The mess cheating makes.

Hi all im prity new here and still felling out the waters but ill give this a shot.

The first girlfriend that i had was from high school, she had come from a Christian home, was a beliver herself and regularly attended church. We were together for about 4 years in total but towards the end when we had left school she was starting to give into her lust but i turned down her advances as wa had both agreed that we were waiting for marriage. But she went of to uni and regularly cheated on me but kept me in the dark.
When i found out 6 months down the line it destroyed me.

Years later i was asked out by a fellow youth group leaderthat i had known for a few years, so i decided to give love another go, she new my past and assured me that she would never do anything like that.
She told me what i wanted to hear and i lowered my walls. And about a year in she cheated in me aswell.

In both relationships we both wanted to wait till marriage as we both saw how special sex is ment to be, and when i say the cheated they both had sex.
Naturally this devastated me.
Especially as i am that loyal that i genuinely dont understand how people cheat

One of my deepest desires is to have someone that i can wholeheartedly trust. But i am terrified of this happening again as i strugle with emotional pain.

This next statement might sound exaggerated but i assure u its not.

I broke every vertebrae in my back along with dislokating my shoulder and breaking my colour bone in a motorbike crash (its ok i can walk)
My shoulder was relocated at the scene with no painkillers.

Id rather do that again than get cheated on again.

My worrie is that i know that i will have trust issues and she wont desurve it.

But i really want to find a wife that i can trust, so so much.
I just dont know if i can

And of course I have put many hours of prayer into this ots just hard.

I’m sorry your heart was invested in these women who used you and gave into their passions. Although heartbroken you walk away a champion in Gods eyes. These women less so, but may God deal with them. You held onto a real value that we are commanded to do and these women broke that and you were sinned against. Know deeply that even though you were hurt none of this is your fault. This is how Satan tries to divide and conquer this world, by attacking Christians and even leaders in the church can go down a dark party.

Forgiveness is key here for these women. It’s a choice, not a feeling. God forgives those if they repent of their sin, but their sin is not your problem anymore.

That being said, this is a testing time for you. Hang on to God with all of your heart. Humans will hurt you, even when they claim to be for Christ, but He will never cheat you or turn away from you.

Sexual sin is the biggest battle to our souls especially as young adults! Believe me, there are so many women who will wait with you. Walk away from the ones who won’t.

Sending love and prayers your way!

I’m sorry your heart was invested in these women who used you and gave into their passions. Although heartbroken you walk away a champion in Gods eyes. These women less so, but may God deal with them. You held onto a real value that we are commanded to do and these women broke that and you were sinned against. Know deeply that even though you were hurt none of this is your fault. This is how Satan tries to divide and conquer this world, by attacking Christians and even leaders in the church can go down a dark party.

Forgiveness is key here for these women. It’s a choice, not a feeling. God forgives those if they repent of their sin, but their sin is not your problem anymore.

That being said, this is a testing time for you. Hang on to God with all of your heart. Humans will hurt you, even when they claim to be for Christ, but He will never cheat you or turn away from you.

Sexual sin is the biggest battle to our souls especially as young adults! Believe me, there are so many women who will wait with you. Walk away from the ones who won’t.

Sending love and prayers your way!

Hi all im prity new here and still felling out the waters but ill give this a shot.

The first girlfriend that i had was from high school, she had come from a Christian home, was a beliver herself and regularly attended church. We were together for about 4 years in total but towards the end when we had left school she was starting to give into her lust but i turned down her advances as wa had both agreed that we were waiting for marriage. But she went of to uni and regularly cheated on me but kept me in the dark.
When i found out 6 months down the line it destroyed me.

Years later i was asked out by a fellow youth group leaderthat i had known for a few years, so i decided to give love another go, she new my past and assured me that she would never do anything like that.
She told me what i wanted to hear and i lowered my walls. And about a year in she cheated in me aswell.

