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exactly there nothing wrong in finding someone attractive. as long u have cheminstry and find something interesting about them that make u fall for them in the first place.
I see some young girl married older guy who are around 50 or 60. These guy are old. the only reason they are with them is because they have money and supported them. They arent physical attractive and have an awful personality. Do you honestly believe these girls are truly happy.
I see some young girl married older guy who are around 50 or 60. These guy are old. the only reason they are with them is because they have money and supported them. They arent physical attractive and have an awful personality. Do you honestly believe these girls are truly happy.
physical attraction plays a role.
if you see someone you find physically attractive, there may be an interest to talk to the person. as you get to know the person, the interest may grow or fade away depending on the personality/character/values/etc.
sometimes the opposite happens. there have been a few times in my life i saw a guy as neither attractive or not attractive. i didn't have an opinion. as i got to know him, i started to like him and finding him attractive.
i believe my husband is the most handsome man ever - physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually. nobody is going to change that
when i met him, i was like "dang.. he's good looking." and obviously, my automatic response was to shy away
if you see someone you find physically attractive, there may be an interest to talk to the person. as you get to know the person, the interest may grow or fade away depending on the personality/character/values/etc.
sometimes the opposite happens. there have been a few times in my life i saw a guy as neither attractive or not attractive. i didn't have an opinion. as i got to know him, i started to like him and finding him attractive.
i believe my husband is the most handsome man ever - physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually. nobody is going to change that
when i met him, i was like "dang.. he's good looking." and obviously, my automatic response was to shy away -
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I agree with u.
Im pretty sure that everyone had a crush on someone once in their life time. When they were little kids or possibly in their young teenagers years. And found someone attractive due to their physical appearance not just their personality. But once they are grown-up they realize that look arent everything and personality matter the most.
Which I find it hard too believe. You can't only focus only on personality. You need to focussed on both the personality and apperance along the realtionship you have with a person. And see if they are worthy enough to be with.
Supposed I find a decent or average guy who only just nice. What if I get bored easily with him. Since his characteristics happen to be just nice. We don't have any connection or spark in our realtionship. We probably have different interest. We are always awkward when we are together. Do you think our realtionship could work out? Probably not. Because we dont have anything to talk about.
Now what if a guy
find a girl who he see to be attractive to him. The type of girl he like who can be polar opposite or has the same interest. The girl might be interesting as well. She can cook for him. She can be bubbly and funny. Has good characteristic. Im sure the realtionship can work. Because he and the girl could argue sometimes. Talk about things. And have fun together.
Im pretty sure that everyone had a crush on someone once in their life time. When they were little kids or possibly in their young teenagers years. And found someone attractive due to their physical appearance not just their personality. But once they are grown-up they realize that look arent everything and personality matter the most.
Which I find it hard too believe. You can't only focus only on personality. You need to focussed on both the personality and apperance along the realtionship you have with a person. And see if they are worthy enough to be with.
Supposed I find a decent or average guy who only just nice. What if I get bored easily with him. Since his characteristics happen to be just nice. We don't have any connection or spark in our realtionship. We probably have different interest. We are always awkward when we are together. Do you think our realtionship could work out? Probably not. Because we dont have anything to talk about.
Now what if a guy
find a girl who he see to be attractive to him. The type of girl he like who can be polar opposite or has the same interest. The girl might be interesting as well. She can cook for him. She can be bubbly and funny. Has good characteristic. Im sure the realtionship can work. Because he and the girl could argue sometimes. Talk about things. And have fun together.
My bf isnt likenthe most attractive. But character gets magnified over time. Love grows and matures and looks with time become less relevant. U dont get bored if u love someone. especially if u make sure that routine gets mixed up every once in a while. We barely have things we talk about a lot. It took a long time to figure out a good basis. The longer u are with someone the more their specialties show and catch ur attention. It cant get boring.
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Good point. I always thought what matters most is over all the realtionship and the obstacles. What are things people offer in the realtionship along it attributed.
