There has already been so much great advice. To attack this from a biological angle, our body gives us ques at different times in our life. When women are younger, their bodies are releasing hormones for procreation. This instinctively draws them towards alpha male types, for bearing strong healthy children. When those chemicals slow down the response is a desire for companionship. Men are looking to spread their genes and make their “mark” at a younger age, then testosterone naturally dissipates and they become less sexually driven, less combative/argumentative and more relaxed. Since they aren’t trying so hard at getting you pregnant, subconsciously, conversations get more meaningful. At 40 most are financially established, and have the confidence (awarded from decades of mistakes) to take humour risks in conversation. My friend groups are histerical.