Triggers

Hi,

I am a mom. And like most moms (and some dads), I am over whelmed ALL the time. I have devoted my life to raising my kids, only I am not raising them, I am going through life like a zombie. Everyday is the same routine, we go to bed and its all the same again. I have always harbored anger in my heart and at times they see this. They hear it. I need it to stop.

About a year ago I found and purchased this book Triggers(Exchanging Parents' Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses) by Amber Lia & Wendy Speake. One year later I finally cracked it open.

And so the journey begins. I decided to share it here. Hope Ya'll don't mind. Feel free to join me.

Section One: External Triggers - When it has everything to do with them ...

Disobedience
Scriptures:
1 John 5:3
Psalm 16:6
Proverbs 16:7

Obedient acts are blessings disguised as boundaries.

When are kids disobey us, we have an immediate opportunity to model obedience ourselves by being slow to anger, long-suffering, and gracious.

"His commandments are not burdensome"

Q&A
How can you practically deal with this trigger in your own life?

Well I failed at this, this morning. I have been sick for weeks on and off, but that doesn't mean I get time off (mentally). All of yesterday I was in bed coughing up a lung and with migraines. All the while going through the checklist of errands and projects I had planned that were now being pushed back. Also wondering what was not happening outside my bedroom, like the kitchen being torn about by my boys and husband. Sure enough, I woke up at 6 this morning only to find a sink full of dishes. And I WENT OFF!!!!! At 6 am. I didnt care who was asleep. I was still coughing up a lung. And I did not have this book in mind or God for that matter, only to ask him why is my family so hateful. Because thats what it feels like when youre so sick to move and yet no one is worried about you enough or at all to help you in the slightest way.

What are some reasons your child(ren) disobeys you? How can you reach the root and speak to their heart so you can guide them to understanding?
I very quickly realize that before I can even answer these questions, I need to get to the root of my own issues. It would be hypocritical of me to speak to their hearts when mine is full of anger and resentment. I have a long ways to go but I'm going to keep moving on. The mere jotting of words are already helping a bit.

Id like to hear yours ...

Hi,

I am a mom. And like most moms (and some dads), I am over whelmed ALL the time. I have devoted my life to raising my kids, only I am not raising them, I am going through life like a zombie. Everyday is the same routine, we go to bed and its all the same again. I have always harbored anger in my heart and at times they see this. They hear it. I need it to stop.

About a year ago I found and purchased this book Triggers(Exchanging Parents' Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses) by Amber Lia & Wendy Speake. One year later I finally cracked it open.

And so the journey begins. I decided to share it here. Hope Ya'll don't mind. Feel free to join me.

Section One: External Triggers - When it has everything to do with them ...

Disobedience
Scriptures:
1 John 5:3
Psalm 16:6
Proverbs 16:7

Obedient acts are blessings disguised as boundaries.

When are kids disobey us, we have an immediate opportunity to model obedience ourselves by being slow to anger, long-suffering, and gracious.

"His commandments are not burdensome"

Q&A
How can you practically deal with this trigger in your own life?

Well I failed at this, this morning. I have been sick for weeks on and off, but that doesn't mean I get time off (mentally). All of yesterday I was in bed coughing up a lung and with migraines. All the while going through the checklist of errands and projects I had planned that were now being pushed back. Also wondering what was not happening outside my bedroom, like the kitchen being torn about by my boys and husband. Sure enough, I woke up at 6 this morning only to find a sink full of dishes. And I WENT OFF!!!!! At 6 am. I didnt care who was asleep. I was still coughing up a lung. And I did not have this book in mind or God for that matter, only to ask him why is my family so hateful. Because thats what it feels like when youre so sick to move and yet no one is worried about you enough or at all to help you in the slightest way.

What are some reasons your child(ren) disobeys you? How can you reach the root and speak to their heart so you can guide them to understanding?
I very quickly realize that before I can even answer these questions, I need to get to the root of my own issues. It would be hypocritical of me to speak to their hearts when mine is full of anger and resentment. I have a long ways to go but I'm going to keep moving on. The mere jotting of words are already helping a bit.

Id like to hear yours ...

Hi,

I am a mom. And like most moms (and some dads), I am over whelmed ALL the time. I have devoted my life to raising my kids, only I am not raising them, I am going through life like a zombie. Everyday is the same routine, we go to bed and its all the same again. I have always harbored anger in my heart and at times they see this. They hear it. I need it to stop.

About a year ago I found and purchased this book Triggers(Exchanging Parents' Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses) by Amber Lia & Wendy Speake. One year later I finally cracked it open.

And so the journey begins. I decided to share it here. Hope Ya'll don't mind. Feel free to join me.

Section One: External Triggers - When it has everything to do with them ...

Disobedience
Scriptures:
1 John 5:3
Psalm 16:6
Proverbs 16:7

Obedient acts are blessings disguised as boundaries.

When are kids disobey us, we have an immediate opportunity to model obedience ourselves by being slow to anger, long-suffering, and gracious.

"His commandments are not burdensome"

Q&A
How can you practically deal with this trigger in your own life?

Well I failed at this, this morning. I have been sick for weeks on and off, but that doesn't mean I get time off (mentally). All of yesterday I was in bed coughing up a lung and with migraines. All the while going through the checklist of errands and projects I had planned that were now being pushed back. Also wondering what was not happening outside my bedroom, like the kitchen being torn about by my boys and husband. Sure enough, I woke up at 6 this morning only to find a sink full of dishes. And I WENT OFF!!!!! At 6 am. I didnt care who was asleep. I was still coughing up a lung. And I did not have this book in mind or God for that matter, only to ask him why is my family so hateful. Because thats what it feels like when youre so sick to move and yet no one is worried about you enough or at all to help you in the slightest way.

What are some reasons your child(ren) disobeys you? How can you reach the root and speak to their heart so you can guide them to understanding?
I very quickly realize that before I can even answer these questions, I need to get to the root of my own issues. It would be hypocritical of me to speak to their hearts when mine is full of anger and resentment. I have a long ways to go but I'm going to keep moving on. The mere jotting of words are already helping a bit.

Id like to hear yours ...

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I am a mom. And like most moms (and some dads), I am over whelmed ALL the time. I have devoted my life to raising my kids, only I am not raising them, I am going through life like a zombie.