. 16 And the scribes of[
a] the Pharisees, when they saw that he was eating with sinners and tax collectors, said to his disciples, “Why does he eat[
b] with tax collectors and sinners?” 17 And when Jesus heard it, he said to them, “Those who are well have no need of a physician, but those who are sick. I came not to call the righteous, but sinners.”
It seems to me that there is a lot of self righteous "I'm better than them" sorta stuff that goes on. It reminds me so much of the parable of the pharisee and the tax collector in Luke 18
Luke 18:9-14 English Standard Version (ESV)
The Pharisee and the Tax Collector
9 He also told this parable to some who trusted in themselves that they were righteous, and treated others with contempt: 10 “Two men went up into the temple to pray, one a Pharisee and the other a tax collector. 11 The Pharisee, standing by himself, prayed[
a] thus: ‘God, I thank you that I am not like other men, extortioners, unjust, adulterers, or even like this tax collector. 12 I fast twice a week; I give tithes of all that I get.’ 13 But the tax collector, standing far off, would not even lift up his eyes to heaven, but beat his breast, saying, ‘God, be merciful to me, a sinner!’ 14 I tell you, this man went down to his house justified, rather than the other. For everyone who exalts himself will be humbled, but the one who humbles himself will be exalted.”
We are not better, but the difference is that we look to Jesus for our righteousness and not our own. We should always allow for ANYONE to have the exact same privilege. If we don't then we start acting like we are the gatekeepers to heaven instead of Jesus by letting in who we feel are good enough.