The only ways I can get easily bored with a guy. If they aren't spending time or not showing any effort in the realtionship.
Supposed if there girl who has a boy who obsessive with videogames. He doesn't make a time to spend with his girl. Even though the girl try all her best to make the realtionship work. Even though the guy doesn't show any affection to her or pay little attention to the girl. Im guessing the girl is breaking up with him. Since she he isnt worthy. And she wasting her to be with him.
I agree on the part that look would eventually faded away.
The only ways I can get easily bored with a guy. If they aren't spending time or not showing any effort in the realtionship.
Supposed if there girl who has a boy who obsessive with videogames. He doesn't make a time to spend with his girl. Even though the girl try all her best to make the realtionship work. Even though the guy doesn't show any affection to her or pay little attention to the girl. Im guessing the girl is breaking up with him. Since she he isnt worthy. And she wasting her to be with him.
I agree on the part that look would eventually faded away.
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I think you need to go back and read those Bible stories because you're remembering and / or interpreting them pretty incorrectly. So let's go through a very brief history of love, marriage, and Bible. First off, this idea that you have to or should be "in love with" or feel some attraction to a person to make that person a good marriage partner is only about 200 years old. Really it just started up around the time of Jane austen and other classic romance writers of that period; before that people (at least people who were prominent and important enough to get stories told about them) were much more likely to marry for position, power, money, or political alliances.
Second God's choice of David had nothing to do with how he looked, in fact in explaining his rejection of David's oldest brother (and by implication choice of David) we get the rather famous 1 Sam 16:7 -But the LORD said to Samuel, “Don’t judge by his appearance or height, for I have rejected him. The LORD doesn’t see things the way you see them. People judge by outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart.” You could say it was Saul who was chosen because he looked like a king, and look how that turned out.
Esther was beautiful but probably didn't become queen just because of her looks. The less sanitized version of that story is something more like Xerxes former wife refused to come and be on display for a room full of dunken men so she was fired as queen and banished. Xerxes went off to war and got his butt kicked by the Greeks ( I believe that included 300 Spartans at a little battle no one's ever heard of in a place called Thermopylae) and consoled himself by coming home and rounding up all the pretty single young ladies in town for his harem and having sex with each one of them so he could decide which one he liked best and declare her the new queen. Anyone still want a love story like Esther's?
Samson had a thing for Philistine women. They seemed to have a thing for betraying him and he ended up blind and a prisoner because of it.
Joseph was sold into Egyptian slavery by his brothers. Bible says he was good looking and it got him falsely accused by his master's wife and imprisoned. After attracting the attention of Pharaoh and being promoted, I'm not sure how much choice he had in if he was going to marry or who to marry (probably one of those political alliance marriages). But it sure was better than being stuck in prison.
I won't say it's impossible for everything to line up and you to feel immediately attracted to and in love with a person and actually go on to have a long and fulfilling relationship with that person, but that is extremely rare. And I would side with those who assert that this mythology of romantic love as something bigger than two people that fates them to be together and live happily ever after does more to destroy relationships than strengthen and improve them. Best anyone in the modern age can do is realize that relationships require a lot of work, sacrifice, compromise, and commitment and become the kind of person who can fulfill such responsibilities once in a relationship (and then choose who to be in that relationship with wisely).
Second God's choice of David had nothing to do with how he looked, in fact in explaining his rejection of David's oldest brother (and by implication choice of David) we get the rather famous 1 Sam 16:7 -But the LORD said to Samuel, “Don’t judge by his appearance or height, for I have rejected him. The LORD doesn’t see things the way you see them. People judge by outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart.” You could say it was Saul who was chosen because he looked like a king, and look how that turned out.
Esther was beautiful but probably didn't become queen just because of her looks. The less sanitized version of that story is something more like Xerxes former wife refused to come and be on display for a room full of dunken men so she was fired as queen and banished. Xerxes went off to war and got his butt kicked by the Greeks ( I believe that included 300 Spartans at a little battle no one's ever heard of in a place called Thermopylae) and consoled himself by coming home and rounding up all the pretty single young ladies in town for his harem and having sex with each one of them so he could decide which one he liked best and declare her the new queen. Anyone still want a love story like Esther's?
