Demi read my mind.
If a guy I was seeing did those things and told me I was being jealous, I'd tell him, "Yup. And you know what? If the gander can do it, why can't the goose?" and, as Demi said, I would then proceed to "like" pictures of several guy friends and make comments about how good they looked ("Wow, dude, you must be working out! It shows!")
If the guy I was dating then proceeded to complain, I would want to know exactly why he would be allowed to do such things and why I would not be, and how far this extended (what else is he allowed to do that I am not?)
And if he still didn't understand or see things from my perspective, I wouldn't see any reason for us to be together (but that's just me.)
I hope everything out for you, Cate. Please keep us updated.