Hey Everyone,
A while back, I was having a discussion with some people about how many marriage proposal videos you can find on YouTube. I honestly felt bad that in some of them, the guys were actually turned down on camera.
When I was 18, my then-boyfriend proposed to me--to my horror--at a big family dinner in front of everyone. While I appreciated his willingness to declare his intentions in public, what I didn't appreciate was that when we had talked about getting engaged, I asked him to please make it something private just between the two of us. The last thing I wanted was a public show.
I didn't want a big spectacle and I didn't want people oogling over us--I'm not Kim Kardashian, for Pete's sake! Rather, I wanted something of that caliber to be just a very special moment between the other him and I.
I'm not quite sure why he decided to do it in the way that he did, but the fact that he seemed to override many of my other concerns within our relationships as well was a big reason as to why our relationship didn't work out.
And so, I've been thinking:
* Why do so many men seem to propose in public? Is it because they feel there is less of a chance of being rejected if an entire crowd is rooting for them? (I'm not trying to be sarcastic here; this is a genuine question.)
* In the age of social media and everyone trying to one-up each other, do men just assume that a big public spectacle is what women want? Or are women asking these men to make their proposals in public?
* Guys, do you plan on proposing to your potential wife in public if you have the opportunity? Why or why not?
* Ladies, do you want your future spouse to propose to you in public or in private, and why?
* Marrieds--was your proposal in public or in private? If you could do it all over again, would you choose differently, and why?
Now, I certainly have NOTHING against public proposals IF that's what both people want and how they feel they should approach it. But in an age of the social media circus, I can't help but shake my head that so many people seem to think that even the most private aspects of lives need to be presented as a show that is meant to impress other people.
What are your thoughts?
A while back, I was having a discussion with some people about how many marriage proposal videos you can find on YouTube. I honestly felt bad that in some of them, the guys were actually turned down on camera.
When I was 18, my then-boyfriend proposed to me--to my horror--at a big family dinner in front of everyone. While I appreciated his willingness to declare his intentions in public, what I didn't appreciate was that when we had talked about getting engaged, I asked him to please make it something private just between the two of us. The last thing I wanted was a public show.
I didn't want a big spectacle and I didn't want people oogling over us--I'm not Kim Kardashian, for Pete's sake! Rather, I wanted something of that caliber to be just a very special moment between the other him and I.
I'm not quite sure why he decided to do it in the way that he did, but the fact that he seemed to override many of my other concerns within our relationships as well was a big reason as to why our relationship didn't work out.
And so, I've been thinking:
* Why do so many men seem to propose in public? Is it because they feel there is less of a chance of being rejected if an entire crowd is rooting for them? (I'm not trying to be sarcastic here; this is a genuine question.)
* In the age of social media and everyone trying to one-up each other, do men just assume that a big public spectacle is what women want? Or are women asking these men to make their proposals in public?
* Guys, do you plan on proposing to your potential wife in public if you have the opportunity? Why or why not?
* Ladies, do you want your future spouse to propose to you in public or in private, and why?
* Marrieds--was your proposal in public or in private? If you could do it all over again, would you choose differently, and why?
Now, I certainly have NOTHING against public proposals IF that's what both people want and how they feel they should approach it. But in an age of the social media circus, I can't help but shake my head that so many people seem to think that even the most private aspects of lives need to be presented as a show that is meant to impress other people.
What are your thoughts?
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