Samson had a thing for Philistine women. They seemed to have a thing for betraying him and he ended up blind and a prisoner because of it.
Joseph was sold into Egyptian slavery by his brothers. Bible says he was good looking and it got him falsely accused by his master's wife and imprisoned. After attracting the attention of Pharaoh and being promoted, I'm not sure how much choice he had in if he was going to marry or who to marry (probably one of those political alliance marriages). But it sure was better than being stuck in prison.
I won't say it's impossible for everything to line up and you to feel immediately attracted to and in love with a person and actually go on to have a long and fulfilling relationship with that person, but that is extremely rare. And I would side with those who assert that this mythology of romantic love as something bigger than two people that fates them to be together and live happily ever after does more to destroy relationships than strengthen and improve them. Best anyone in the modern age can do is realize that relationships require a lot of work, sacrifice, compromise, and commitment and become the kind of person who can fulfill such responsibilities once in a relationship (and then choose who to be in that relationship with wisely).
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Oh gosh....
Here we go again with those nonsense disagreement u have. Why can't u forget about what I said.
Joseph in fact married an eyptain woman and her name happens to Asenath. She was the daughter of Potiphera, the priest in the city of On.
Even though they come different backgrounds.
Here we go again with those nonsense disagreement. 😒😑
Why cant u just let go what I said or just simply forget about it.
And yes Joseph did in fact married an eyptain woman her name was
Asenath the daughter of
Lof Potiphera, the priest in the city of On.
I never made an interpretation of something. Those are all fact according what the bible say. U on the other hand are making assumptions about some examples I used and giving some criticism.
1 Samuel 16:12
So Jesse sent for him. He had beautiful eyes and a healthy, handsome appearance. Then the LORD said, "Anoint him, for he is the one."
Esther 2:17
The king loved Esther more than all the women, and she won grace and favor in his sight more than all the virgins, so that he set the royal crown on her head and made her queen instead of Vashti.
Esther 2:7
He was bringing up Hadassah, that is Esther, the daughter of his uncle, for she had neither father nor mother. The young woman had a beautiful figure and was lovely to look at, and when her father and her mother died, Mordecai took her as his own daughter.
Samson went down to Timnah and saw there a young Philistine woman. 2 When he returned, he said to his father and mother, “I have seen a Philistine woman in Timnah; now get her for me as my wife.”
Some time later, he fell in love with a woman in the Valley of Sorek whose name was Delilah.
Here we go again with those nonsense disagreement u have. Why can't u forget about what I said.
Joseph in fact married an eyptain woman and her name happens to Asenath. She was the daughter of Potiphera, the priest in the city of On.
Even though they come different backgrounds.
Here we go again with those nonsense disagreement. 😒😑
Why cant u just let go what I said or just simply forget about it.
And yes Joseph did in fact married an eyptain woman her name was
Asenath the daughter of
Lof Potiphera, the priest in the city of On.
I never made an interpretation of something. Those are all fact according what the bible say. U on the other hand are making assumptions about some examples I used and giving some criticism.
1 Samuel 16:12
So Jesse sent for him. He had beautiful eyes and a healthy, handsome appearance. Then the LORD said, "Anoint him, for he is the one."
Esther 2:17
The king loved Esther more than all the women, and she won grace and favor in his sight more than all the virgins, so that he set the royal crown on her head and made her queen instead of Vashti.
Esther 2:7
He was bringing up Hadassah, that is Esther, the daughter of his uncle, for she had neither father nor mother. The young woman had a beautiful figure and was lovely to look at, and when her father and her mother died, Mordecai took her as his own daughter.
Samson went down to Timnah and saw there a young Philistine woman. 2 When he returned, he said to his father and mother, “I have seen a Philistine woman in Timnah; now get her for me as my wife.”
Some time later, he fell in love with a woman in the Valley of Sorek whose name was Delilah.