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zeroturbulence

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thatfizzyguy said:
Yeah I know shocking zero turbulence but, well you never know in life what will happen next I mean no other women were interested in me and I in her so that's just the way things go.
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I wasn't shocked that u were in a relationship... I was shocked that you were PMing with a bunch of women.
 
blue_ladybug

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thatfizzyguy said:
I would but, well I like it either way while it lasts.
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You haven't even met her!! Saying "I love you" is meaningless unless it's sincere and you tell it to someone who you know intimately and personally. You're setting yourself up for a biiiiggg fall..
 
melita916

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I'm not against meeting someone online. heck, I met my husband online via email. our friendship progressed as we got to know each other. we went from email, to texting, to talking on the phone. but we were just friends. we met in person 5 months after the initial contact. we didn't video chat. I guess because we were just friends. it wasn't until AFTER we met in person that we decided to take it up a level.

I'm sure many people have a similar story (as in meeting online). but we need to keep our emotions in check as well. our hearts our precious to the Lord. He has given us a spirit of power, love, AND sound mind.
 
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While single and living in Florida I had a woman scam me out of $1000. She gave me some hard luck story about how the door of her oven had just fallen off unto the floor and that her car had a flat tire. After I sent a check to her she writes me back and says that she just bought a plane ticket to Colorado to see some guy she was conversing with. She ended up marrying the guy. I ended up marrying her sister. A few years later I was talking to her husband and asked how he was being treated. He said his wife treats him like a dog. Yeah, I'm thinking that this guy is blaming me for marrying this lady.
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What? Lol
 
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thatfizzyguy

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zeroturbulence said:
I wasn't shocked that u were in a relationship... I was shocked that you were PMing with a bunch of women.
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Now I'm equally shocked that you are shocked I have pmed some women here on Christian chat you know and not for a relationship we are just good friends.
But now the whole no more private messages idea was her idea on just one site but, I decided to make it for all sites I'm apart of for her because I wanted to be thorough in being honest.
 
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seoulsearch said:
If I ever went back to pursue the field of psychology, I think there should be a specialized division for those who catfish and even more so for those who choose to fall for it, despite being heavily warned.

During the time of my membership here on CC, I usually have a current group of people whom I talk to regularly and we have often tried to warn people when they fall in love with someone who sounds suspicious. I always ask others what they think and have observed in the threads because I don't want to judge a situation prematurely or unfairly, but when it's several people noticing a number of discrepancies, most of us would usually try to warn the person in some way. I've lost count of how many people my CC friends have tried to warn over the years.

But not a single person listened. Every single one would say something like, "No, this person is real... they just have (such and such excuse, problem, story... multiplied about 1,000 time over)," even when the warning signs were glaringly obvious. They would say that other people were just jealous and trying to ruin their happiness. In other words... They put blinders over their eyes, plugs in their ears, and shouted over everyone else until they convinced themselves that what they chose to believe in their own mind was real. They would say that we couldn't prove that this person wasn't who they said they were...

But the problem is, they couldn't prove that this person actually WAS the person they said they were either. I don't know of a single person who actually went through and got to meet their suspected catfish, even though they tried repeatedly, let alone worked out a relationship with them. Rather, they would all come back with a shattered heart and then want everyone to listen to them indefinitely about how much they had been hurt, even though people had tried to warn them the entire time.

I know I should have given up trying to warn people long ago. No one ever believes.

But when you see good people here with big, loving hearts... It's hard to sit back and watch them being taken for a ride.

I hope you are the exception, Joe. I really do. Come back and tell me I was wrong if I am, please.

But please, I am genuinely asking you as a sister in Christ--listen carefully to what the people in your own thread are trying to tell you.
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You know what I like about you seoulsearch? You're wise and kind. I always appreciate your input and posts. :)
 
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I've read some good advice in this thread, and it's such a blessing that there are people with such wisdom on CC to guide others.

OP what is going on with you, that after talking with a strange woman, for four days, who you've never seen in person, you're in love?? This is amazing!

CC is not a dating site so why did you ban friends from contacting you?
 
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blue_ladybug said:
You haven't even met her!! Saying "I love you" is meaningless unless it's sincere and you tell it to someone who you know intimately and personally. You're setting yourself up for a biiiiggg fall..
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Well you have been right before though this time I just can't shake a feeling of truth because of all things as ridiculous as it may sound she talked to me and was for some reason so certain that God wanted me to be with her there were two similar women but, only she was actually not outright phony(black woman sent me wall text after wall text saying she wanted me and that if I didn't want her to just type "thank you" very weird) and not outright click bait(other white woman had coconuts over you know what only and though I liked talking with her in a friendly manner we really didn't have similar interests and she asked me to tell her about myself but, I couldn't take her seriously she was just so vague and when she started talking about krypto currency I was getting so bored) this time I believe I am thoroughly thinking things through and doing my homework on if she is genuine or not and everything she has talked to me about is plausible that's still a really good chance that she's not putting on to scam me.
Once again yeah there is the possible set up for a fall but, from my view point there is more chance of genuine relations than a fall and it's not a mere 70% chance by analyzing the percent would be 90% there is one last "test" and if she flunks it then I'll have reason for doubt and that basically is she "really after my money instead of me" or "using me in some way" and I'll find that out soon and not only that but naturally is she really who she says she is.
 
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Joefizz i honor you and applaud you for putting it on the Family Forum your intentions are clearly seen here. And from now on, no more pms for you till you say so. A very lonely inbox that will be :(
 
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And see you on the other side Active Member ;);)
 
melita916

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Joe, since I suggested video chat, I must follow up lol. Have you 2 set up a day/time to video chat?
 
EmilyFoster

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God’s richest blessings, wisdom and guidance to you, friend.
 
zeroturbulence

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thatfizzyguy said:
Now I'm equally shocked that you are shocked I have pmed some women here on Christian chat you know and not for a relationship we are just good friends.
But now the whole no more private messages idea was her idea on just one site but, I decided to make it for all sites I'm apart of for her because I wanted to be thorough in being honest.
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I'm not saying there's anything wrong with PMing with a bunch of women... I was just shocked because I always thought you were the shy type. :sneaky: I am the shy type and I PM with no one... once in awhile a woman PMs me but only because they need to ask me something... Sometimes they just want to know if I'm ok because I prolly posted something that made it sound like I wasn't.. :whistle:
 
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thatfizzyguy

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Kim82 said:
I've read some good advice in this thread, and it's such a blessing that there are people with such wisdom on CC to guide others.

OP what is going on with you, that after talking with a strange woman, for four days, who you've never seen in person, you're in love?? This is amazing!

CC is not a dating site so why did you ban friends from contacting you?
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I didn't ban them lol I just asked respectfully for women not to pm me it doesn't mean I won't still talk to them here in the "forums" you know like the thread we are all talking in right now.
 
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