How to date introverted Christian men?

Be patient. Be faithful. Introverted Christian men are looking for the diamond on the street. Good women are more rare than diamonds. Do not jump to the thought that they may be uninterested. Introverted Christian men court on the inside first.

To the contrary, I invited him out, thanks to the encouragement and prayers from many of you here! The good news is that he accepted it and we met this afternoon. The bad news is that it didn't work out well - nothing to do with him being an introvert but that he has no passion for following or serving God. It's pretty sad to find out this, but in the end it's good to know that he is not the right person for me. Despite being raised up in a traditional Christian family, he stopped attending Sunday Service since last year and is venturing into the non-Christian world, which I could clearly tell from our conversation.

It has been nearly a week since I started this thread, and I'm amazed by how much all of your advice and encouragement have changed me - from a woman who firmly believes in waiting for the right man - to warmly inviting my interested one out. Yes, my first date was a failure today, but I gained new insights and will reach out to more men. I THANK EACH OF YOU FOR SHARING YOUR WISDOM WITH ME! And my blessings to you all - whether you are still looking for the right one, or in a relationship. God has the best in store for us.

Being on the introverted side of things myself and as a male i would advise it is near impossible for a woman who is interested in an introvert to force the issue along.. Taking the classical mans role and asking a introvert out will just end in the guy running...

The only way a woman can have a chance with an introvert... and it is not much of a chance... Is to make themselves as less threatening towards the introvert as they can.. Also if a woman is to show interest in an introvert she should do so by looking at him and trying to establish eye contact and in that moment make it clear that she finds him appealing.. But only do so for a very short time period like 1 or two seconds.. Then look away and give him time to de-stress and take on board the information, maybe half an hour .. Then try it again.. Seek to establish eye contact with the introvert and when contact is established give him that look again with a smile.. You should probably act kind of shy also.. Making yourself seem even less dangerous or threatening or confronting as you can..

Introverts find the process of establishing new human friends a very stressful high pressure experience.. Establishing a romantic relationship is is 10 times more stressful then establishing a friend..

Also the statements from some saying that if the introverted guy is ""really interested"" in you enough then he will suddenly change into an extrovert for you is just wrong.. There are a lot of introverts who find themselves deeply in love with a woman and will admire her from afar for years and he never ever approach her.. Sad but true..

I would not say that your first date was a failure as you gained experience and learned something about someone that you didn't know before. It is always an adventure to venture out into the unknown. That takes courage. Very admirable.

Be patient. Be faithful. Introverted Christian men are looking for the diamond on the street. Good women are more rare than diamonds. Do not jump to the thought that they may be uninterested. Introverted Christian men court on the inside first.

Well you are not as introverted as some other people are.. If you where then you would understand..

Well, that man appeared so cool when we met that I thought he had no interest in me. But then I recalled what you said. So how can I tell whether he is interested in meeting again or not? Should I just wait?

Excuse me, but I won't get into a "who has it worst debate with you."

But just to say, you would be amazed by the things that introverted people are accomplishing everyday.

Everyday when I wake up I can either, hide under my bed and never leave the house or I can step out in faith that God will be with me and help me.

I especially took note of your last sentence as it was true in my case.

The only way a woman can have a chance with an introvert is the same for having a chance with any type of personality, and that is to just be yourself, and to show a genuine interest.

I believe also that it is 10 times more exciting to establish a romantic relationship that just a friendship and not 10 times more stressful. A better word for a woman appearing to be 'dangerous' is alluring and 'threatening' is desire.

Admiring a woman from afar for years is not going cut it. A major obstacle to establishing a romantic relationship is to not have the fear of rejection or commitment. Why wait for years on the sidelines pondering whether or not you have a chance? Get in the game and seize the opportunity if one should present itself. Another thing, don't wait years to ask a woman to marry you and then take years to actually get married. Time is a precious commodity. If you love a woman and feel she would make a good wife ask her to marry you and then get married. This whole process should take weeks and months but not months and years.

I am an introvert also and know from a lifetime of experience that being meek and timid in the game of love does not work and only leads to frustration and heartbreak.

I am an introverted man myself. Introverted men can also tend to be introspective so they're good at knowing emotions and other people before those people even know them well enough. An introverted man will understand a women very well and the emotional bond will be very intense and romantic. But because of the introverted guys shyness it could cause them to neglect romantic gestures at times and lack dominance. Which probably won't be so fulfilling to the women that expects dominance out of her man.

...bro if you can't even work your brain to find a way that's comfortable for you, to let a woman know you like her, then the fact is, you don't really want her or want a life with her, you are only an admirer. And really what good is that?

Deathly afraid? zeroturbulence I happen to be an introvert and I am not "deathly afraid" of rejection. Actually apathy is the main reason I'm still single. I just never have gotten around to finding a woman.

Deathly afraid? Really? I'm not even deathly afraid of spiders, though I will either hurt a snake or hurt myself trying to get away from a snake.