Describe the perfect relationship!!

Maybe my thinking on this is just skewed, but the wanting of a perfect relationship seems to be an issue in itself. Like a desire for some unattainable fantasy that will leave the people involved disappointed. That seems like it likely to doom any relationship here in the real world where there are things like conflict or problems. It seems like it would be better to go in expecting there to be issues to work through and knowing that you will have to work through them. That might help with making a better choice with respect to values and that sort of thing.

I've been called the grammar police, so I can see myself saying something like that-and really pissing off a woman!

This is my old cynical self speaking, but the older I get, the more I see marriage as a Catch 22: all singles who long for a partner, and heaven forbid they admit this, sexual intimacy, are all told to get married because "it's better to marry than burn with passion!" (1 Corinthians 7:9)

But what young singles don't seem to realize is, you get ONE shot at this - ONE, because if you somehow make a mistake... If you wind up in a marriage that's unpleasant, abusive, sexually incompatible, and/or downright miserable, you are stuck, and there is no way out.

Your best bet is to hope your spouse cheats on you (for anyone who can't tell, I say this with EXTREME sarcasm) so that you can actually have a "Biblical" divorce, because otherwise you will be branded as an evil, adultery-committing divorced person for the rest of your life, and can NEVER seek out someone ever again.

If singles thought the fact that they can't have a full romantic relationship with someone unless they marry was tough, they also have to face the reality that ONE shot is all you get.

And I see Christian couples all around me divorcing, whether they've been married 3 years or 30. Even the ones who stay together often are neither committed, loving, or happy.

I understand that most of what I'm saying will sound bitter and jaded, but with all the pressure placed on finding that RIGHT person you won't be miserable with in 5, 10, or 50 years...

I'm almost at a point of asking God to "turn me over to the dark side forever" and be content with just being single.

I agree that being single sucks(especially if you're married), but I've learned that being in a bad relationship sucks even more. I'm of the mind that if we focus as much as we can on our relationship with God-then he'll give us what we need.

I second that emotion.

Isn't that a part of song?

Come to the dark side we have the best chocolate and the least emotional drama (mostly because we don't let pesky things like other people's feelings bother us).

Mmmmm! Chocolate!

Actually, that was quite witty and I'm sure that it really irked her too which was probably the main idea. Sounds like what she was really ending was the marriage.

Don’t be sad.

Be happy that you are single for the time being and that you can do whatever you want until you marry.

Also, you can find such testimonies of our married friends in the Midnight Confessions thread by Tourist. It has alot of that lovey dovey sharing that you speak of.

Oh, that particular ex wasn't a "marriage" ex... that was just a plain old "serious dating relationship ex"... not to be confused with an "engagement ex", a "minimal dates ex", a "friendzone ex", or a "fixed up by a buddy ex".

There are so many varieties of exes...
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Ya know... sometimes you blurt something out about yourself and just immediately know it was a mistake..

Disclaimer:
Post #72 has nothing to do with me personally; I was only speaking hypothetically.
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I have had my share of x's also but only one X.

I have a double ex.

Brave brave man

Maybe more like crazy.

It’s okay.

We all make misxtakes.

I don't have any of those stories because I'm single.

I could make one though. I have been told I have a talent for writing short stories. It would be fiction though, as I have no experience in the matter.