Knowing Who's The One

So, you've met someone you like or you have a crush on someone you know, but you're asking yourself if this is the right person for you. "How can I know? What is this person isn't for me?".


Well first, notice God has brought this person into your life for a reason, be that as a life long partner, a friend, a learning step or something else. God has a plan for your life, so never forget that.

Onto the real meat and gravy of the question, how can you know it's the one? Well, the spirit of God's conviction in our heart if this is the right person or not. Let me explain,

I've been in a situation I thought I'd be alone forever and only this individual person would like me. Even though I knew God's conviction in my heart was telling me this was not the person for me (At first nothing was seemingly wrong with them, but as always God knew something I did not about them I would find out later) I thought this person was perfect for me, I could see no wrong in them, yet in my heart something was telling me this person was definitely not the person for me. So after only a week I find out things about this person that entirely repulse me, they were abhorrent and then I realised why I felt that feeling of "Don't do it" in my heart, it was God.

So, after that I opened myself up to God, to him touch on my life. I will admit, beforehand I was somewhat distant to the Holy Spirit, I thought everyone else would be touched by it but not me, and even had doubts about it, I even struggled putting trust in God. However, God through this experience opened me up to the Holy Spirit in my life and I've been x100 better since. So, for all it's worth I'm glad I had that situation occur, because it brought me closer to God in the spirit and made me not only trust, but rely on God in all matters.

Now, I understand this was just my own personal experience, but I feel so long as we pray for God to give us his spirit of conviction in our heart, we can see through these things. But not only should we pray for his conviction in our heart, pray we are open and willing to accept it, because like in my own case I ignored the Lord.

I hope something I shared can speak into someone's situation, maybe others have had similar situations and would like to share. God bless you all, and all the best!

I learned that my picker is broken. If I try again, I'll definitely let God guide me. Thanks for sharing.

My experience is that if someone is not the right person God will close the door. For me it was not a conviction of the Holy Spirit saying no but the door closing.

I totally relate to this. I got myself into a relationship I knew was not meant to be. I completely ignored God's voice even though I could hear it.
I just didn't want to be alone and I was convinced I would end up alone if I didn't end up with just anyone. 😖
This person was a good person, but we were just not meant to be. We didn't share the same beliefs and he was pressuring me into following what he believed.
Even though I do not want to die alone, I have made up my mind to just wait on God (please come through Lord🙈).

I am the same way. I have met this man of God he goes to celebrate recovery and church. Helps with the kids. Loves the Lord but I get in my head like does he like me. I'm also kind of pushy. I'm trying to just wait on the Lord.

Going to read this

The short answer to your question is that "the one" is the woman who you say, "I do" to. In that sense, "the one" is the person you choose to be the one.

But the longer answer would be that it is really a process. Trusting in the Lord, rooting your identity in Him, and seeking wisdom from Him are definitely the foundation of it, and from there it just takes time to get to know someone, do a little bit of life with them, find out about their character, etc. and determine if that is someone you know you could spend the rest of your life with. In the end, I don't think there is a definite road map to doing this, it is sort of a journey each person has to navigate for themselves with the help of a strong support base and God's guidance.