How to date introverted Christian men?

True, this is. A lot of people, men and women, really like to hurt prospective suitors with snide comments in the rejection because it scores social points with their friends. It causes a lot more damage than it is worth.

Sometimes when rejected I try to find a meaning. A reason. Mostly I aim at myself, but when talking to friends I might say "he was not worth it" or "I am better off ". I think it is a defense mechanism.

Sometimes things are interpreted wrongly. Like I said to a man that stood me up. "I wish I could hate you for this, but I like you too much". He only heard the word hate, and blocked me.

Sometimes you actually hear what you expect to hear although it isn't said. It is like you want the other person to be mean to you.

Sometimes when rejected I try to find a meaning. A reason. Mostly I aim at myself, but when talking to friends I might say "he was not worth it" or "I am better off ". I think it is a defense mechanism.

Sometimes things are interpreted wrongly. Like I said to a man that stood me up. "I wish I could hate you for this, but I like you too much". He only heard the word hate, and blocked me.

Sometimes you actually hear what you expect to hear although it isn't said. It is like you want the other person to be mean to you.

I used to be somewhat introverted. I think that the women that aren't interested when approached, should consider how they reject the advance. If the woman is snide and hurtful that makes the man more introverted.

Soon a man fears being bombasted like that and becomes more introverted. Not just fear of rejection but of ugly rejection.

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Deade, as a woman, I fear rejection too. But silent treatment is much more hurtful than a "No". So no matter how I think or feel about the other person, I do my best to express my thoughts truthfully from the beginning. And I expect the same from men.

A simple no can be the most heartbreaking.

A wrapped in no with fake compassion is hurtful, but in one way revealing of the fake person that person is. It still hurts but l, seeing this before from the most likeable guy speaking the most beautiful words wrapping in the most insulting message.... really pisses me off.

An honest, rude no is the best. No wrapping in. No "no" being hanging unexplained. It us better to be told "I don't find you the slightest attractive". Or " I couldn't possibly date you, because your disability freaks me out". They are horrible statements. But the are honest. They hurt. But they also explain give a closure.

To conclude: give me rudeness and get lost!

I was a very rude in that post... I am could never say a thing like that in real life. I am sorry.

What I did try to convey is that i prefer honest people to fake ones.

I was a very rude in that post... I am could never say a thing like that in real life. I am sorry.

What I did try to convey is that i prefer honest people to fake ones.

I agree! Some years ago, a friend told a girl he liked her. Her answer was: I think we should wait on the Lord (or something like that).

So it was not a no. It was not a yes. 2 weeks later, home girl was in a new relationship with some other dude. My friend was devastated. She should have just said she was not interested instead of giving him a christianeze answer. (IMHO)

What if she says no and then starts scoffing?

I love how you take one person's experience and suddenly assume it's a reflection of how everything is.
Did it once occur to you that maybe, just maybe, that's blowing things out of proportion?

And this woman doesn't even know if this guy, or any she's liked, felt the same way about her and maybe That's why they did nothing?

Or, in my experience, many women today push things fast. I'm not one to rush things with a woman, and they usually speak up much sooner. At times way too soon. Perhaps some women need to slow down? I'm guessing you didn't consider that either huh?

Do you, as a woman, feel you can speak as an authority on men? Their reasons? Motives? That you can lay judgment on men everywhere from one person's incomplete story? Or are you just spewing crap?

Truth is you don't have the first clue why these men didn't act, but it didn't stop you from trashing them did it? Or men in general for that matter.

So much judging, unfounded assumption and pure ignorance in your post its genuinely sad. It does not serve you well.

I don't quite see where this thread is heading, but I like your avatar Seoulsearch.