In both relationships we both wanted to wait till marriage as we both saw how special sex is ment to be, and when i say the cheated they both had sex.
Naturally this devastated me.
Especially as i am that loyal that i genuinely dont understand how people cheat

One of my deepest desires is to have someone that i can wholeheartedly trust. But i am terrified of this happening again as i strugle with emotional pain.

This next statement might sound exaggerated but i assure u its not.

I broke every vertebrae in my back along with dislokating my shoulder and breaking my colour bone in a motorbike crash (its ok i can walk)
My shoulder was relocated at the scene with no painkillers.

Id rather do that again than get cheated on again.

My worrie is that i know that i will have trust issues and she wont desurve it.

But i really want to find a wife that i can trust, so so much.
I just dont know if i can

And of course I have put many hours of prayer into this ots just hard.

Thank you, you are a amazing person.

C.S. Lewis wrote "To be a Christian means to forgive the inexcusable because God has forgiven the inexcusable in you."

I have forgiven these two because Jesus has already paid the price for thier sin so who am i to hold somthing against them that has allready been rectified, i now need to not let the devil twist this fear into my heart.

And again, Thankyou, i ment alot yeading this when i woke up thismorning.

I would like you to know that your words were better than my pastor's

Hi all im prity new here and still felling out the waters but ill give this a shot.

The first girlfriend that i had was from high school, she had come from a Christian home, was a beliver herself and regularly attended church. We were together for about 4 years in total but towards the end when we had left school she was starting to give into her lust but i turned down her advances as wa had both agreed that we were waiting for marriage. But she went of to uni and regularly cheated on me but kept me in the dark.
When i found out 6 months down the line it destroyed me.

Years later i was asked out by a fellow youth group leaderthat i had known for a few years, so i decided to give love another go, she new my past and assured me that she would never do anything like that.
She told me what i wanted to hear and i lowered my walls. And about a year in she cheated in me aswell.

In both relationships we both wanted to wait till marriage as we both saw how special sex is ment to be, and when i say the cheated they both had sex.
Naturally this devastated me.
Especially as i am that loyal that i genuinely dont understand how people cheat

One of my deepest desires is to have someone that i can wholeheartedly trust. But i am terrified of this happening again as i strugle with emotional pain.

This next statement might sound exaggerated but i assure u its not.

I broke every vertebrae in my back along with dislokating my shoulder and breaking my colour bone in a motorbike crash (its ok i can walk)
My shoulder was relocated at the scene with no painkillers.

Id rather do that again than get cheated on again.

My worrie is that i know that i will have trust issues and she wont desurve it.

But i really want to find a wife that i can trust, so so much.
I just dont know if i can

And of course I have put many hours of prayer into this ots just hard.

Hi all im prity new here and still felling out the waters but ill give this a shot.

The first girlfriend that i had was from high school, she had come from a Christian home, was a beliver herself and regularly attended church. We were together for about 4 years in total but towards the end when we had left school she was starting to give into her lust but i turned down her advances as wa had both agreed that we were waiting for marriage. But she went of to uni and regularly cheated on me but kept me in the dark.
When i found out 6 months down the line it destroyed me.

Years later i was asked out by a fellow youth group leaderthat i had known for a few years, so i decided to give love another go, she new my past and assured me that she would never do anything like that.
She told me what i wanted to hear and i lowered my walls. And about a year in she cheated in me aswell.

In both relationships we both wanted to wait till marriage as we both saw how special sex is ment to be, and when i say the cheated they both had sex.
Naturally this devastated me.
Especially as i am that loyal that i genuinely dont understand how people cheat

One of my deepest desires is to have someone that i can wholeheartedly trust. But i am terrified of this happening again as i strugle with emotional pain.

This next statement might sound exaggerated but i assure u its not.

I broke every vertebrae in my back along with dislokating my shoulder and breaking my colour bone in a motorbike crash (its ok i can walk)
My shoulder was relocated at the scene with no painkillers.

Id rather do that again than get cheated on again.

My worrie is that i know that i will have trust issues and she wont desurve it.

But i really want to find a wife that i can trust, so so much.
I just dont know if i can

And of course I have put many hours of prayer into this ots just hard.