Amen to that sister... it's a really big problem in our forums here. The only thing I know to do is to be more aggressive about banning people for unfriendly posts, personal attacks, etc. The thing is it's not always all that straightforward... both parties attacking each other and it goes back to previous posts/threads....
Hey Boss Brother, I can imagine it would be frustrating on your end. I understand you want it to be an open forum, with minimal censorship, where folks are free to speak their minds, but also you want to maintain the integrity of your site and of your Faith.
Here is a suggestion, but just that, merely an idea...I suggest that other members speak up more, calling them out, with respect of course, or perhaps, you could address us all in a thread or email like you do for with you donation emails. Might I suggest, you address the topic as more of a question or concern, asking how others think it should be handled. Let everyone know, banning members for questionable behavior is a tricky bridge traveled, that it is definitely is not your preferred method of dealing with the sometimes quite unkind and harsh dialogue here. I think it is a great question to ask, not only to perhaps find solution, but to also find out how other members who witness it are responding to the negative exchanges going on here. I don't know but I can imagine it presents quite a challenge. I do want to say...I find many threads pleasing to read and engage in. Overall, your site is a blessing to me and my walk with Christ. Thank you Robo, sincerely. God Bless you and yours, boss brother (I hope that the way I address you isn't offensive).