Wait... did John Calvin die on the cross? Is following Yeshua, Jesus, our Lord and Savior an Arminian thing? We were born beings with beautiful potential created by God with a purpose to become Children of His, all through His Son, all for His Glory.
I too struggle with finding harmony in the scriptures. I too see conflicting scriptures. I think the answer is found in Jesus alone, though, not in any man made doctrine. We need to adhere to the entirety of the scriptures and find, best we can, His balance and His order, His truth. Everything is about Him. It takes us going back to the drawing board over and over, which is Him, trusting He will reveal when He sees fit. Let's believe Him, in Him, not in a human person or persons who says this or that. Let's let our hearts burn as the Holy Spirit explains the scriptures to us, not when man does.