remarriage after divorce.

By strict NT scripture standards -
1: you can only divorce your wife on the grounds of adultery, nothing else.
2: if she left you to consumate with another person then I believe you are free - your vows of fidelity have been broken,
and made null and void.
3: if none of the above has happened then you are not free to remarry, as in the eyes of God this is adultery.
4: if reconciliation is not possible and both of you remain chaste then so be it ...

Marriage is written of by Paul in 1Corinthians 7 and also Jesus teaches us about marriage and adultery

31 It was also said, Whoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a bill of divorce.
32 But I say to you that whoever shall put away his wife, except for the cause of fornication, causes her to commit adultery.
And whoever shall marry her who is put away commits adultery.
Matthew 5:

I didn't divorce her we lived in a no fault divorce law state, it only takes a petition for divorce by one party uncontestable by law for divorce. She had remarried 25 years ago. do you think that kets me off the hook?

This, perhaps more than many other issues, needs consideration of the specific context. Every situation is different. Throwing big, ugly words like "adultery" around is easy, but often masks compounding issues... and responsibility.

I would offer only this: take your own case up with the Lord. Ask Him to speak to you about it, and to give you clear insight and guidance. If someone rejects your conclusion, fine; they aren't answering for it.

Dino246 has the right approach. Be prayful and ask the Lord to govern your future.
If she remarried then she has broken her vows to you on monogamy and faithfulness.
What is your part in all this?
Examine yourself and be prayerful … seek a wife from the Lord, and not by your own efforts in the flesh.

Do you believe in three times lucky?

but many churches have taken this out of context and made it a strict doctrine.

Not so.
The scriptures are clear on marriage from the gospels to the epistles.
Don't muddy the waters by appealing to our sinful flesh as an excuse to circumvent the standards set by God on proper
and righteous living.
I have been a widower for some 22 years and certainly do not feel trapped or cheated or denied in any way.
Several times I have desired to remarry women in my church but on every occasion the Lord has strongly grieved me
not to do so. Subsequently all these women have left our Fellowship for various reasons and disappeared into the world.
Trust in the Lord with all thine heart … He knows what is best for us.

Not so.
The scriptures are clear on marriage from the gospels to the epistles.
Don't muddy the waters by appealing to our sinful flesh as an excuse to circumvent the standards set by God on proper
and righteous living.
I have been a widower for some 22 years and certainly do not feel trapped or cheated or denied in any way.
Several times I have desired to remarry women in my church but on every occasion the Lord has strongly grieved me
not to do so. Subsequently all these women have left our Fellowship for various reasons and disappeared into the world.
Trust in the Lord with all thine heart … He knows what is best for us.

the check mark is my amen button. Thanks for responding. I think some women believe a man gets over a broken heart as easily as a fender bender. We know that isn't true.

the check mark is my amen button. Thanks for responding. I think some women believe a man gets over a broken heart as easily as a fender bender. We know that isn't true.

The reason I bring it up is not for my own sake. I believe when the lord was speaking to the pharisies about it he was teaching how hypocritical their adherance to the law was but many churches have taken this out of context and made it a strict doctrine. And many folks like me feel trapped for life by it. This makes us more hesitant to commit again after making a stupid mistake. Some of the people on the singles forum won't admit that they too have made a mistake also and suffer lonliness and broken hearts because of it. I wanted to start a dialog that adresses these issues.

In our current state of moral decay this level of morality is rare but so is virginity, celebasy, honor to our vows and honesty now days. Plus some of the the women don't realize that men get burned too. Were not all violent drunken bums. Many of us love our wives and children to little avail in this modern world. Thanks for your input. I took 3 hours for someone to respond to this heart breaking subject and no women so far.

This is a good start. You are correct many women don't know. Yes because of their own experiences and honestly not to many men open up. ( tough guy syndrome, they think they are weak if they show emotions). And yes I've known many women including myself for a time that thought men should be mind readers or at the very least catch on to the dropped hints. Both sexes seem to have strange expectations from their partner. And many expect their partner to make them happy. One fault I can honestly say, I did not make. I knew early in life I controlled my happiness. No one else. But I did have false expectations of what a marriage should be. And most were worldly. I am always transparent and always will be. I have no problems admitting my faults. That's why I took time to explore and correct them.

And you are correct sin in todays world sin is no longer sin, but the norm. It is very difficult for me to find a man suitable to date. The men I have come across want sex before marriage, and I have heard from men too, they have came across so called Christian women doing the same. For me that is the one sin that sins against myself as it states in the bible. In my early 20s I did not believe that nor ever heard that. Yes I fornicate before marriage. And yes that was a warning sign to my ex I ignored. He did not force me. I did not know the Lord well and did not guard my heart. I will not make the same mistake and have learned from my sin at a great price. But learning and going through that, broke my heart deeply. And it brought a great blessing. From the ashes I found the Lord on a level I never had. Better yet he came to me in that broken place. Because I was broken I was willing to learn, grow, and heal. I'm still not perfect, I never will be till the Lord calls me home and I am no longer flesh. But while I am still flesh, I continue to learn, grow, and sacrifice the flesh. Becoming more and more like Christ each day.
My friend if you want a strong sometimes stubborn woman's take on life, I am always open and honest. I don't hide behind my faults. If I never messed up I would have never learned or grown in my walk with the Lord. After all is it not a relationship with us that the Lord seeks.

I'm divorced, twice. 1st was a non christian so there's no guilt left but the 2nd time claimed to be a christian at the time. I've always believed I can never remary or it would bring the sin of adultery upon both our heads. I have lived my whole life since believing their would never be another for me and quit looking decades ago. Is this wrong?