Dating

I'll first state that I generally try to avoid posting dating advice or romantic advice on forums as it leaves me open to alot of negative criticism but I guess I want to come out in the open about some things because I kind of need help with this one.

I've never physically dated anyone in my life although I have had a few (bad) online romances.

Mainly, I am very reserved and somewhat shy in person - although I can talk to people I've never gotten close to anyone before (man or woman). For me it has always been awkward / weird to have someone so close to me yet at the same time I can't help but long for romance.

There's other things as well that hender me (or that I feel hender me).

-- The first thing is, I don't really know how to approach women without coming off creepy because I don't work or go to places regularly where there are alot of women so every interaction I have with them, I am literally making an effort to meet them which to me feels desperate or creepy and I don't want to upset or scare them so there will be times I will be out and about and someone catches my eye and I won't do anything, or if I do something, generally only small talk and move on.

-- The second thing is, there really aren't alot of SINGLE christian women out there. Everyone at the churches I've been to is either too old or too young or married and on the few occasions I see a potential, I still don't know how to come off about it.

-- The third thing is - Social activity, I normally don't talk alot. There are some people who can talk on and on without even thinking or concentrating but for me, I always have to put effort into keeping a conversation going otherwise by nature, I remain silent and I become self-conscious that if Im doing this, I may be putting TOO much effort into it hence possibly pushing someone away.

-- The fourth thing - Im very self conscious about my dental issues (all my teeth are missing and a large chunk of my lower jawbone is gone prohibiting me from wearing dentures. I need oral surgery and its going to cost over $100,000 of which insurance isn't paying for.) When I do speak, I feel like a living freak. I can't tell what the other person is thinking but I always feel that between me and someone who doesn't have my condition, they will likely choose that other person.

Any advice appreciated.

Tyrin, hey, long time no chat dude! Hey have you not sued that dentist yet?

Sorry, no advice to give. I'm still single myself and have never really bothered looking. I just wanted to pop in and say hi.

I'm not sure that the bible covers dating at all, let alone dating outside Christianity. It does advise you to not be unequally yoked but even then it is possible that the relationship will work out. Personally, I would rather date a sweet, kind considerate woman who may not be a Christian than a mean-spirited women that openly professes that she is.

I sincerely hope that God opens a way to get your jaw repaired and teeth implanted despite the high cost. I will remember you in my prayers.

I think you are wise to consider character over a professed belief that may fall short of the truth. Talking the talk and walking the walk are often two different things altogether.

Based on your posts over the past year I believe that you have a lot going for you despite the hard circumstances of your teeth and jaw. I believe that you are a brave man as well for not just simply giving up.

Strange miracles have happened.... like a woman giving birth without a womb..... a man getting both testicles back after he was born with one and doctor destroyed the second... I do believe and i know His dental miracle will be a reality... conviction feels too strong to be a lie

In general conscience the bible prohibits dating outside of christianity, am I wrong? I will admit there are very attractive ladies who I see at work (in the building in general, they dont work in my department) who I just cannot help but desire to talk to but I also can't help but tell myself, I highly doubt they're christian - and I'm not sure if I should still go for one or not.. Some of me also becomes concerned that I'm looking so blatantly at the belief systems rather than the character of the individual because what if a non-christian woman would be better to me than a christian one... I state as - I've met some pretty selfish christian women in my life. I'm not saying they're all like that.. but I guess sometimes I feel like I'm overlooking values just basing them off christian or not christian.. ..maybe its tempting because I havent dated and I long for this but ... I know what a broken heart feels like at the same time and definitely don't want another one... so I'm not really sure.



Hey Lynx, it has been some time. I dont know if I told you or not but I took a new higher paying job and moved away from home to Austin TX. Austin is awesome but admittedly it doesn't feel as Christian is Georgia did but I guess that is to be expected.

I attempted to sue the dentist but the Lawyer threw the case away because it was going to be too difficult to win - in short he partially blames me for going to the dentist rather than going to an oral surgeon to begin with (I chose the dentist because I thought he could do the work and didn't know the impacted teeth were going to be a problem for him and he never advised me otherwise, he just pulled them.) ...So in short Im sitting here practically awaiting a miracle which... may happen...I've been working on other things outside of work to help with that but every step of the way with it has been nothing but pain - everything that could go wrong with it, has.

Right now Im barely getting by and am still studying CCNA / UNIX although I've gotten alot further with both. CCNA I'm about 80% of the way through. Unix not so much but I intend on giving it full concentration after finally getting my CCNA.

When and where did these miracles happen?

Over here... they came to give testimony... with proof

I have never heard of people growing back a womb or testicles, but

I thought it was a miracle when I read an article, that Doctors could now use penises from organ donars, to replace the ones that were lost to soldiers in combat. I know God makes physicians who perform miracles everyday.

Or, the miracle is God made these physicians.

I'll first state that I generally try to avoid posting dating advice or romantic advice on forums as it leaves me open to alot of negative criticism but I guess I want to come out in the open about some things because I kind of need help with this one.

I've never physically dated anyone in my life although I have had a few (bad) online romances.

Mainly, I am very reserved and somewhat shy in person - although I can talk to people I've never gotten close to anyone before (man or woman). For me it has always been awkward / weird to have someone so close to me yet at the same time I can't help but long for romance.

There's other things as well that hender me (or that I feel hender me).

-- The first thing is, I don't really know how to approach women without coming off creepy because I don't work or go to places regularly where there are alot of women so every interaction I have with them, I am literally making an effort to meet them which to me feels desperate or creepy and I don't want to upset or scare them so there will be times I will be out and about and someone catches my eye and I won't do anything, or if I do something, generally only small talk and move on.

-- The second thing is, there really aren't alot of SINGLE christian women out there. Everyone at the churches I've been to is either too old or too young or married and on the few occasions I see a potential, I still don't know how to come off about it.

-- The third thing is - Social activity, I normally don't talk alot. There are some people who can talk on and on without even thinking or concentrating but for me, I always have to put effort into keeping a conversation going otherwise by nature, I remain silent and I become self-conscious that if Im doing this, I may be putting TOO much effort into it hence possibly pushing someone away.

-- The fourth thing - Im very self conscious about my dental issues (all my teeth are missing and a large chunk of my lower jawbone is gone prohibiting me from wearing dentures. I need oral surgery and its going to cost over $100,000 of which insurance isn't paying for.) When I do speak, I feel like a living freak. I can't tell what the other person is thinking but I always feel that between me and someone who doesn't have my condition, they will likely choose that other person.

Any advice appreciated.

As one who has never bothered looking, I have to ask... why do you want to find her? What's so bad about being single? It's not something broken that needs to be fixed, no matter what matchmakers say.