Do I just have bad luck w/ guys?

I have bad luck with men. I’m always meeting abusive and jealous men

I don't intend this to sound accusatory even though you may take it that way, but have you spent any time looking at yourself to determine
A: what about you attracts this type of man
B: what about you is attracted to this type of man

Men who are abusive don't tend to gravitate towards women who are secure in themselves and women who are secure in themselves don't tend to gravitate towards men who send out the warning signs of being abusive.

Sometime they hide their abuse under their charm so you don’t always see it. If you look good some men are intimidated so they made you feel as if you are ugly because they are insecure!So what you say about maybe I’m attracting these men is kind of a odd statement because you can’t always tell. And guest what? They all in church

Whether you choose to see it or not, the red flags are almost always there.

I hate to say it, if these men are within your church then there is something wrong within the culture of your church that allows these men to stay. If I were in any way abusive towards my wife and the elders in my church were to catch wind of it I would have the choice to change my ways or be removed from fellowship.

I didn’t stay. The moment I see the red flag I cut it off!! They can hide it for a while but if we pay close attention we will see it. But some of us blinded by their charm

Well then that's the area for you to start working on isn't it, how do you evaluate their character so that you can see past their charm and aren't blinded by it? A couple tips would be pay attention to how he treats waitresses, checkout ladies, and the women in his family; and also pay attention to how he reacts when what you want is different than what he wants.

Is there a face in your avatar? Because I think I just saw a face in your avatar

Sort of. Let's just say I downloaded one of the spacey themes for windows where one of the walpapers contained this image and I thought it looked like a face too. So it is now my space face (even if it looks more rabbit or other cartoon animal like than human).