Inviting people who dont come

I was thinking on this recently because I dont know about you but when I like to organise get togethers but its so frustrating when people say they will come and dont turn up.

It is like parable Jesus told of inviting everyone to a wedding banquet but so many people gave excuses. Does this annoy you? So he invited those who werent on his original list of guests. And compelled them to come. For what is a wedding with no guests, not much of a celebration!

Check out Luke chapter 14

Yes, I can understand the frustration if were to happen. If invited somewhere and you have no real intention of attending then don't say you will and then don't even bother to show up.

If it's someone that consistently does this, then yeah, it would be frustrating and I'd quit inviting them. If it happened once or rarely, well, that's life.

Take the Bible’s lead and find a new set of friends.

Yeah it the same as extending the invitation to follow Jesus to Heaven if people refuse well they just going to miss out, too bad, you cant say they werent invited. I do feel for Jesus though that it was his own flesh and blood family, people who were his own brothers, that gave the excuses.

And interesting that the lame, blind and sick were called. And people who couldnt afford to give anything back. Thanks to the jews refusal to enter in, salvation comes to the gentiles.

JEsus wanted his fathers house to be a house of prayer for all nations, he must have been so angry? Annoyed? Frustrated? that one tribe pretty much tried to bar all the rest from entering. But thankfully anyone who believes in Him can now come right into the throne of Grace and receive mercy. Thank you Lord.

We had a much lower turnout at my house for New Year's than for Christmas, lower than expected. My wide referred to that verse, and I did send out some last minute messages to try to get guests. Part was due to sickness. Partly due to last minute things popping up.

It is a good thing we had a fridge for the food.

I wonder whats the optimal time to send out invites or are their certain days when people are just too busy. Ive never had to plan a wedding before but I suspect you cant base it on when people can come you just set a date and stick to it. With New Years everyone knows thats a date to celebrate tho, and its a public holiday so most people wont be working.

You sound like our Father...……...set a date and if the folks are not ready, well, you know. They remain in the outer reaches of the wedding guests. So be it.

I wonder how many people Jesus invited to follow him and how many refused. Scripture records that twelve disicples followed him but did he pick many more or were they the first twelve to say yes?

How bout the lepers, ten were healed and only one came back to thank him.

How big was the remnant compared to the rest of Israel?

Of the two million israelites at the time, only two, Jacob and caleb could enter the promised land.

Its not as bad as people just didnt hear the call, but what about people that ARE called, yet then dont follow through. What about the two sons in Matthew 21 One says he will come work in his fathers vineyard, but doesnt, the other says he may not, but then does. Which one is obedient.

I think you mis-spoke, it was Joshua and Caelyb……...

a cheerful heart does the inviting -
a loving heart does the forgiving...

Thanks yea it was Joshua. I just have Js mixed up.

I wonder if its the way you word the invite also that could make a difference, like...

We request the pleasure of your company ...
Please rsvp by....

For catering purposes I mean you dont want to go to all that trouble and prepare everything and then nobody turns up. But what about things like potluck dinners (never works because men dont bring any food) picnics (always depends on weather) bbq (vegans most probably wont turn up) dances (not everyone has a partner or can dance) or, even church (can you invite non believers, hoping that the day they turn up at your church, they will start believing??)

Don't set yourself up for failure is the key here. To me, Yeshua did not fail sharing the Truth and it resulted in many refusing it. Spirituality is a different venue than being invited to watch a professional sporting event. Intelligent people will always find it difficult to reason between faith vs fact.

To the other concerning house parties, wedding parties, barbeque's, etc, people can be very much like a piece of paper in the wind.

Yes considering how far people need to travel and how they going to get there is it on you or them. If you have the venue right, maybe more people can make it. If you the host then you responsible for being there first and providing all the refreshments unless you tell people to BYO.
This is why in some things people give out tickets...? But then thats different again.

For something like church, would you give out tickets? What if everyone want to come and there was no room. And who would get the best seats?

He just said shake the dust off your feet and move on if people arent willing to welcome you..but maybe going to people is quite different from inviting them to come to you.

Calling everyone that might attend..isnt this what God does for us, calls each and every one us. After all you wouldnt just show up if you hadnt been called. Invitation need to be personal. Otherwise an invitee could be thinking well, they only want me to make up numbers. They wont care if I dont attend as lots of others are going.

we always have to question our deepest motives for what ever it is that
we are doing, simply because, we should always desire to be faithful stewards,
doing/believing what The Holy Spirit is leading us to do, this will bring us security
and the precious strength that can only come from our Saviour...
'the reason WHY we are doing what we are doing should be because we do truly believe
that we are in unity with God every moment...

This is just life, I wouldn't worry about it.

Many people don't even show up to events where they've paid for tickets.
Just do your get togethers, invite a few extra people to make up for the ones that won't show, and then call everyone a day or two ahead to get an idea of the actual attendance.
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